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Dinah - posted on 10/11/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I used to be a pre-school teacher for 18 yrs before I had my son. I am now a stay at home mom with 1 child. I do the shopping, laundry, carpools, homework, housework and I get tired...my husband looks at what I am doing as nothing, that I get the bum around all day and the he does "WORK.."...he has taken care of my son before without me, one time up to 4 days where I took a well deserved break. My husband is giving me that line about not "Working"...I am not sure how to handle this. Perhaps other moms can share thier insight.



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Brandi - posted on 10/11/2009

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Sometimes my husband and i have discussions like this. He seems to think being home is a dream come true. I love my kids and am grateful that I get to see them every day. I also would love some time away from the house. I don't get out much either. However, at least once a month or every other week or something, I try to find someone who isn't too busy and I just tell my husband that He is in charge of the kids for saturday (or whatever day you can pick) You need some time away, too. the reason he sees staying home as easy is because he would probably love to spend some more time at home, so give it to him lol. I think it's hard for the working spouse to see how mentally demanding stay at home parents have it. I am not always physically tired, but by the end of a week, I have had about all I can handle mentally. With the temper tantrums and "Mommy I want, Mommy can I have, Mommy I need, Mommy, Mommy, Mommy" It gets exhausting. you should hear my husband after one day with our beautiful daughter. he looks like he's been through the ringer lol

Dinah - posted on 10/11/2009

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Thanks Alison...you are smart!! I needed that boost. I would not change anything..and my husband's mom as well as mine was stay at home so he understands the benefits but sometimes he can be a jerk about it..

Alison - posted on 10/11/2009

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My husband use to give me the same thing, that he had a real job (blah, blah, blah) So I got tired of it and wrote him a bill for my services. It listed real going rates of daycare, drycleaning, laundry services, house cleaning costs, and approx how much we would spend on convieniece food if I wasn't home to cook a good meal. It basically made my point for me. Any ways three kids later and he would rather take on 3 more jobs than do mine for one day. But in the end weather or not he ever fully appreciates what you do, just remember that YOU are doing the best that YOU can for your family.

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