Have you ever got the other parent in Contempt?

Megan - posted on 06/20/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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wasnt sure if any of you have ever gone to court over contempt sanctions over visitation? going to court August over several issues. not sure why BD is not letting me see thechildren that we have together (we have 2 children) living FULL time with me and seeing BD weekends and 6 weeks during THIS summer.



BD and SM just refuse for me to come pick them up and have them back! This sucks really bad the children are used to me, now when I try to call them they "dont wanna talk, and HATE me now?"

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♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/22/2011

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Oiy! He makes a big deal about paying it! He acts like 475 USD is a big deal in Canada. That's not even 1/2 mine & my husband's rent and he acts like he's supporting myself, my kids and my husband! Uh hello, I make more than that in a week- well I will when I get registered in BC as a Care Aide.
The amount was set back in 2005 when he was just an E4 now he's an E6 so I'm wondering if I should go for more. Except my mom's convinced that he's not doing too well financially. I don't believe it'd be worth it though. It was crazy enough when I had to go through his NCO to make him direct deposite the money from his account to mine when he was writing out starter cheques signed by his wife. Thank God for online banking too because if I didn't have that I'd have to figure out how to perform a miracle by making him deposite the child support into mine and my husband's joint account.
And to give everyone an idea of how bad the marriage was, I throw a party for myself to celebrate the anniversary finalization of my divorce every 15th of September :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/22/2011

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Breanne that sounds kinds like my ex. He wanted to get joint custody because he thought that would mean he wouldn't have to pay child support. He also was mad that he'd still have to pay me child support (475$ monthly) while our daughter was visiting him for 3 weeks. It's all about money which is why she doesn't want to talk to him.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/22/2011

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@ Breanne. My ex doesn't want to see our daughter if it's gonna cost him money. Case in point I live in BC he lives in GA. He made a big deal about me moving from NY and saying that I was keeping our daughter from him. Now he says he won't see her this summer because it would cost him too much and he'd have to get a babysitter for 3 weeks plus pay for food and his plane ticket along with his half of our daughter's plane ticket. WTF, he's in the Army and gets 1 1/2 day off for each full day worked. He has shedloads of time off. He and his wife both work so he can easily afford all that stuff and take time off for his kid. Men are such bloody idiots sometimes!

Jane - posted on 06/21/2011

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So have they been with him longer than 6 weeks? Or are you wanting him to have them for a week or two at a time? If you don't have the visitation agreement in writing I doubt that there is anything you can do. You might consider talking to a lawyer to see realistically what is allowed in Texas, and also to see realistically what you can and should ask for in court.

My brother had a contentious divorce, with his ex doing all sorts of nasty things. However, because he had a lawyer every time they went to court things worked out fairly well. He is counting the months until the last child is 18 and he no longer has to have contact with her.

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Britt - posted on 06/22/2011

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Wow! Not sound harsh by all means - sounds like they are being coached. What child "doesn't," want to talk to their bio parent? hum somethings sounds fishy!
Just document it and write it down in a log book!

Bri - posted on 06/22/2011

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BM wants SK just because of child support ! she wasnt consistant but is now, yes, but only wants SK to stop CHLID SUPPORT PAYMENTS

Bri - posted on 06/22/2011

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@JAne thats the way i feel about my own situation! Its sucks dealing with the BM my way! sucks b/c im getting married in August- BM is so inconsistant its unreal she wants SK when she feels like it.

Jodi - posted on 06/21/2011

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I am still trying to get my head around this. Are you saying your arrangment is that he has them 6 weeks over summer and now that he has them, he considers it is summer, he can keep them for 6 weeks? What do you have in writing?

Megan - posted on 06/21/2011

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we dont have it in writing his summer schedule...i will have to wait til court

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/21/2011

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Here in the States if the non custodial parent doesn't bring the child home by the appointed time and refuses contact you can call the cops b/c that is kidnapping. I learned that b/c I'm from N Y & my ex lived in Watertown for a while. I've got a shedload of info

Megan - posted on 06/21/2011

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no kidnapping police said no way lady!
also laughed at me!
this is no laughing matter! this is children and they need to see me. the police say it is very common and its all CIVIL

Chana - posted on 06/21/2011

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Who has primary custody? If you do then you can get hom for parental kidnapping....
I think....

Jodi - posted on 06/21/2011

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And quite honestly, I still don't feel like the OP has given much to go by.

Here there isn't anything you can do about the non-custodial parent not meeting their court ordered visitation. Ironic isn't it? Because of course, if I didn't meet my court ordered custody arrangement I would lose my custody. Gotta love the system.

Katherine - posted on 06/21/2011

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Oh I'm sorry it says right there visitation.
I have a friend who's ex is ALWAYS making excuses on why she can't take the kids. I mean she had them every other weekend, that's it. And she couldn't even keep to that. In our state he really couldn't do much about it. He just won full physical and legal custody of them.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 06/21/2011

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Nope not yet. But I did win my last custody/visitation case because my ex never came up to NY from GA after insisting I was trying to keep our daughter from him.

Jodi - posted on 06/21/2011

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Over a single incident? Or ongoing problems getting visitation based on a court ordered arrangement? I have never done it, but it depends on the reasoning. It's silly to make a fuss if it isn't something that happens all the time, it only causes drama. But IF the court has ordered you have a certain amount of visitation and the other party is not allowing it on a regular basis, then go for it, because I wouldn't consider that fair for the child. Just be careful that they don't have a good reason though, because you may end up with egg on your face.

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