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Skye - posted on 05/21/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is going through the "Mummy can't leave my sight or i'll scream" stage, any idea's on how to focus his attention elsewhere so i can actually do housework properly and not rush around doing it all while he naps?

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Games like Peek a Boo and Hide and Seek help teach babies that although they cant see something it is still there. We play peek a boo through the door way often gradually extending the length of time we dissapear for. Its a phase and a part of learning and eventually your baby will understand that you will be back. Untill then try to help him learn through play and perhaps put baby in a sling or carrier so you can carry him hands free and get some stuff done.

Melissa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Some kids just want their mommy. He may just be growing through a stage. A friend of mine had a daughter that was the very same as your son. She couldn't leave the room at all or her daughter would instantly throw a tantrum. It went on for about two months. She ended up having to go do something or go out for about a half hour everyday. She would leave her little one with her husband even if the baby was crying. She let her child cry and so did her husband so that eventually the baby would realize that she does come back , and that she doesn't need to cry. I don't know if that helps you at all, but I thought I would give you the information that I know myself.

Vikki - posted on 05/21/2010

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Hello there! How old is your son? Is he old enough to get involved with what you're doing? My son is 1yr old, I get him to help whenever its possible. By 'help' I mean, giving him something so he feels involved whether its helpful to you or not. For example, I bought him his own dustpan and brush which is now his favourite toy. Also, talking to him and explaining what I am doing helps, as mundane and boring as that may seem, it helps him feel that he isn't being ignored when I am doing housework. Remember that they just want to do what they see you doing.



If getting him involved doesn't work, as long as he can see and hear you, as long as he is no danger, its is really really OK to let him get used to you 'leaving his sight'. He needs to learn that even if you do leave, you are coming back again! Do you ever leave him with someone else while you go out? If you do, do you make sure you say goodbye to him and let him see you leave? or do you quickly rush out before he can notice and get upset? He has to get used to your absences, no matter how short they may be, otherwise you'll never get to even use the bathroom without a meltdown.



These books are helpful "Toddler Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg, also "Montessori from the start" by Paula Polk Lillard.



I really hope I have been able to help, I know how hard it is to cope with a child who wants to be surgically attached to you 24/7.

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Skye - posted on 05/21/2010

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He's just hit 4 months. I try to keep him involved and tell him im just going to wash dishes and stuff., I dont leave him with people often, mostly just my partner or my parents or one of my closest friends. I tell him goodbye and i wont be long and i will see him very soon, im trying to encourge him to wave goodbye and know that im leaving.. I just cant seem to get him to stop screaming

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