Help! My 6 1/2 month old does not want anyone but me and refuse to be put down!

Elyse - posted on 01/26/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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The only way I am writing this right now is because my little boy is taking a nap FINALLY! The past couple of days he does not want anyone but me, which is not unusual but if anyone even looks at him or touches him now he goes BALLISTIC! Today I have been the only one around besides his older brother and all the sudden he refuses to be put down even to play. My older child who is now 4 never had this problem and has always been able to entertain himself very easily. The difference with my eldest though was the fact I had to put him in daycare at 4 months of age. Now that I am a stay at home mom I am getting nothing done around the house because my youngest wants to be held ALL THE TIME. I realize this is a developmental stage of maybe a little separation anxiety, but what can I do to cope with this or help him entertain himself better? THANKS!

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Emily - posted on 01/26/2009

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I just read one of your other posts and had a couple more suggestions.

For teething, try rubbing his gums with clove-oil (2-3 drops diluted in 1 tsp olive oil) or baby orajel, or try Hyland's Teething Tablets. You can also let him chew on a frozen washcloth, or frozen peas if he's started solids.

For the sleeping, check out the "No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. She's got some great suggestions for helping little ones sleep longer stretches and self-soothe, without the crying. She also has some tips for making sure there isn't a physical reason behind frequent wakings (such as teething, too hot/too cold, etc).

Emily - posted on 01/26/2009

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Personally, I would just get a good baby carrier like a sling, wrap, or mei tai and strap your baby on. He'll be much happier when he's with you, and he'll let you know when he wants to get down and play. Plus, you'll have your hands free to help your older son and get housework done.

I'm a SAHM of three little ones (3 1/2, 2 1/2 & 1), plus #4 is coming in September... I don't know how I would have survived without all my baby carriers!

Also, each of my girls have gone through phases around 6-9 months where they refuse anyone but mom. They even scream with daddy. But around 9 months, they start to branch out again and accept daddy, and sometimes an aunt or grandma. By 12 months they're all little social butterflies and would prefer almost anyone over mommy... except when they want to nurse. :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2009

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I was having a brain fart when I read the title to your post.  6 1/2 months old.  Dah.  Oh I so understand yoru pain.  A set of twins doing what your son is doing is so much fun.  Mine are now 3.  Anyway, one question about sleeping...did you / do you swaddle?  My 8 month old is still swaddling to sleep (just around his arms).  With my other 3 around during the day, (4 yo son, 3 yo twins)  the only way I can really get Collin a nap is to get him into a swing.  That might help with his sleeping.  I used a side to side swing with everyone and they love it.  I also put Collin in it in the morning if he wakes up too early for me.  Cry Cry Cry, sound asleep until 0830.  So nice. 



One exersaucer that my kids loved was one with a center post and a seat that moved around it, so they could "walk".  That might be something new.  Here is the link.  It is called Bright Stars Around we Go.  http://www.brightstarts.com/BSSub14x53x1...  Collin is in it right now.  He can see me and I can surf! 



When it gets SO bad that I am about to pull my hair out, I put it all aside and get down on the floor and just play with them.  Sometimes "giving in" is just what they need. 



I hope some of this helped.  Let me know.



 



 

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I am the SAHM of 2 little ones.  This is probably as you have mentioned just a developmental stage exasperated by him teething.  He might be about to reach another milestone in his development.  My son would be more clingy or not sleep well just before a developmental milestone.  One thing I did learn while raising 2 little ones is that just when you think you can't stand one more day of a child's quirks ( waking 10 times a night, wanting to be held all the time etc) they grow one more day older and switch to something else.  Hang in there.  I don't think this is something you need to break him of, he just needs additional attention now.  If you have a backpack, you could put him in that so you could have your hands free.

Karla - posted on 01/26/2009

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If this has not being going on too terribly long I would say it is a teething or growth spurt issue. If something is interupting the sleep schedule they are more needy and cranky. If it helps my 20 month old has started this over the past week. I cannot get anything done. I had to sneak out of the house with my son to spend some time with him and left my husband with a crying angry little girl!

Elyse - posted on 01/26/2009

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yes i have tried an exersaucer, and a playmat and every single one of his toys that he seems to haved liked in the past and ect ect ect, and all he does is scream bloody murder. I have tried taking him out...he is happy SOMETIMES in the car and sometimes not, he usually lasts about 5 min in a stroller.  He is teething right now, so is this just a phase or will I be creating a habit by giving into anything right now and giving up going to the bathroom by myself! thanks for responding...oh and part of another problem that could be related to this problem is he naps for 15-30 min and then wakes up and is up for 2 hours and then does the same thing. My oldest would nap for 1-2 hours in the morning and 3 in the afternoon and sometimes a late one, which my youngest WAS doing till about a month ago. Maybe his naps just seem short too because the rest of the time he is screaming if I am not holding him! THanks!

Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2009

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May sound like a stupid question, but when you put him down, is it in an exersaucer or anything?  I have 3 of those and a walker that my son can play in.  They all keep him busy (he is my 4th.  I would also tell you to just put him down.  I know he is probably screaming or making some kind of sound that makes your head want to explode, but he will learn.  Also have you tried a Mom's day out with him? 



What about teething?  Is he popping teeth and just miserable right now?  My kids get really clingy when they are teething!

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