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Sarah - posted on 03/06/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is Sarah and my son will b 4 months next week, my question/ concern is am I doing to much with him or do need to slow down? Like in the morning I sing to him we do exercise, he laughs at me cause I make funny moves and then give him a bath and talk about animals and body parts when he's in the bath. And this continues during the whole day. We also do tummy time and swing and bouncer and play with toys and Etc. I just feel like I need to do more cause I want him to b smart, but I get so tired at the end of the day:( help

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Sarah - posted on 03/06/2013

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Thank u I needed to hear that, he's a great boy
I mean he sleeps all night which I like and takes little
Nap here and there, but your right giving him some space
Will make him a individual:) and me some me time, and by the away
He's very active and alert and and very advised at his age
He stared rolling over at 4 weeks and grabbing early and laughing etc
Just hope he Doesn't get board with his silly mommy lol.

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Being active and involved with him is wonderful, but you also want to give him some time to explore and think on his own. Don't feel guilty about putting him in a safe place for a few minutes and letting him listen to music while you take a break.

J loved to rock in his swing and listen to classical music. He liked Techno for tummy time, which I often let him do in his play yard so that I could empty the dishwasher, swap the laundry over, or pick up around the house right quick. By getting quick chores like that done during the day, I could have some "me time" or nap with him when he napped, and get to bed early for a less interrupted sleep (J woke more after midnight than before, so if I could be in bed by 8, that was almost 5 hours! I have heard that most babies follow this same pattern--waking only once or twice at the beginning of sleep, and more frequently toward the end. So try to do your sleeping at the beginning of his sleeping, then just get up early and you will be more rested).

Doesn't really sound like you are doing too much, except for the fact that you feel too tired at the end of the day--that might be a clue you should cut back. It's okay now, because he is still so young and new, but as he gets older, if you keep a pace that wears you out too much, you will get burnt out, and that's not good. Also, you don't have to do everything everyday--if he's having a blast and perfectly content in his swing, don't move him to the bouncer just for a change. Leave him in the swing.

I know that kids who are always entertained by someone/something else often grow to depend on others to entertain and stimulate them, whereas some alone time or independent time will help him develop parts of his brain that help him think independently and develop his own curiosity.

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