Help!!! 14 month old son is throwing tantrums

Rachel - posted on 11/12/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hi my name is Rachel. My 14 month son is throwing tantrums especially when I'm trying to put to bed. He also gets really clingy and whiney throughout the day. He never used to do this. Please help with any suggestions you may have. I feel like I'm just dragging myself through the day to drop in bed after he finally goes to sleep.


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Layla - posted on 11/14/2009




I feel your pain. My son will be 16 months this week. For a month or so there I really thought something had to be wrong with him. I was totally caught off guard by the clingy whinny behavior. Although we are still going through this I have found a few things that make things better for us. When he isn't throwing a tantrum I give him tons of affection and even when we are out running errands I still make sure he feels as though he is the center of the universe. People must think I am crazy walking through Target totally engaged with him but it's amazing how much more we get done if he has that from me. The other thing that we do it when he is throwing a tantrum we make sure he is in a secure (baby proofed) room and then walk away and ignore the behavior. I never go far b/c once he has calmed down I go right in and engage with him. Usually he has found interest in something for a moment and if I take the opportunity I can head off any further tantrum (at least for that moment). It is a constant struggle but I promise you once you find what works for you things will get a lot better. The only thing we still have not found a "fix" for is his new habit of waking in the middle of the night, screaming and running around his room. So long as we go in his room and stay with him he's fine but he freaks out again once we try to make our way back to bed. With two older children it's hard to let him "cry it out" on a school night but sometimes we've had to resort to that. Good luck and just remember to cherish these trying moments b/c once they get to school age on my does it get harder in ways you'd never imagine.

Melissa - posted on 11/14/2009




Although he is only 14 months old he is old enough to be taught that that behavior is not acceptable. Put a stop to it immediately every time.

Emily - posted on 11/14/2009




I have gone through A LOT of tantrums, I have three kids and the terrible twos always hit right about 1 1/2. It is soooo frustrating!!!! I have had the most success with ignoring the bad behavior. It doesn't stop the tantrums but lessens and shortens them. I have walked out of countless stores with a screaming child fighting me so hard I was afraid they were going to fall out of my arms. Good news is it goes away when they go to school. Probably seems like a million years away!! But when they finally do you won't remember the tantrums so enjoy!! When you ignore them you have to walk away I know it's hard to do!

Caryn - posted on 11/12/2009




This is fairly normal for this age. Toddlers get very frustrated when they can't do something and 95%of the time this is the cause of the tantrum. Just be patient with him. Show him how to do whatever it is he's trying to do.

For the times a fit is random, just simply ignore him. He will quickly figure out that he isn't going to get any attention by acting that way and will stop.

Shanelle - posted on 11/12/2009




my daughter does that alot, um i would try throughout the day let him watch shows to get him less attatched you know i mean not too disattatched but just not so clingy and with night time does he eat or drink anything before he goes to bed? i try to give my daughter something to eat or drink change her diaper and just shhh her and pat her to sleep. but i have the same problem as we speak . its just try some different methods for your son compared to what your doing right now to see if it workds

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