Have a boyfriend that doesnt see the imprtance of coming home from work on time?

Kirsten - posted on 05/19/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My boyfreind works in retail, and he never gets off when he is supposed to and he wont do anyting to fix it?

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Kristin - posted on 05/19/2010

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That's an excellent question Sarah asked. Also, is he feeling secure in his job? If he isn't and is supporting you and the baby on his own, he is doing what he thinks is best to keep you fed and sheltered. That is where men tend to go with parenting. It is their job to provide for their family.

Ultimately your child (between you and boyfriend?) will benefit more from quality time with him over lots of distracted time with him.

Maybe it's time to ask what's keeping him there? And leave out the topic of getting home by a certain time.

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Kirsten - posted on 05/20/2010

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well i know he stays late because they make him, he cant get home until this is done, and most days he ends up being the only person doing all the work and i know he works hard and fst but it seems to me he wont talk to his boss about the late hours cuz he feels he isnt important enough when i can see very much so that he is. and yes he may feel that working is his wway to support us but i am battling with depression and all he ever says we need the over time, but i reply with what more important overtime or my sanity?

Sarah - posted on 05/19/2010

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I agree. You should get all the facts then maybe sit down with your boyfriend and talk about it. Maybe meet in the middle and have him try to come home earlier a few days a week. That way he is showing you that you are a priority and you show him you understand he might need a little time after work to relax. For example I sometimes like to take the long way home to calm down a little. That way I don't bring home stress from the day and I can enjoy my family time. But that's just what works for me. I guess the most important thing is to get the facts and calmly discuss the situation. I'm sure it can be easily resolved by communication. Best wishes to you and your family.

Sarah - posted on 05/19/2010

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Is he late because the job makes him stay after or is it just becase he takes his time?

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