Has your child ever been bullied?

Kellean - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Has your child ever been bullied at any age, from pre-school to high school? What did you do as a mom to handle it. Did you approach the parents of the other child? What advice would you give to others?

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Shelley - posted on 04/12/2010

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My oldest was bullied from K-3 he seemed to attract this sort of person because it happened at a couple of diffrent schools. I went to the school teacher, principle, I kept detailed notes we also had to have his dr involved because he was developing some eating issues ect.& I went to the school board when I was not satisfied the school was doing enough We also had a school intervention team observe him in school to see how he played ect what could be some of the issues we could work on. Its a very hard thing to go through when you have to take your child to a place they do not feel safe & secure & the adults there had let him down. But just before the start of yet another school he just decided things were going to change for him & he was not going to put up with crap from mean people & would really stand up for himself & not let it happen & to date it has not. Plus the school he has been in the past 5 yrs has great teachers & principle & the staff just does not put up with it he is now finishing grade 9 & is a great kid with many many friends & a happy social life.

Kellean - posted on 04/12/2010

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I taught my children not to fight in school. I said if another student hits you don't hit them back take it to a teacher or the office. My son was an 8th grader, he was 6' at the time and he and another student were playing basketball. My son has large feet size 15 shoe he accidentally stepped on the other guys foot while making a basket. The guy just punched my son in the face and then walked away. Yeah my son was taller than him and could have fought back. I think more than anything he was shocked. The guy broke my sons nose. I took it to the Principal and the kid was sent to detention for half a day. I pressed for a harder punishment, the kid is a bully and has hurt other kids. Teachers were afraid of him. The Principal having known the kid his whole life wouldn't punish him. I suggested to the Principal that I should have allowed my son to stand up for himself and deck the kid in which he replied, "I would have suspended your son for that, you aren't from around here we take care of our own" he said to me.
My son is so sweet and caring. He did not deserve that in any way shape or form. I have great kids who respect others. This really bothered us. The doctor's bill was pricey and to this day he still suffers from his nose having been broken. My husband and I ended up taking this case to CPS. The kids parents had a record of child abuse, the kid was actually living with his Grandparents because of it. The father had abused his son to the point he went to the hospital a lot. My anger turned into compassion for the kid. I went from wanting to throw the book at him to can you get the kid some anger management classes. I originally asked the principal for this anger management classes to help the kid cope and not to choose violence. The school doesn't offer that as most schools don't have the funding for counselors.CPS said their hands were tied. They admitted that these kids fall through the cracks. It was disturbing in that this kid will grow up to be an adult and history could repeat itself.

Kel - posted on 04/12/2010

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I'm not sure if it's bullying, but there is a boy at my daughter's school who calls her names. I've not needed to do anything about it. I think my daughter is handling it pretty well. One day we were walking around the neighborhood and saw this boy with another boy she knows. My daughter smiled and waved to both of them and said in a very neutral, matter-of-fact tone, "Hi Josh. Hi Loser." The boy yelled back, "I'm NOT a LOSER!" She replied in the same, calm voice, "Yes, you call me mean names...You're a loser."



May not be the best way for her to handle the situation, but at least she seems to have good self esteem.

Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

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My two youngest have been bullied depending on how badly I usually wait a bit to see how they are dealing with it then if it does not get better I call the teacher if that does not work I would call the principle and usually it gets sorted out.

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