Having behavior trouble at school with my 6 year old son....please help!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a 6 year old son who is an only child, I will be the first to admit that he is sometimes hyper, but he is very smart. The first 9 weeks of school he got sent to the principal once, since then his behavior chart has been sent home with perfect one week and then a letter having to be signed getting sent home. At the end of the first semester he knew everything he was supposed to know by the end of the school year, which I was very proud. Dylan is a great reader and knows how to count and do math pretty well....we were very excited to find out the school was testing him for next year to see if he needed to be in more challenging classes. He is still having behavior problems however, it's never being violent or mean, it's always about joking around while supposed to be working, talking while they are supposed to be quiet....everytime it's always something that is about trying to make the other kids laugh. I would really love for the last 8 weeks of school that he has left to be good and for him to not be getting in trouble. We are trying everything to get through to him...I would welcome any feedback and help with this. He will be 7 in July and I would love to send a greatly behaved child to 1st grade next year....please anyone who has been through this I would love some advice...thanks so much!!!


Sabrina - posted on 03/31/2010




I don't really have advice. I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. My son is very bright also. He is in 2nd grade. He is in the highest math class, doing 3rd and 4th grade work. He recently brought home a test on division... he got 100%. His reading level is also very high. He is reading the Harry Potter novels. His teacher said that when they assessed they students he scored the highest in comprehension. The teacher also says how get goofs off daily (he just started coming out of his shell).

The problem with my son's school is that the classes are to diverse (as in level of ability). There are kids in his class that are doing 1st grade work. To much attention is being put into the failing students.

My poor son has been grounded more than ungrounded this year. Anyway hope it all works out, hang in there. =)

Brandice - posted on 03/31/2010




I have a 5 yr old daughter who had some of the behavior issues you're describing. I talked to my Pediatrician about it and they sent us to a family/child therapist. It worked wonders for both her and me. She has some real signs of ADHD and is now on medication that helps her calm down and sleep at night and therefore she's more rested and less hyper throughout the day. The therapist gave me a lot of pointers on how to react to her acting out and how to explain to her what she should be doing. The main thing that stuck out to me was wording commands in a rewarding way. For example saying things like: WHEN you are good at school, then we can fix that special dinner you love.--Instead of saying things like: Because you were bad you can't have TV. It's rewarding and pointing out the good behavior instead of harping on the bad all the time. Don't be afraid to ask your Ped. for help, they get asked all the time about things like this.


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Kimberly - posted on 03/31/2010




Hello. I am a special education teacher and I work with children who exhibit challenging behaviors. The first question I have is - what is the teacher doing in order to help your son? Is there a positive behavioral support plan being used? Sometimes something as easy as a sticker chart or verbal praise for appropriate behavior is all a child needs.

Catherine - posted on 03/31/2010




My son is in the 2nd grade. He took Kinder for 2 years. He was having behavior problems but wasnt mean to other kids either. He just couldnt sit still and wouldnt pay attention and I thought he was just acting out and I never knew or heard of ADHD before his pediatrition sent me to a child phsycologist. He was diagnosed with a very high rate of ADHD. He now takes meds to help him focus and the first few days I didnt tell the teacher and she calls me telling me he was a "new" kid! I told her then what was going on so she could help me if he has any side effects or anything. I only regret not knowing about adhd and being able to help him. The stuff I went through with him was heartbreaking bc he would literaly work on one word for like an hour and would still not know how to say or spell it and he would cry and hit his head and asked me why he couldnt get it and thats when I made him an appt. I am certainly not a dr but maybe he could see a child phsycologist just to be sure. Good Luck

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