Help!! I am on the fence about a second child.

Loving - posted on 07/09/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Ok so me and my husband have once again been exploring the option of a second child. Let me give you a good idea of our situation. We are fully ready financially, we are stable in a stable home. I am a stay at home mom and my husband works. However he is a professional tattoo artist. So his schedule is 4 days a wk from 12-9 or somedays 11pm.We plan on opening our own shop soon... Probably within the next 5-9 months soon... We have been back and forth on having a second child for over a year now.... my son is now 2yrs and 5 months... if we were to get pregnant now that would put them 3 years 2mths apart at the least, and close together is important to us. I feel like its now or never!!! We both come from families of sibilings... and right now my son only sees one of his cousins 1 a month (if that) and the others live in different states so that's maybe once a year.... I want him to have someone to share life experiences and childhood memories with... when we are gone I don't want to leave him all alone... Although you can plan another child but you can't plan their adult/future relationship.. I am so confused... My lil man is so good and independent, he plays well with others and is very social! Of course he throws his fits like any other toddler lol. Those days make me think, how can I handle a second?? Everytime I see a friend on fb announcing their second or first or third pregnancy I am instantly jealous! The thought of pregnancy and finding out the sex, and having a sweet little tiny baby again makes me really want one so bad! But at the same time I am so scarred to loose the freedom I have, I love to draw in my free time, I feel like I will never have that again for atleast 3 years.... I feel like I will be taking away from my first and that it will damage his self confidence. Also how will we have another one and start a business?? I mean I don't really plan on being there for the first couple years anyways because of my first... but I was planning to care of paper work from home... can we still handle it??? Is it so hard to have another? I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO LOL. HElp

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Loving - posted on 07/09/2014

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Also wanted to add, that I am not really on a specific schedule like most, my days are a bit lets see how it goes. With 3 meals a day of course.

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