Held Hostage?

Beth - posted on 01/12/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




ok, Cole a good sleeper from 4 months, the dream baby, you lay him down, and walk out, he put him self to sleep. Okay now fast forward to 16months and Christmas, he go stomach flu, so did I, daddy was home more, taken off of night bottle, had to stop milk for a few days to get enzymes back to normal, he didn't want his bottle after that, then he was constipated at New Years.He still has some bug thing because his poop is different, slimy, need to take him in soon, if doesn't clear up. and after new years, did start a new play group. So yes a lot has been going on in his life big changes, but he still still went to bed normal. Now Jan 7 had to leave him with a friend for a few hours, and she laid him down for a nap, he cried, so she went in there and stayed with him until he fell asleep. Didn't know until later, he was up when i got home. Now since then when it is bed time or nap time, he will freak out if I leave the room, after he is in bed. I can't stay in the room, I won't, it is a hap pit that needs to be broken soon, it is now day 4 of this. I really don't know what to do.


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Kathleen - posted on 01/12/2010




It is hard to give a definitve answer here.....It seems he may be having some anxiety the he cannot deal with...You may need to do some calming things with him uch as singing a song (same one over and over) for a bit until he calms down a bit...Might need to do this for a few days.....Also, he may be having separation anxiety since being left with someone he was not familiar with...jsut be patient and soon you will have him back to his old routine....eventually you may have to let him cry it out but at this age it may be better to offer some comfort for a bit.......Good Luck....

Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2010




Honestly, I believe that if a child is crying for you, then he needs you. From what you describe, he has gone through a lot lately and has had many changes. Don't just ignor him, comfort him. We all need a little extra love once in a while (children and adults alike) and from what you describe, he needs it. Once things calm down and life is back to normal, I'm sure he will get back to normal too.

Veronica - posted on 01/12/2010




Did he see you get sick. I think it can be very hard on kids to deal with puking and gettin over the loss of control. My 3 1/2 year old puked in her dads hands and( we all had the sickness) he tryed to get her to the bathroom and as she was puking in the toilet he was in the tub and all she could do was say she was sorry we had to explain to her that it was not her fault I guess she thinks she made daddy do that it was so sad I felt bad for her. It is hard. But your going to have to push through and be strict about a way that your going to place him down for naps and bed time.

Jessica - posted on 01/12/2010




it honestly seems like something dramatic has happen to him or he saw something dramatic/tramatizing. you might want to try reading a book to him and maybe some peaceful music to get him to settle down. he just needs to get back on track. also just keep being strong your not doing anything wrong. he probably just testing his bounderies as well.

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