HELP!!!!! I want to runaway!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brandy - posted on 12/21/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I've been with my husband for 15 yrs and we have 9 year old triplets. Lately, I have been wanting to run away from everything. When I tell my husband how I feel, he thinks that I want to leave to be with another man. Why would I run to what I'm trying to run away from?! I just need some time to myself so that I can recharge my brain and just "do me" for once. My husband doesn't trust me and never wants me to go anywhere alone. I'm tired of him treating me like a kid and I just need some time alone. How do I let him know how I feel without him thinking that I'm leaving him for another man?

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Kelina - posted on 12/22/2011

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Have you thought about counselling just for yourself? That might help you deal with some issues and give you some good ideas all in one go. If all you need is a break why don't you see about inviting a friend to the movies and going for a girls night or something? Or maybe planning a trip to visit some family that lives a little while away so that you could visit but be away from your hubby and the kids? What about the two of you, do you ever go out just by yourselves, no kids? Marriage is like a battery, it needs recharging now and then.

Laura - posted on 12/21/2011

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Where do you want to go? If you want to go to a coffee shop, why don't you go first and tell him to meet you there in 20 minutes (keep your cell phone on). If you want to go work out, do the same thing, tell him where you're going and that you want him to meet you after a while. Of course, it isn't right that he is so suspicious, that might require some marriage counseling to figure out. My thinking is that after he sees where you like going and that you are just being out, alone, he'll begin to trust that you are where you say you are. Take him shopping! He'll tire of that quickly. Whatever you do, make sure you get your YOU time.

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Denise - posted on 06/09/2014

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I get it! My husband is controlling also.
This may sound like oversimplifying, but,
if you can go-get a pedicure, let's say. That is
actually doing something, that takes about an
hour. When you come back he will see what's been
done-not you with another man, but, your pedicure, plus,
your little break.
Trust me, I need breaks too! I often fantasize about running away. As time goes on you will find moments for yourself. I have 6 kids, only 2 are adults. One set of twins in the group. Raising 4 young ones has major challenges. We need our breaks to recharge.

»Heidi« - posted on 12/23/2011

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When I need some "me" time, I tell DH and then go to the store. Even if it is just a 10 minute trip, those minutes away from the house help immensely!

Brandy - posted on 12/22/2011

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Thanks for all the sugesstions...I talked to him about marriage counseling, but he thinks that it's not needed. I don't know what else to do. Sometime I think that if I was to leave him he would consider going.

User - posted on 12/21/2011

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It sounds like he has some bad insecurity issues. Have you tried counselling as he needs to see that's not what you want? Typical guy, soooo self-centered and selfish. Maybe someone else explaining it to him he will listen? You need some 'you' time or you will feel overwhelmed. But don't run away from your kids, it's not their fault. Look for help? Maybe some casual care??

Kyleigh - posted on 12/21/2011

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Sounds like you need some "me " time I hope you find a way to make that happen!

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