Having a difficult time on deciding whether to return to the workforce or continue being a SAHM

Christine - posted on 11/14/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




I am a full time SAHM and I have a 9 yr old and a 3 yr old. I am just at a place in life where I am not sure me being home all the time is a good thing. I don't want them to grow up with regrets and I feel me being home with them and not working they will, but on the other hand they are only little once and it is only for a lil while. I don't have any help from their father and I am single. Luckily I do have the support of my family so that does help. I just wanna do the right thing but right now Im not sure what that is. I love being home with them but somedays I do wish I had a career to go to. My 9 yr old is very involved with school and scouts so he does keep me pretty busy and I am afraid if I went back to work I would miss out on alot. It really gets to me when "certain people" look down on me because I do choose to be a SAHM, its almost like a job defines who you are and I disagree my babies are more important than any career to me. Its not like being a SAHM is a walk in the park jus like any other career we have good and bad days. My babies are very attached to me because I am with them 24/7 so me returning to work would be difficult on them I think. Need some advice or input plz......


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Brandy - posted on 11/16/2009




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Julia - posted on 11/16/2009




You are right, being a SAHM is not a walk in the park. That being said, your children are only young once. You will only have this opportunity to mold them into great people. If you are on the fence between going back to work and staying home, you can always look for a way to work from home, around you kids' schedules. That is what I decided to do and it is working out wonderfully for me. I have the satisfaction of having a career and contributing to my family financially while still being there for my children whenever they need me.
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Jennifer - posted on 11/16/2009




I have a 3 year old little girl and I have just started to work at home. I wouldn't go back to into the work place for anything. But I do think that it is important for you to do what you feel is right for you and your kids. Do you ever get to have some "Me time" away from the kids? If not, then maybe that will help you feel better about you wanting to be a SAHM. But if your interested in working from home I have a great place with alot of good things to offer. I would love to share some more info with you when you have time. Even if you don't work from home or you chose to go back to work out of the home just remember that your are doing what is best for you and your kids it really dosen't matter what other people think. Your a great mom no matter what you do!

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I am a SAHM too, and I have been taking up teacher's aide work 1 day a week at a school my mum works at. Until I did this (as a favor to mum) I didn't even think that I would go back to work. But I found that it was reallly great. Now I am soon starting a correspondence uni course, and plan to go back to work full time, once the kids start school. Hopefully you can find something that can work around your other commitments with the kids.

Tracey - posted on 11/15/2009




I was a SAHM too. Just this past september I returned to the work force just part-time. Not only did it give me some adult time, and a sense of self worth outside of the home, it also allows me to have the time spent with the kids that they so desperately need. And parttime can always lead back into full time as the children grow older and find their need for mommy is less. But make your decision based on YOUR needs too, not just the children! Kids are resiliant we are not so much!

Rachel - posted on 11/15/2009




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Tara - posted on 11/15/2009




If you feel like returning to work would be good for all of you then look into your options. When I decided not to return to work my husband and I sat down and figured out costs versus benefits - worked out that it would actually cost us more money for me to go back to work than for me to stay home. I would definitely factor that in when you look at returning to work versus not going back.

It isn't easy being a SAHM, you are on 24/7, don't get sick days, and are definitely not recognized as "working" by some people (personally I think those people are idiots, but that's just my opinion.

Sometimes I feel like I need a career, anything to get me out of the house, talk to another adult, begin a sentence that doesn't begin with NO or STOP, and actually be able to go to the bathroom by myself LOL :) That being said, I am taking a course to do medical transcription from home. I figure that even if I only do it part time, any money I bring in is money we didn't have before, and we don't have to pay for commuting, daycare, extra lunches for me, etc.

As for people who look down on you for staying at home, they just aren't even worth your thoughts at all - especially since you are doing this on your own. I at least have help from my husband and family, and I think anyone who can do it as a single parent is a really strong person.

If you think that working would help your kids gain new views/insights, etc, then maybe look into something you could do part-time or full-time from home and work around the kids schedules. There are a lot of things you could do out there, it just depends what your interests and skills are. I started the training for medical transcription because it parallels my previous work training (business administration and technical support), and I know that I am not a good salesperson so something like Avon, Regal, Mary Kay, etc wouldn't work for me.

Whatever you decide, I think you are smart for checking things out before jumping in feet first. Also, since your son is 9, he is old enough for you to ask his opinion - could be he thinks it's awesome that Mom is home all the time, and doesn't give a second thought about "but she doesn't work".

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