Help baby due soon and fiancee working i cant get any money and we are struggling

Katie - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




can anyone help????

my fiancee works full time and i left my job and then found out i was pregnant and im not intitled to a penny we can only just afford the bills and are struggling to find money for food. and now we will have a baby and extra costs please help xx


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Summer - posted on 09/30/2009




This is really tough, and I am sorry for your situation. WIC is really a lifesaver for formula if you can qualify for it, but if you can breastfeed then you have a potentially unlimited supply of formula and it is better for your child anyway. Definately you should check into WIC though if nothing but for the other things they offer besides formula, and also check into anything else available at your local health department or human services department. You won't know what you will or won't qualify for until you try, and it never hurts to try. Now isn't exactly the time to be too proud to try to get help. When my sister and I were babies after my mom went back to work she used PET milk (canned milk) as our formula. It's really cheap. We were never underweight, and we turned out just fine. I don't know what the nutritional content is on that, so definately talk to the doctor about that if you want to try it. I know that there are liquid baby vitamins that you can add to it also. You can try cloth diapers to save money on those, and for wipes my mom had to use wash cloths and warm water when my sister and I were little because everything else broke us out. Those things can be washed and used over and over though, so they kind of are money savers even if they aren't as convenient. As for food, I also had this struggle with my first son. I was a single working mother living on my own then. I literally had like $20 a week left for food after my bills were paid, babysitter was paid, and diapers were bought for my son. I actually did have WIC for him though. I ate lots of condensed soup, ramen noodles, pb&j, and cold sandwiches made with whatever type of meat was on sale that week. I drank mostly just water because I didn't have money for soda or sugar even to make tea. Beans and rice are also cheap and last for a long time. This cheapo diet helped wonders for my weight That's kind of how I had to look at it to keep from going nuts eating the same thing over and over. But you just do what you have to do simply because you have to do it. Beggars can't be choosers was something I said to myself over and over again. And I also reminded myself that there were millions of people all over the world who had it so much worse than I did, and for that reason I did not have a right to feel sorry for myself. You can try to plan all your outings that would involve using fuel for your vehicle. If you need groceries, make a list and ask hubby to pick them up on the way home so you won't have to make a special trip. You can go down to the bare minimum on your phone and cable and internet. Also just remember that He never gives us more than we can handle. Overcoming these challenges will only make you and your husband better parents. Some other things you can look into are refinancing any of the debt you may have. It may not be ideal, but if you have 2 vehicles you may consider going down to only one and choosing it to be the more fuel efficient of the two. Or if you have a significant amount of debt, you may want to consider bankruptcy. It is kind of a sucky solution, but it is there if you truly need it. If you are renting you can try looking for a cheaper place to rent. You may also need to consider moving in with a relative for a while. If you want to work, then you might look for something at a daycare. Most daycares offer free or reduced services for their employees. Nothing about the situation is going to be ideal or easy, so you should just get prepared for that. And don't forget to enjoy your baby even though you have all this going on. Sacrifice is hard, but just tell yourself you can do anything for your child. Also you never know if you can do something until you try. My grandpa once told me that it's amazing what you can live without when you have to live without it. Congratulations on your little bundle, keep your head up, good luck, you can do it, and I hope things work out for you!

Julia - posted on 09/30/2009




I would say check with your local health department or social services office. If they can't help you, they may be able to point you in the right direction.

Amanda - posted on 09/30/2009




Quoting Angela:

Did you check out WIC in your neighborhood? It will help by getting you food, and formula for your baby at no cost. Since you're not married, they will go only from your income. Its not much, but formula is expensive, and the will give it to you free, and also things like bread, cheese, milk, juice...ect for you. I hope this helps :) Good luck, and congrats!

I must say it is hard to come up with the money when expecting. I was let go from my job because my doctor took me off work at 8 months. I have to comment on this quote because I was only in a relationship with the father at the time and not married and i was denied from WIC because they do go off the household income, not only yours, and we were paying out over $300 a month more in bills then was made and they said there was too much money coming in the household. I hope that both of your families are supportive because that is the only way we survived for 10 months was with my family providing diapers and formula and clothes for my daughter and food for us two. I wish and cannot express how much luck to you as i do feel for your situation.

Angela - posted on 09/30/2009




Did you check out WIC in your neighborhood? It will help by getting you food, and formula for your baby at no cost. Since you're not married, they will go only from your income. Its not much, but formula is expensive, and the will give it to you free, and also things like bread, cheese, milk, juice...ect for you. I hope this helps :) Good luck, and congrats!

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Jill - posted on 09/30/2009




Are you interested in working from home? It usually requires a business cost though...

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