HAVE U EVER BEEN TOLD THAT BEING A STAY AT HOME MOM WAS EASY?

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Liz - posted on 10/20/2009

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Being a stay at home mom has been the hardest job I've EVER had in my life! I worked crazy hours as a CPA with multiple bosses, and that was a piece of cake compared to what I do now. I completely understand why women choose to go back to work...it's way easier than staying home all the time with kids. I would not trade this for anything, but it's just so much harder than I ever expected (especially since my youngest are only 16 mths apart).

Jodi - posted on 10/20/2009

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I am all the time being told that being a stay at home mom is rewarding, you dont do anything all day long. My answer is you try dealing with 3 sick kids, running errands, cleaning the house, doing dishes and laundry and still find time to take a shower that is long enough to shave your legs (b4 one of the kids comes in) and then we can talk about how easy it is and how much we, stay at home moms, have it easy. I get so tired of being told that my job is easy. Try having a million full time jobs, chef, personal assistant, fashionb coordinator, coach, play mate, artist, musician, and the list goes on and on. Sorry the rambling. This is a sore subject for me.

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Beth - posted on 10/27/2009

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One of my brothers and my neighbor think I live a luxury life of napping and relaxing, House work, kids, errands, volunteering, and everything in between is the easiest thing to do and that going to work is harder. I did work before kids and I remember being able to take uninterrupted naps for hours, haven't had one of those in 11 years. I don't even know what a real nap is anymore. I'm sure you would all agree.

Tiffany - posted on 10/27/2009

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Quoting Nichole:



Quoting Ashley:

Yes I get told it is an easy job. Makes me mad b/c it's not as easy as everyone thinks. Especially when I am trying to get my associates degree right now and take care of an 11 mo. old, also expecting another in April. I get soo lonely all the time b/c i don't go somewhere to work so don't meet new people and therefore really don't have any friends. Kinda sad I know but...I live in germany in a military community...sorry if this offends anyone but...army wives are so stuck up! LOL






I know the feeling. I lost most of my friends when I had my first daughter! It was definately worth it. I wouldn't trade my girls for the world!! My two are 2yrs and 5yrs. I to get lonely. I spend alot of time with my mom. I love my mom but it is not the same as hangin out with friends! I wouldn't know about the military community but you are not the first one I have heard that from.





I have too lost most of my friends. Not really lost but neither of us can relate to each other anymore. You are not alone with this one and I wish there was something more offered to stay-at-home mothers in communities. I think that's why I LOVE Circle of Moms.



And also Ashley, to your army wives comment : My husband is in the Marines-the reserves and I think mostly the stuck up ones are the ones who's husband's are gone from their families. I think they think they are better than others because they feel their husbands are doing more. I've noticed this with an old friend of my husband's. Her husband is over-seas but she definitely has that attitude.

Tiffany - posted on 10/27/2009

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Honestly before I actually had a child I thought staying at home would be easy. Little did I know that it wasn't easy at all. It's not neccessarily physically draining (at the stage I'm at now. Nothing says this won't change:)) )but mentally it's more draining than any job I've ever done. You want a break but there are NO breaks here. Being a parent IS a 24/7 job. It never ends. And although looking through someone else's eyes(who don't have children) that may suck I NEVER want it to end. I want to be there for my child and give him what's best...anytime of any day.

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Quoting Ashley:

Yes I get told it is an easy job. Makes me mad b/c it's not as easy as everyone thinks. Especially when I am trying to get my associates degree right now and take care of an 11 mo. old, also expecting another in April. I get soo lonely all the time b/c i don't go somewhere to work so don't meet new people and therefore really don't have any friends. Kinda sad I know but...I live in germany in a military community...sorry if this offends anyone but...army wives are so stuck up! LOL



I know the feeling. I lost most of my friends when I had my first daughter! It was definately worth it. I wouldn't trade my girls for the world!! My two are 2yrs and 5yrs. I to get lonely. I spend alot of time with my mom. I love my mom but it is not the same as hangin out with friends! I wouldn't know about the military community but you are not the first one I have heard that from.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/27/2009

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wow! i guess i am very lucky. my son will be 2 next month and i have worked every since he was 6 weeks old but 3 months ago i moved in with my boyfriend(not my sons dad) who has a daughter that is a month older than my son and he decided that it would be best for me to stay home with the kids and then i can go back to school in the spring so i said ok :) he owns his own business so he works from home and he really only works 3-4 hrs a day and he helps out a lot!!!! i mean yea i clean, cook, take care of the kids, and all that good stuff but he helps in anyway he can like doing laundry, keeping an eye on the kids so i can shower or get a break. i have never had to do it like some of you ladies but it sure makes me realize that i am sooo blessed to have such a convenient situation with him home all the time. and he always tells me to take the kids to daycare one day a week so we can go to lunch together!!! i am truly blessed and i look up to you ladies who do it all on your own!! :)

Liza - posted on 10/27/2009

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Yes my husband says all the time that he works while I just stay at home with the kids. I dont actually work. If he only knew lol!!

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I have actually been told I have the hardest job in the world, but at the same time people I know try to give me things to do and suggest jobs I can do even though I tell them I do not want to put my kids in daycare and intend to stay home full time. Oh well, people are rude to mothers for some reason and I can't always tune it out, I hear ya!

Nicole - posted on 10/27/2009

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I dont think some people can grasp the fact that our home is now our offices.We have to keep it clean and neat but also do everything nessesary to keep the children happily entertained.And for me I have never been on the payroll but I get up and go to work everyday.I work most days from 6:30 in the morning until 11:00 at night when my husband and children are well off to dream land and I can complete the long list of cleaning chores for the day.Just to get up in the morning and start all over again.

Amanda - posted on 10/26/2009

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I hear it all the time and it is so frustrating!!! Everyone says you are so lucky you don't have to work or do anything??? Really, I didn't think staying at home with a 3 and a half year old, a newborn, and breastfeeding was nothing!!! on top of that you have chores to do, errands to run and your job never ends, it isn't 8-5. My job maybe rewarding but it is definitely a "job" whether I leave the house or get paid.

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My husband keeps saying that I have it easy. Being a stay at home mom is exausting. Not to mention emotionally taxing. I give major kudos to all the stay at home mom's like me.

Emilia - posted on 10/26/2009

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well yes from my hubby so i tell him from now on u clean up after yourself and wash your own clothes lol but i tell you its not its the hardest job for any one

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yes...but not only am i a SAHM, i'm also a teacher, my sons BFF, cook, & house cleaner!

Its a much more challenging job than the job I had before he was born which was working in the emergency room.

My friends who work seem to think I have it easy and get to sleep all day and do what I want and can baby-sit their kids for free while they go to work to make extra money! -.-

Brandi - posted on 10/26/2009

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Oh yes! What I want to do is punch them in the face or just leave a baby and say "good luck!". I find those types of comments to be so ignorant. I can not even see how someone could think it is easy.

Janell - posted on 10/26/2009

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yes and that is a load of crap!! this is the hardest thing ive ever done. the most rewarding but the hardest too. if we got paid what we are worth wed all be millionaires. id like to see them take care of the kids do laundry run errrands do dishes prepare all 3 meals give baths and put them to bed. haha good thing we are tough ladies

Stephanie - posted on 10/26/2009

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Being a stay at home parent isn't easy and sometime is lonely but its still the best job in the world.

Beth - posted on 10/26/2009

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I have been told by several people to suck it up, that I have the best job in the world... and where i dont disagree with them, it is the hardest and least paying job in the world!!! but i wouldnt have it any other way.My daughter is 4, and i have missed out on the first 3 years of my daughters life from working. I now have a wonderful husband (not my daughters father) who told me he would pay for me to stay home, take care of all my bills, if i would take care of the house and my daughter. I have been a SAHM since may of this year and i wouldnt have it any other way. I have never had a better relationship with my daughter and my husband. I think that if you can financially do it, staying home with kids is the way to go, and when we have our next child i will continue to stay at home. All power to anyone who can handle it!!!! And God bless everyone who tries!!!! No one will ever know the sacrifices it takes to stay at home all day long with a child and still get done what needs to be done, while running errands, and doing housework!!! God Bless You All!! :)

Jennifer - posted on 10/26/2009

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Have I ever...that is so not true...it is THE hardest job, BUT the MOST rewarding job there is. I've been so fotunate to be able to stay home with all of my kids and while it's been wonderful watching them change and grow...there are days I just want to pull all of my hair out and run into my room and cry until my eyes fall out.

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being a stay at home mom is certainly a full time job with no days off. i get it from my husband too how he wishes he could stay at home all day! i just look at him and lmbo! and think oh no honey you couldnt handle my job! men are hilarious sometimes

Chrissy - posted on 10/26/2009

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What gets me is when I ask DH to stop at the store on his way home and pick something up, I get "And what have you been doing all day?" Excuse me?!!?!? I have cleaned the kitchen, the living room, family room, done laundry, dishes, cleaned the litter box AND am making dinner. What have you done? I am trying to save on gas and when he shoots me that line of crap, I just about explode. Not only am I a SAHM, I also help run my brother's business and we have been VERY busy lately. When he stays home, he doesn't do half of what I do, so he should know that it's not easy. Sheesh!!! okay, I have vented now.

Tara - posted on 10/26/2009

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I dont know any other life as of yet so I have nothing to compare this too. i love it though. I really badly want to get back to work though. Im with Cory on this one too, I hate when I hear other moms complaining their hubby doesnt help out, he works and you take care of the house. Simple. You both have a job to do. He shouldnt have to do his and then come home and do your work as well while you sit there and bitch in his ear. We all play our role in this.

Cory - posted on 10/25/2009

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I am so happy to see that there are actually stay at moms who do all the chores without hating their husbands or resenting them. I too am a stay at home mom of a 14 month old, and personally i am so sick of people complaining about it. We wanted to stay at home with our kids, doesnt that mean cleaning? cooking? playing? shopping? Hello, what did you think you were signing up for????

Jennifer - posted on 10/25/2009

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yeah but only by people who dont have kids or have never tried it. its worth it but it is harder than any other job i have ever had! 5 kids and a house...my work is never done and i never get a day off, but i get to be here when my babies wake up and when they go to bed...i dont miss anything and i wouldnt trade that for any amount of money!

Corey - posted on 10/25/2009

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I was actually told it would be the hardest job I ever took, no breaks, no vacation, and a lot of the times no Adult to talk to, lol. Though it has by far been the hardest, it has been the most rewarding and exciting job. Everyday is new and you never know what to expect when their feet hit the floor.

Melissa - posted on 10/25/2009

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Yes and everyone person that has said it to me, I either shoot them an evil glare, or reply with the best response possible. My soon to be sister in law who has NO kids, thinks its crazy that I might want to actually do something other than be in my house all day watching my daughter. Yes, I know she is better off with me, but some times I need a break, and she needs to interact with others at well. So, when the sister in law to be has kids, we will see what happens. I think it is just a big misconstrued notion that we do nothing all day!

Irene - posted on 10/25/2009

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yes i have been told that but it isnt really all that easy ur on ur toes all hours of the day and its a job and a half that doesnt require employment and makes it a lot more difficult!

Jennifer - posted on 10/25/2009

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I am told that all the time. They say I have the easiest job in the world. Many of them say, "I wish I could stay home with my kids". We have so many different jobs being stay at home moms. We are the cooks, the housekeepers, the financial advisors, the bookkeepers, the nurses, the secretaries, and ever other job that needs to be done at home. There is nothing we can't do. I thought my life was tough before. Now I am also going to school full-time and volunteering at the Head Start, so I have a full plate. I will never let anyone say that my job's easy, because it is quite the opposite.

User - posted on 10/25/2009

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all the time by my husband who is a firefighter! he always tells me i need to go out and get a real job cause being a stay at home mom isnt a job its easy your home all the time and it just makes me so mad! i clean house do laundry dishes make sure the kids are fed and happy and teach them new things and play im practically everything when hes not here! its hard being a stay at home mom but well worth it! :)

Lisa - posted on 10/25/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

Yes I get told it is an easy job. Makes me mad b/c it's not as easy as everyone thinks. Especially when I am trying to get my associates degree right now and take care of an 11 mo. old, also expecting another in April. I get soo lonely all the time b/c i don't go somewhere to work so don't meet new people and therefore really don't have any friends. Kinda sad I know but...I live in germany in a military community...sorry if this offends anyone but...army wives are so stuck up! LOL


I'm an army wife and I agree with you, as most of the ones I've met are also.  Not all, but most :( It's sad really.  I'm in South Carolina and I hate it here.  We will be getting orders soon and I cannot wait, but I'm hoping and praying for somewhere out of the south, because I really hate it.  And I don't meet people either.  It's hard when you go from working to not and all of a sudden you forget how to meet people lol.  Or at least that's how it feels!



 



I've been told it has to be an easy job by people who have never done it, also.  All I have to say is walk a mile in a SAHM's shoes and THEN tell me how easy it is.  I only have one and it's not HARD but it's certainly not easy.  Especially when they start walking and grab onto your pants and won't let go when you're trying to vacuum, do laundry etc.

Brenda - posted on 10/25/2009

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DH thought so for a while. Then I left him with the kids for a few hours. The house was a mess, the kids were filthy and cranky. He finally admitted that I have the hardest job. He bought me flowers later. :D

Katherine - posted on 10/25/2009

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my husband did when the first was born, so i told him id go back to work, and he could take parental leave. after six months he was happy to go back to work. and he's never said another word about it beeing easy.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/25/2009

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Yes, and now the with hecession many men are finding out it is much harder than they thought . Keeping house, doing the laundry, cooking, running the kids from one practise to another, and maintaining a budget along with missing adult companionship.

Shannon - posted on 10/25/2009

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i get told that alot, i've had a friend say we are no longer stay at home moms but domestic engineers, be proud of what you do and stay proud, for some reason other are i guess jeolus! i frown upon mother who stick their kids in day care all day, they miss every thing, ( stepping stones)

Kathy - posted on 10/25/2009

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The problem with getting ppl to understand how difficult staying at home is, espcecially with our spouses it that if they were to stay at home and take care of the kids... that's all they would do. The house wouldn't get clean, the laundry wouldn't get done and we'd probably have carry out pizza every night! I've tried getting my spouse to do what I do... it never works. & to get them to understand the mentla toll it takes on you, that takes more than a weekend to figure out. The only time I leave my house is to do the shopping. The rest of the time, I look at the same scenery every day. Listen to the same crying & whining every day. Watch the same children's show every day, etc. think the only ppl who understand how HARD it is, is other stay-at-home moms.

Kathy - posted on 10/25/2009

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OMG, my ex husband acted like all I did was sit at home in front of the tv & eat bon bons all day! I have been both a stay-at-home mom & a working mom. I have seen both sides. I can tell you being a stay-at-home mom is the hardest job EVER! But I can see how those ppl who have never stayed at home EVERY day to care for their children and take care of a home would think that not having to get up and go to work every day would be easy... It is hard to convince ppl that it is definately NOT easy!

Kimberly - posted on 10/25/2009

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Yes, my boyfirend tells me that all the time. I get so annoyed because he could never do all I do. I worked with animals at an animal hospital before becoming a stay at home mom and staying home taking care of 2 kids is much harder, but I love it!!!

Katharine - posted on 10/25/2009

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Hi Michelle! I have had that debate with a lot of males. My partner use to be one of them. However he soon changed his mind when I was too sick to get out of bed one weekend. I purposely ordered him to do most of my EVERYDAY jobs. No should be intittled to make any opinion or judgement on us stay-at-home mums, unless they have fully experienced exactly what we do everyday. Touchy subject, I get my bones up with that one.

Kathy - posted on 10/25/2009

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YES! And it bugs me to no end... my sister-in-law is good for throwing that in my face. I was also on the other side of the fence working, commuting and taking care of the house. Neither is easy, but I am lucky enough to be at home and available for any emergencies. It's not as if I'm sitting on my butt and shoving chocolates in my mouth watching television all day.

Sammy - posted on 10/25/2009

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People who say this have nooooooo idea at all. If we got paid like the workforce for all the hours hours we put in wouldn't we all be loaded ladies? I made the choice to stop work( in a well paid job to stay home )when I had my first daughter and was shellshocked for a while with the amount of work involved. We now have 3 girls & let me tell you life is going past me in a flash. There are so not enough hours in the day, between school runs & organizing dinner for 5 of us.etc. I like to think I am reasonably organized most of the time but.......deal with kids moods, the argueing between them espec. my 10 & 7 yr olds., get through the day sometimes & the endless nagging of my 2yr old. You barely have any time to sctratchyour ass, lettleown sit on it twiddling your thumbs. Walk in my shoes for one day all those who say it's easy you wouldn't survive 5 min. People who say it's easy drive me nuts, so ignorant!!!!!!!

Rachael - posted on 10/25/2009

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yes, I get told that it is an easy job to stay at home with 2 small kids and get told that I probably sick on my bum all day cause there is nothing else to do, if they only knew!!!

Amy - posted on 10/24/2009

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I worked as a nurse until my son was 2 months old and I could not stay away from him any longer so me and my husband made the decision for me to stay at home. We now have a 2 kids (a boy who is 2 and a girl who is 9 months) and I love staying at home. Most people told me it was easy and for the most part it is. However, there are times when I wish that I had those few hours at work with adults during the day. I miss interacting with my co-workers and having adult conversation sometimes. I don't want to go back to work though...lol! I love watching my kids grow and it seems they learn something new and make me laugh more and more everday!! My hubby used to come home from work and say how easy of a job that I had staying home until he got hurt at work and had to stay home with us and he saw how demanding it was! He now helps out more and has more respect for me.

Robbin - posted on 10/24/2009

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ROFLOL!! I am so highly entertained by the sheer vastness of the ignorance of someone who says that! It used to bug me, but now it really tickles me! For all the things that have been said already - it's so true! My hubby wouldn't say it, but kindof acted like it...and just like the others...I left for two days, taking my 6 month with me to a conference (still nursing at the time) and left my hubby with just the 2 year old...lol...he has been so great since! It truly does not take long for someone else to get it when they try it - but I don't know if anyone else ever will. Ignorance makes me laugh....and agreeing with the one who talked about the little things we get that others don't - FOR SURE! My kids are so totally hillarious! The stuff they come up with is incredible! I try to remember it all to tell my hubby when he gets home, but sometimes there are just too many moments - and to see them live is PRICELESS!

E - posted on 10/24/2009

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men mostly say that or someone with no kids at all... no one understands until they've done it...

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Every stay at home mom has probably heard this more than once!! but as for any other"job" you really have to love what you do!! Imagine all the "little" things "working" moms miss!!!! It's all worth it in the end and I wouldn't want any other job in the world!!!

Jasara - posted on 10/24/2009

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my hubby tried that once, so for a week he was forced to take off work, take care of the kids,house,errands ect..... i would leave around 7 and return when he would normally get off work. and come to find out. he quickly changed his mind being a stay at home mom or dad is the hardest but the most rewarding job you will ever do. anyone who says other wise either doesnt have kids or has never had the privilage of doing it.

Kristin - posted on 10/24/2009

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some people think that, but being a stay at home mom is a full time job in itself we dont get real breaks and we don't get to clock out at the end of the day

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