Have any of you moms felt unexplicably angry for no aparent reason?

Cristina - posted on 04/04/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I seem to feel that way often, and it drives me crazy that I seem to snap at anything my son or husband do. I need help please.

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Carrie - posted on 04/12/2010

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I feel that way sometimes too. For me I think it is due to being a stay at home mom for 8 almost 9 years now. Some moms don't get enough "me time" and that can add to your stress levels. Alot of times we feel guilty if we put ourselves first, but you shouldn't. Also it is good to talk to other moms and see you aren't alone in feeling this way. Alot of times we stop doing things that we loved before we had our children. Before we were mothers we were just women. So put yourself first sometimes, it is ok. :-)

Laura - posted on 04/06/2010

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If you mark your feelings/behavior on a calendar and find that you "witch" behavior starts and lingers for about 10-14 days before your period, you may have PMDD. The FB page for this is http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=66... The cause and treatment for PMDD is still in baby stages but your doctor can help reduce the symptoms, and there's lots of us "witches" out there to support each other. Just a possibility.

Kelli - posted on 04/06/2010

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If you ever need to talk Cristina, I'm always here. I sit and cry a lot and get mad for no apparent reason. I snap at my hubby, hide under my desk. I get it. It's hard. The key is to get help IMMEDIATELY and get out of the house everyday. Even if you just take a 10 minute walk by yourself. DO IT. You do need to take time for you. Motherhood is a hard adjustment. I have two, a 15month old and a 10 week old. There are days I don't want to get out of bed. Make sure you tell the doctors office that you think it could potentially be postpartum, and they will get you in ASAP. It is nothing to mess with. Remember the actress Brooke Shields? She got it BAD. I just read her book, and it helped to hear another woman going through almost the same thing as me. Good luck. (remember, I'm here. Always online.stay at home mom)

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Yes, I felt like this after the birth of my third child, I suffered for 5 years before i was diagnosed. I have three very important words for you...CHECK YOUR THYROID !!!!!

Bernie - posted on 04/04/2010

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oh my! this happens to me all the time, and after im mad i just dont get why i had to get sooo mad ya know? im trying to stay calm but i just snap alot. my daughter is turning 2 in may so im not thats anything to do with her, but i think moms just have to much stress just being a mom, we have to learn to have a minute to yourselfs so that we can stay calm.

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John - posted on 02/24/2013

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HELP! My girlfriend was the sweetest nicest girl. Never drank, did drugs or smoked. Now, at 15 weeks, she left me at 11 weeks. I'm devastated and she's reconnected with her old BFF and she convinced her to ditch me. Yeah I've made mistakes but I've had a tremendous change over her leaving and this baby and I miss her so much. She's just full of hateful words and things I thought she could never say ESP to me! She hates me and won't even talk to me. I'm having the hardest time of my life. She's 19 and I'm 25. Idk what to do but I really hope it's just hormones and I haven't really lost her and she doesn't really mean the horrible things she's saying... Idk.

Stefania - posted on 04/12/2010

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I feel like that too. U r not alone. I seem to snap at things my 13 month old does like throwing her sippy cup or toys & when she screams bloody murder for no reason. This is something I've kept private from everyone except my family but my husband is currently in jail & has been since the end of January. I feel like there is sooooo much pressure on me now because I'm the one raising her alone for the time being. I had to move back in with my mom (im 27) & she thinks NO means YES & that i dont know what im doing (well thats just how i feel). Everyone is real supportive of my situation & my family, as small as it is, comes by to play with the baby so i can get a break. I dont mean to snap at my husband for being where he is cuz i know he wants to be with us more then anything in the world but i sometimes feel like i just cant do it anymore. My husband feels horrible when i say that because he knows im a really good mom & that im doing a really good job & always have. I wish i knew what to tell you about snapping for no reason cuz i dont know myself. If you find out let me know. Hope this helped.

Caitlin - posted on 04/12/2010

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I've been getting mad and upset a lot lately. I think for me its because I feel like im stuck in a rut. I've stayed home with my son since the day he was born. He's now 2 1/2 and I feel bored all the time. I feel like Im not going anywhere with my life..like Im not contributing anything to our household. I plan on returning to school in the fall but until then what can I do to keep myself calm? I've tried looking for a job but everyone wants someone with experience or a degree. Ive still got three more years ahead of me in school. You are not alone Christina! Im so glad I came across this post!

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talk to your doctor about being put on anti-depressants...One of the major key symptoms of depression is being angry at the drop of a hat and then the feelings of sadness and guilt afterward. It's like you don't realize that you are angry and over reacting until it's already happened and you can't take it back. I know i've dealt with depression for years and had it before, during and after my pregnancy. There are many medications that can help leave you out so you can cope with daily life without getting extremely emotional in any direction. Whether it's happy, sad, angry or otherwise, the emotional roller coaster of depression is not fun..and it can take a toll on your relationship. Your doctor should be able to help. Good luck

Mandy - posted on 04/07/2010

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I absolutely feel that way some times (usually right around that time of the month). Not usually to my kids but more to my husband...I will be a complete b**ch for no real reason and say mean and hateful things.....then I always feel terrible for it afterward. My hubby is pretty good at understanding that I don't mean the things I say and that I'm just in one of my mood swings.....doesn't excuse it tho.

Kathy - posted on 04/07/2010

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yeah it can happen to us all at times but it may also be worth chatting to your doctor as you might be suffering from some depression (i had depression so dont be worried to talk to yor doctor they wont judge you )

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2010

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i think this is normal for mothers. well unless you get so mad that you think about hurting your son, and in that case you need to see a doctor asap., but us moms tend to forget about ourselves alot because we want everyone else around us to be happy and content, and we tell ourselves that when they are happy, and content then ill take a min for myself, but then it never happens. sometime we need to just say....mommy is busy right now but when she is done she will help you. or maybe not in such a nice matter. lol. we all have used the " DAMMIT- I SAID HANG ON!!" before i would imagine. stress is normal, and being angry is an emotion and we all need to express it sometimes. good luck and hang in there.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2010

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I was feeling that way too. it felt good to be mad and angry. i almost needed it. It may have been a stressful time, a bit of post partum depression...I am not sure, but for me I was on the mini pill after having baby #2. I switched to the Nuva Ring and also let go a bit and de-stressed. I have been much better since. FOr me I think it was hormones and stress...a bad mix any way you put it, but I agree, talk to your doc.

Kristin - posted on 04/05/2010

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It is totally normal to sometimes lose your temper with everyone and everything. If you are really concerned, you should absolutely talk to your doctor or a mental health specialist.

As crazy busy as moms are, you've got to take time to care for yourself.

Sheryl - posted on 04/05/2010

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yes i get that way to. i think it that my harm. are off! i just don't think they went back to narm. like they should have. me i and going to try to find some a naturaly harb to help. me they have one that is a happy mood one. but that cause i can't afford to go to the doc. so if i where you i would try to go if you can. best of luck!

Cristina - posted on 04/05/2010

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Thank you so much, I thought that I was the only one with this problem, I will ask my doctor as soon as he can see me, it's just frustrating to feel that way and not have any kind of control over it, sometimes I sit alone in the loo and cry, cause I have no other thing to do about it.

Joanna - posted on 04/04/2010

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I felt like this after my daughter was born, and it turned out to be part of my post partum depression that was kind of colliding with my natural anxiety. My doctor put me on Paxil and it made a world of difference.

It's not to say that's what it is, though, because everyone has a breaking point for certain things. To this day, if I feel extra angry, I just leave the situation and go up to my room and put my face into my pillow and yell for a minute. Just getting it out really helps. You could also find a hobby that calms you... A friend of mine has bad anxiety and when she feels anxious or angry, she picks up her needles and knits, and it helps her calm down.

Erin - posted on 04/04/2010

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i get like this too, but i know what causes it in me. i have hypothyroidism and it really messes with my hormones. i can tell when my meds are off because i get this overwelming feeling of anger and i can't shake it. this can be a temporary dissorder that can be brought on by the hormonal imbalance of pregnancy, but it can also be a permanent condition. you should see your dr. and be spacific when telling him how you feel.

Kelli - posted on 04/04/2010

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I get like this all the time. For me it's called POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION. Seek help. It only gets worse. I am really bad and believe me, you don't want it to get to my level Cristina.

Kristi - posted on 04/04/2010

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Yes, I have felt that way and end up apologizing to my 6 year old. My mom always reminds to make time for myself! Sometimes we just need a break! :) Good Luck!

Katherine - posted on 04/04/2010

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You might have post-partum depression. I agree with Stevie, talk to your doctor.

Stevie - posted on 04/04/2010

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yes actually i was just feeling that way a few min ago its not offten but im also pregnant ha so its probably my hormones i was actually talking on fb chat with a friend and i just said you know i feel like i should be mad... but idk why i should so there is really no saying why felt that way im not even sure if i still feel that way or not its kinda hard to tell since ive been having this horrible headache for pretty much the whole day that is driving me nuts as well do you think it could be depresion or anything i know modes change like that with depesion but you know im not sure why you are feeling that way offten or anything maybe chat with your dr about it

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