Has anyone tried Infant Toilet Training?

Jessica - posted on 09/02/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 13months and today I read an article about Infant toilet training. What I took from it was that waiting until your child is 'ready' could mean waiting forever to toilet train your baby and that it is possible to to have them fully trained before the age of two. It explained that we teach our children to crawl, walk, ride a bike, eat vegetables and use their manners so why should toilet training be any different. We as parents wouldnt wait until our child was 'ready' to eat vegetables.

All in all I just want to know if anyone has tried this and were you sucessful? Do you recommend it? Any hints and tips would be great to.

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Kelly - posted on 09/05/2009

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I just talked with a mom about this. I think it's more common in Europe, so not many Am's that do it. She said she got a special potty chair from "home", but she also started when her daughter was 6 mos. She did say it was very labor intensive and you have to be willing to dedicate a lot of time, and time as in weeks or months of basically just staying at home. She also said that it is more like an "unconcious" teaching of bladder control (where as a 2 yo has the more conciousness of bladder/bowel, a baby does not) but then you don't battle the will, or toilet fears, and because it's a different type of training, you're not "forcing them". I found it interesting, anyway. She said her dd was trained by 12mos. She said she started by having set times (wake up, before/after meals, before naps, etc) where she would set her on the potty, and eventually she just started holding it til she got there.

Go for it, though I think it may be a little different for you since your dd is older. Don't expect immediate success. Expect lots of accidents. I would consider it more of getting her used to sitting on the potty, a "fun" think, like mama does, than hard core training like you would do with a 2 or 3 yo. Would love to hear how it goes for you.

Tanya - posted on 09/03/2009

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WELL FOR ME, WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS 16 MONTHS I TOOK HER DIAPER OFF FOR 3 DAYS- SHE PEED ON THE FLOOR A FEW TIMES AND I WOULD BRING HER TO HER POTTY. THE 4TH DAY SHE WAS USING HER POTTY BY HERSELF. I GUESS SHE NEEDED TO SEE HERSELF PEEING AND FIGURED IT OUT. SHE'S BEEN FULLY POTTY TRAINED DAY AND NIGHT AT 18 MONTHS. I THINK IF THEY HAVE A DIAPER ON- THEY'LL USE IT. NO DIAPER SEEMS TO WORK EXTREMELY WELL FOR US.

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Minnie - posted on 09/06/2009

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Natural infant hygiene, or elimination communication, is how mothers have cared for their infant's elimination needs for as long as humans have existed. Infants DO have control over their bladders and bowels from birth, their brains ARE fully developed enough to know when they need to relieve themselves, and they DO tell you when they need to go.



But when we stick babies in diapers from day one and ignore their cues and signals that they do need to go, they end up losing that awareness of their bodies and stop signaling that they need to go. And then we end up with toddlers in diapers who need to relearn everything all over again.



It's a complete myth that babies have no control or awareness of their bodies. A myth perpetuated by western culture. Because the world over, more mothers than not care for their infants using natural infant hygiene.



It is by no means potty training, which involves coercion and forcing, but progresses into natural potty independence, and at a much earlier age.



Believe it or not, most of the world sees people who put their infants in diapers as pretty barbaric, to leave the waste sitting there next to baby's skin. Pretty unhygienic if you ask me.

Sasha - posted on 09/05/2009

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I dont recomend it, i tried it and I was not successful because their brains are not fully developed into knowing when they have to go to the bathroom. they cant tell you that they have to go so y train then ur just going to have to clean up a bigger mess. I started up again a few months ago when my daughter would let me know she needed a diaper change or that her brother needed one and then i would keep her around the house naked so she didnt have any feeling of anythign on her she could go in and she watched a friends little girl now a month later she potty trained and we hardly ever have any accients i would wait until they are 2 u dont want them to grow up too fast anyway thats a big step as a kid.

Pamela - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting Emma:



Quoting Norma:

I can't understand why you can't just let your baby be a baby, why you're in such a rush for him or her to grow up. They'll be adults before you know it. 5 months is very young and I just don't agree with it, will you be teaching him to cook for himself when he's one or two years old because you just can't be bothered cooking for him??






im not being nasty but i agree with norma. 5 months is a ridiculous age. let a baby be a baby.. time wasted on the potty could be time playing.. that really is just silly..






If you read her post , she said her daughter is 13months old not 5months ???

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Quoting Norma:

I can't understand why you can't just let your baby be a baby, why you're in such a rush for him or her to grow up. They'll be adults before you know it. 5 months is very young and I just don't agree with it, will you be teaching him to cook for himself when he's one or two years old because you just can't be bothered cooking for him??



im not being nasty but i agree with norma. 5 months is a ridiculous age. let a baby be a baby.. time wasted on the potty could be time playing.. that really is just silly..

Kelly - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting Norma:

I can't understand why you can't just let your baby be a baby, why you're in such a rush for him or her to grow up. They'll be adults before you know it. 5 months is very young and I just don't agree with it, will you be teaching him to cook for himself when he's one or two years old because you just can't be bothered cooking for him??



I think that's a little judgemental of you. If you think something is odd or doesn't fit YOUR idea of how a parent should raise their child, then keep your opinions to yourself! How would you like it if people told YOU how to parent YOUR child? ("OMGosh, you're not married? WHat kind of an image of stability and commitment is that teaching your child? Morals?" Not that I care, but Get the idea?) She was asking for info from ppl who have experience with this. You obviously do not qualify.

Ashly - posted on 09/05/2009

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i personally dont think there is any set way to potty train a child i found it much easier to train my first son than my second son. i found that not putting pressure on the child.is good,. i introduced the potty to my son when he was 2, he didnt like it too much, he had a lot of accidents, then one day he went to the potty himself. after that it was easy to train him. plus he had the added incentive of starting nursery school. hope this helps you.

Tamara - posted on 09/04/2009

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I believe the best thing to do if your about to go on a trip is to wait until you get home so your baby doesn't have the stress of the trip on top of learning to potty train. I think that the best thing is to put him on it after bed and after he eats since usually eating helps stimulate the need to eliminate.

Gioula - posted on 09/04/2009

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Oh my goodness, at 10 months, I've not considered potty training yet, but I suppose I'm late already, if going by some of the posts. We are going on a three week trip the end of this month, and I'm wondering if I should start my son tomorrow morning, or should wait until after we return from our trip. Also, I can tell when he poops and can get him to the loo when the signs are there, but how do I know when to put him on the loo for a wee? Apart from the mom who put her baby on the loo after bedtime, how do I know when? Any advise is valued.

Tamara - posted on 09/04/2009

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Well, If my son stays the way he is now that wouldn't be much of a problem. He waits until after the diaper is off most of the time anyways, that would just be a matter of holding him over the potty at changing time.


As far as infant potty training goes i really think it depends on the child. Your less teaching them how to use the potty and more teaching them that they're suppose to use it. When they are old enough to walk first they have already grown to accept that the diaper is the acceptable place to go, Once you try to untrain them from what they have already learned it becomes difficult. because your not just teaching new habits yoru breaking old ones. and who here has never had trouble breaking an old habit? Infant potty training teaches the concept, toddler potty training teaches the act. It's just a matter of moms ability to spend the time that is the real question of which is right or wrong.

Elisha - posted on 09/04/2009

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I agree putting them on the toilet early so they get use to it, we started at 12months with my daughter for pooping (just cuz that was the easoest to notice) by 15 months or so she was fully pooped trained. Than we moved to trying to go pee all the time. That took alot longer but i recommend skipping the pull ups stage. My daughter knew it was still a diaper and could still go pee in it. so we did training undies. This she could feel if she went pee and knew it was not okay. She is 2.5 now and is fully potty trained. Im sure you can potty train younger you just really have to have the time to take them every 15mins until they can start to talk or tell you in some way they have to go. i was working at a daycare and couldnt just leave when she had to go to the bathroom so we waited a little longer and it worked out perfect.

Nicole - posted on 09/04/2009

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My daughter was fully potty trained by 19 months. We actually just left our daughter to run without pants, diaper, or underwear for about a month, made it easier for her and us to get to the toilet fast, and just kept a really close eye on her. There were a few accidents at the beginning, but not nearly as many as I thought there would be. It really helped that my daughter had always hated having dirty or wet diapers. Since 19 months she has had 2 accidents and both were because she was very distracted (playing at the playground) and had only had one accident at night, so she doesn't even sleep with a diaper. Don't forget somedays will be worse then others, children are amazingly stubborn! But keep at it, and it will probably work for you. We didn't start until 18 months, and the last 2 weeks were so close to perfect... Maybe I will start earlier with my second daughter, it sounds like it works! Good Luck!

Belinda - posted on 09/04/2009

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Hi there. I think it's a personal choice really...... obviously by the posts you have gotten already there are some who feel very strongly one way or the other!! All I can do is tell you my experience and why we are doing it.

We started sitting my daughter on the potty at 9 months of age. My daughter is now 12 months old. We just sit her on there after she wakes from a sleep, so at the moment it is usually 3 times a day. She always wees on there and we catch maybe 90% of poos on there too. The first few days we put her on she wasn't really sure what she was doing there and it took maybe 10 mins for anything to come out.... if it didn't happen by that time we'd just take her off and try again after her next sleep. I did it after sleeps because she usually does her daily poo after a sleep and always wees after one and the rest of the day I have no idea when she's going!! After a couple of days though she got the idea and as soon as you put her on the potty now she goes straight away. I just want to make it clear that she doesn't now, nor has she ever, been upset about being put on the potty. There have been no tears or tantrums and she has never shown any concerns about being put on there. In fact if the potty is in the living room in plain view, she will and has gone to it a couple of times and hit it with her hand to get my attention when she needs to do a poo, and sure enough if I put her on she poos immediately.

We decided to try using the potty this early because of my mum's experience with early toilet training. I have 2 sisters and we were all put on the potty from 6 months of age - never had any tantrums or worries about being put on there as it was just part of our daily routine and was normal for us because it was what she had always done - and we were all toilet trained night and day before 2 years of age.

I guess (and this is probably not the case with all children because they are all different) but I am hoping to avoid all the upsets and tantrums that can sometimes come with toilet training a child who finds what you are asking them to do - sit on a weird unfamiliar hole - scary and not at all pleasant. If sitting on a potty is part of their normal everyday routine early on it seems like sometimes those issues can be avoided. (In my experience so far anyway!!) Good luck with whatever you decide, I'm sure you'll do whatever if right for your child

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I can't understand why you can't just let your baby be a baby, why you're in such a rush for him or her to grow up. They'll be adults before you know it. 5 months is very young and I just don't agree with it, will you be teaching him to cook for himself when he's one or two years old because you just can't be bothered cooking for him??

Erynne - posted on 09/03/2009

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By "Infant Toilet Training," I'm guessing you mean Elimination Communication/Natural Infant Hygiene. We are doing this with my five-month-old son, and it's working gorgeously. He can and will hold his bowels and bladder until we can put him on his little potty or the toilet... not every time - he is a baby after all - but I think we're catching at least 80% of his wees and poos outside of the diaper in a proper receptacle (at least, until he started pushing a couple of teeth out in this last week.... it's gotten pretty hit-and-miss since then!)

If you're interested in hearing more, I'd be happy to talk about it... but I have zero interest in being told how it's 'stupid' or 'manipulative' to allow my son to not have poo and wee plastered to his body. (can you tell i've had a few bad experiences with people?)

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User - posted on 09/03/2009

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hi all kids are diff my daughter was 15 month my son was 2 yrs its persiverance and reward them even if they only sit on toilet and ask them every 10 mins or so honest it worked for me good luck xxx

Heidi - posted on 09/03/2009

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The only thing I've heard from other moms on the subject is it's not the baby who's trained at that age, it's the parent. They don't have the muscles or the knowledge to hold it in until they are on the potty. Waiting till they are ready is a long time, but if you get the time right then the whole ordeal should only take 6 weeks or so. With my oldest daughter we started her training at 18 months, stopped for a few months while we moved and she was fully trained at age 2.5. Took a little longer than we thought, but we didn't sweat it. It's hard when it's just you who wants it done and they want to have nothing to do with it!! Good luck!

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