help everyones against me!

Chelsea - posted on 04/18/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I've been a stay a home mother for a few years now. I haven't had the best of luck with employment all my life so far. Every one except my side of the family doesn't support me being an at home mother. I'm exhausted from defending myself for what I do at home for my family and that I don't just sit on my butt 24/7. Even when I was employed people would say I need a better job. Even my husband feels I need employment but he has the only vehicle and always expects more from me. I feel I cannot satisfy anyone and I'm not respected or looked upon greatly. I keep trying to be positive and my children always make me smile but adults suck and always put me down. What can I do to feel better or say to make them back off. I just want to put a wall up because they don't get that I love being with my girls and helping them grow!

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Eden - posted on 04/21/2014

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I think most people just do not understand that being a stay at home mom is actually the hardest non lazy job u can find. People especially men don't understand all that we go through to take care of our family's. I think its a bit sad no one is supportive of ur career choice right now, its funny that people will bitch about today's society yet when there a stay at mother trying to right by her kids people also bitch, the problem with that is most people are unhappy n will bitch either way. Not to mention I could not imagine being at homewith the kids with no car! N its really not that fair that men ask more, my guy started saying I need to do more around the house n I almost hot the floor, I feel taking care of our 2mnt old n the house is enough, not to mention were the ones who went through the whole pregnancy labor n birth. Men could not handle a day in our shoes.

Priyanka - posted on 04/24/2014

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Hi Chelsea.

"Life is 10% of What Happens to Me and 90% of How I React to It" Always remember this quote while you feel affected by actions of people around you. No one can make you happy or unhappy unless you want to. Sometimes situations are harsh but our reactions make them even harder. Just think over... I can relate with your condition as I am mom of 2 and staying at home and finding it really hard to get back to work...

What your husband or anyone else tells you about going out, should not hurt your feelings unless you yourself want to work and leave the kids home. Decide yourself first and politely assert your feelings to your husband. No one is or can be against you. De-stress your self and evolve as a human. Spare some time for yourself. Take up anything, say, hobby you wanted to indulge in, craft, decoration or DIY projects with kids... or look for something like direct marketing etc from home, if u could manage with kids. there are n number of possibilities if u look in for. So stay calm and do talking with your self and i am sure u wud come out all smiling. Best of Luck!

Eden - posted on 04/21/2014

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Being a mom like that is the hardest job that doesn't pay money. I think its very important to have moms that want to spend all their time helping thier children grow. I do feel as though it can be the hardest job in the world it truly is the most rewarding as well. Ur right it doesn't matter what others think as long as ur fulfilled, it would be nice though if others realized how much work goes into being a full time mom. Maybe next time somebody says something to u, u can just smile at them cause u know what ur doing n they can't take away how important it is!

Natasha - posted on 04/21/2014

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The most vital change you need to make is to STOP defending yourself and your position. I have been a homemaker for six years, and I have seen the socialistic battle lines people draw against those of us who still deem it appropriate to raise our children as opposed to letting society. Your position in life is just as important as those who choose to earn a paycheck. Plain and simple, these individuals encourage adult drama and lack the substantial logic to back it.

There is no major significance between the two; both attribute to the family. If you feel as though what you’re doing is important and more beneficial to your children it shouldn’t matter what someone else thinks. You don’t need to summarize your daily routines and responsibilities to appease those who only give value to positions which come with paychecks.

This is a 24/7 position; 365 days…no vacations, no raises, no thanks. Our time cannot be calculated monetarily-money doesn’t buy everything. Keep your head up, and don't question the importance of raising your children. This does and will make a difference.

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