have a son who has problems with bed wetting what do i do?

April - posted on 12/16/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My eight year old has issues with bedwetting we do the night wakings, limit his fluid intake, and now my doctor gave his a pill that im not comfortable giving him because its just an antidepressant and it makes him hard to wake and he falls alseep in class. if u have any other suggestions i would greatly apprieciate it and so would he!


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Annie - posted on 12/16/2009




This problem is not an uncommon one. I had it when I was a kid and I was 11 before it resolved itself. When I was in school in Family Life they said something like 1 in 4 kids experiences it. I was given a pill (not sure of the name since I was just a kid) but it made me sleepwalk and my parents stopped it. I think they attributed it to the fact that I was just a heavy sleeper in the end. At one point they took me off milk to see if that was the problem (not sure of the logic behind that, but whatever) and that didn't work. It wasn't anything I could control and it was very embarrassing for me. As I got older my parents made me run into the store by myself to get my own pull-ups, I guess they thought shaming me would make me stop, but it's not like I was doing it on purpose. Right about the time I hit puberty is when it stopped, but it made a huge dent in my self esteem. Whatever you do, just don't make a big deal of it around him because if it's the same thing, it's not something he can control.

Now I worry that my son will have the same problem. He is 3 1/2 and wetting himself at night even though he's been potty trained for almost a year. We cut off his fluid intake at 7 and make him go potty before bed, but still, 4 out of 5 nights he will wet.

If you discover anything that works, I wanna know about it! Good luck!

Amy - posted on 12/16/2009




Hi April,

My son had a bedwetting problem as well. When he was 7 or so we had tried limiting fluids and also done the night wakings, and it just wasn't working. Seems to actually be doing the oppostie. When we wouldn't limit intake, he wouldn't wet. So it seemed as though when we limited fluids, he was not filling his bladder fast enough to feel the fullness to wake him. Along with letting him drink, we also initiated a bed alarm. It takes committment from the parent, but if you are doing the night wakings, then you are already committed. The alarm just clips inside the underwear, and it goes off with the slightest little amount of liquid. This way, you are only waking him when his body is saying, "I need to go to the bathroom". Otherwise if you are waking him earlier, it is not teaching his brain that his bladder is full, and that is the reason he is awake. It on average takes about 12 weeks to break the bed wetting issue. For our son, it only took about a month. It helps to tell you when is the right time to wake them and the full sensation of the bladder associated with the waking trains them to wake on their own when their bladder is full. The alarm we got was about $70, but I figure that paid for itself easily,by the time I spent washing beds, water, electricity, and detergent.

It is not right for every child, we have tried it with my 6yo daughter and she is scared to death of it. But it is an inexpensive alternative to the medications. Give it a try! Oh and we kept a chart of every night (it should come with the alarm and inst. also) and our son was rewarded when he stayed dry for a week at a time.

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