Help! My 12 month old suddenly isn't tired at night!

Stephanie - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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We thought it was a fluke last night, but now it's happened again. My son has always been a good sleeper. He was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks or so, and has been doing it since, whenever he wasn't teething or sick. The night before last, my husband put him to bed at around 9:30, and then he slept until about 2am, fussed until 4, then decided he wasn't tired anymore and he wanted to play. My husband put him in his playpen with a cuddly blanket and stuffed animal and just went to work early. So I was awake at 4 listening to him babble at himself and squeal at the cat. Then he was tired, cranky, and difficult all day yesterday. Last night, the same thing happened. He went to bed at 9, then woke up at 1am, fought until 4, and now he's wide awake again. I'm up with him, and it kills me to know that my day with him today will be as bad as yesterday. I don't think I can deal with this anymore. I'm exhausted, and I spend all day mad at him because he's being fussy and overreacting about everything all day. Worst of all, I'm worried that he's forgotten that night time is for sleeping and I'm going to have to re train him to actually sleep at night! What can I do? He's clean, had teething tablets, milk, cuddles, darkness, quietness, we tried to let him cry it out...what else is there to do??

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Barbara - posted on 02/04/2010

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hi stephanie, my little fella whos 20 months now, went the

rough the same thing. i was also shattered and had my 6 yrs old to look after aswell. i tried everything, but nothing seemed to work. i just.

keeped him in his routine as much as possible, left him in his cot at nap time crying, but checking him every 10 mins, so he knew i was there but not talking to him. its hard to hear them screaming but they will cry themselves to sleep and u try and get some sleep.



does he have a bath before he goes to bed? i found this helped as part of the routine, and not taking him back downstairs. out of the bath and straight into bed.

hope he calms down for u soon.

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Catherine - posted on 02/20/2010

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I know how you feel. My little girl slept all the way through the night from birth until 9mths. She is doing the same things as your son and she is nearly 3yrs.She is still not sleeping and we have try alot of things. We have had her to a sleep Dr as well. If you find anything which help please let me know.

Stephanie - posted on 02/19/2010

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Thanks, ladies. He got better, but then it all started over again. He does get a bath before bed, and my house is small enough that I can hear him screaming in my bedroom, which is on the opposite side from his. The comments are really helping me come to grips with not coddling him. He's definitely at the teaching age and thanks to you guys, I'm keeping it in my head that I'm setting limits now that will prevent me from being a doormat later. Thanks again! And Mindy-my husband and I have been wearing earplugs at night...I guess like the others said, as long as you know they're fed and dry...

Mindy - posted on 02/04/2010

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my daughter started to do that around 12 months she is now 14 months and I still have the same problem I can relate to you alot.. try music sometimes that helps me lil one.. different things work different night.. thank you for posting this.. I could use some advice as well.

Cindy - posted on 02/04/2010

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It's awful letting them cry it out isn't it??? I remember it causing big fights between me and my husband! Don't be fooled though! If he senses that you're willing to go in there (and you know he is fine) then he'll expect it all the time. This is the beginning of him testing what you'll deal with and what you'll ignore. If you know he's healthy and fed, then he'll have to suck it up! Careful of napping to long during the day, of course, too. Generally, mine took about 45 minutes to an hour (of pure screaming on and off) to stop the first night or two, then down to 10-20 minutes, then usually gone. I used to turn the monitor off when I HAD to sleep. Remember, if you feel awful, then things will not be at there best. You have a responsibility to him to care for him, but not to kill yourself in the process. As long as he's cared for, take care of yourself! It does stink though! Good luck and don't give up!

Tiana - posted on 02/04/2010

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Yah routine and being heaps quite at night is the best. But if ur bubs has been fed in the last few hours b4 bed, burped and changed he should be fine. With my lil girl that is my general habbit, maybe there are other pains? try some baby panadol on the really bad times to relax him, maybe it will help with whatever is unsettling him. Like weather, gas, teething, tummy pains. Sorry if it's nothing you don't already know, but some babys get coddled too much. I get told to try not to hold her as much or let her sleep on me for long, cuz then she gets used to the attention and wants it more. But when the sleep habbits change for the worse I know how stressful it can feel.

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