HELP KIDS KEEP WAKING UP!!!!

Eloise - posted on 12/30/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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HI ALL

DURING THE LAST TWO MONTHS THERE'S BEEN SOME DRAMATIC CHANGES IN OUR LIVES.MY KIDS AGES 2 AND MY SON 5 MONTHS HAVE GONE FROM SLEEPING THROUGH THE NIGHT TO WAKING SEVERAL TIMES A NIGHT.I'M PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED AND COULD USE A GOOD NIGHTS SLEEP.ANY TIPS/HELP MUCH APPRECIATED ESPECIALLY FOR MY SON I CAN'T KEEP WAKING UP EVERY HALF HOUR.THANX IN ADVANCE

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Renae - posted on 01/03/2010

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I am responding about your son. 25% of babies who have their parents with them when they go to sleep suddenly stop being able to go to sleep and start waking at night between 5 and 12 mo, closer to 5mo is more common. If this is what is happening, you can either wait it out, there is a greater than 60% chance he will go back to normal within 1-3 months on her own (also 40% chance he wont). Or you can teach him to go to sleep on his own. First though, you need to be sure that he is not waking out of hunger and that the waking is not caused by any emotional stress he might be picking up on. If it is, then you need to wait until things reach a normality and are peaceful again and see if he goes back to sleeping through.



To teach him to go to sleep and sleep through the night you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.



If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave him to figure out he is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to his cries so that you know if he needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.



The most common no-cry option is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.



Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method.



There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).



You can also try the book Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall, lots of mums swear by it.

Jackie - posted on 12/30/2009

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I'm sorry but we are talking about a 5 month old baby. He is suppose to be waking up at night!!! Pull him into bed with you he is looking to feel safe and protect. Since you are his only parent now its your job to make him feel that way and he will sleep. So save yourself the insanity... pull him into bed with you so he isn't waking the older child and get some sleep for goodness sakes. You can deal with any "bed issues" later down the road when you are well rested and your baby is actually at an age that you can talk and reason with him. Because 5 months old is NOT it. If the older one keeps getting up even after that... invite them into your bed too! You will feel better. You will sleep and they will feel better too. The CIO method isn't going to work for you.. it hasn't yet.

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Courtney - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Eloise:

SHAME SORRY TO HEAR.IF U NEED TO TALK I'M HERE.WHAT HAPPENED 2 YOUR FAMILY?


Well, its not that anything in particular happened.  Its been a host of things really.  The one thing I think that is playing a major roll in it is a new baby bed.  We just moved to the state we live in now and our baby daughter was born and slept in a pack n play.. the one with the bassinet.  Well, this year as she's grown, we took the bassinet out and we made the play pen up like a little bed and she slept by our bed by me.  Well, we just had the funds to purchase a brand new baby bed.  I think she hates it as well as being on the other side of the room from me.  She's still in the room with me, but just my bed is on one side of the room, hers is on the other.  Those are my first thoughts as to why she's not sleeping.  She'd been having bad dreams and fits which have been keeping me up for a while, but since the bed they've gotten worse.  Used to she'd just stand at the edge of her playpen and gripe a little but then lay down after a few hugs and a bottle.  Now, NO WAY, JOSE! lol.  I don't know what her deal is, but am thinking that its been exacerbated by the new bed.



I think as far as two of my other kids, I think my six year old is experiencing insomnia.  We can never get her on a schedule because of it.  I'm thinking its gettin to the point of taking her to the doctor.  Because what happens is that she has her bouts of insomnia, she gets up in the middle of the night and goes and wakes the oldest, which is my seven year old.  Then they are both up.  What usually happens after that is an audience over my sleeping head if I'm so lucky to have been asleep in the first place.  Once the older two break into my room and wake me up, it usually leads to their waking the baby who already has her own issues.  Also, to help my three year  old sleep, I've let her have the OTHER corner of my room with her playpen.  They'll end up waking her up.  Then I'm up with four angry kids all wanting something.



I've actually developed a heart problem from the constant stress and fatigue in my life with all this and more going on.  Thats why I say if you can nip it in the bud right now, you might wanna do it before it makes you crazy.  If ya find a way to help things in your house... holler over my way and let me know.  I'm about to sleep in the freakin car. LMBO!!!

Helena - posted on 12/30/2009

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use the three step rule. when they wake the first time,go in to them,tuck them up and say its bed time, time for sleeping and say night night then leave the room.when they get up again,tuck them up again but only say night night. then the third time tuck them up but say nothing. and leave them. keep going through the third step all night till they get it. i will give it a week max and they will be sleeping through again for you. i worked for my kids and a lot of my friends kids too. good luck! from helena xx

Courtney - posted on 12/30/2009

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Ugh, girl.. let me know when ya get a good answer on this one because I'm going through the same thing with my 13mos old. Not only is she not sleeping well anymore, but when she wakes up... the girl attempts to raise the dead in the cemetery a few blocks over. Its very disturbing to wake up to that. Its almost four a.m. and I'm still up. best wishes for a restful night, chick. We BOTH deserve and could use one. lol.

Eloise - posted on 12/30/2009

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YES THERE HAS BEEN SOME DRASTIC CHANGES IN OUR HOME LIFE.MY FIANCEE HAS BEEN SENT TO PRISON MY SON WAS 2 AND HALF MONTHS WHEN THIS HAPPENED.I TRY COMFORTING THEM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE BUT AGAIN I TOO NEED SOME MUCH NEEDED SLEEP ALSO SINCE ALL THIS HAPPENED I'VE GONE FROM BF TO FF IT SEEMS LIKE HE'S ALWAYS HUNGRY I'VE EVEN INCREASED THE AMOUNT (120-200 ML) DOESN'T SEEM TO HELP I DON'T WANNA KEEP POPPING A BOTTLE EVERYTIME HE CRIES BUT IT'S THE ONLY THING THAT HELPS.I'M ALSO LIVING WITH OTHER PEOPLE SO I CAN'T REALLY LEAVE HIM TO CRY IT OUT.PLEASE HELP AT MY WHITS END

Tameka - posted on 12/30/2009

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i had the same problem with my 3 1/2 year old it started about 6 months old when his father and i separated, the only thing i could do in the end was leave him alone the more i tried to calm him the worse it got. i tried everything but even when he was in my bed he wouldn't settle.i learn t to tell the difference with his cries whether he was in pain or not and went by my instincts. it still happens sometimes but rarely now he got used to settling him self

Michelle - posted on 12/30/2009

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Just leave them. My son is 19 months and the first night you do it is always hard, but they learn quickly-- It's just like showing them that throwing toys isn't ok; waking up constantly is just a vie for attention. Just don't give it to them.

Why did this start? Has there been a major change in your home life? If that's the case then I retract my advice-- up to a certain extent you should show them that whatever changed may have happened but you'll always be there.

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