HELP! My child will not stop throwing temper tantrums.

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My son is one and will not stop throwing temper tantrums. It's driving me crazy! This is my first kid so i'm not sure the best way to deal with this. Any advice will be much appreciated.


Tarryn - posted on 08/31/2010




Hi Jessica:) My son has recently started doing this. The first day I saw him acting out in a different way, I thought to myself, is this the start of tantrums or just a bad day for him? Anyway, I thought about the day so far and realised that there was no reason for him to be acting out this way. So, I took him by the hand put him in a safe environment, went down to his level and told him that he is more than welcome to throw a tantrum but he will do so there and once he is done he may come and get a hug and a kiss from me, and I walked away. It lasted for 5 mins and it was over with. This is my approach to tantrums! Hope it helps:)

Joan - posted on 08/31/2010




i have 2 bio children and raised my nephew,so we had our share of temper tantrums. i always found the best way to handle a tantrum if redirection or distraction doesn't work then you need to walk away . the more attention you give to the bad behavior the more likely they are to continue. don't cave to embarresment(sp) or guilt. just walk away as if you don't notice.


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Jessica - posted on 09/12/2010




When my daughter, who is also my first, throws tantrums I ignore her which is soooo much easier said than done. She has followed me screaming through the house before. They usually dont last long adn when she is done she gets a hug and a kiss and all is better.

Shamera - posted on 09/12/2010




I have to agree with Mandy, I have a daughter who is 15 months old and most of the time she gets cranky and throws tantrums if she is sleepy or didn't get enough sleep. The thing I have found best is to leave her in her room for awhile (it is entirely baby-proofed) to calm down and check on her frequently, if she won't after 10-15 minutes then I fix her a sippy cup and lay her down in her crib. (I know cuppys in bed can be a whole issue on their own, my little one has always done good with it, no ear infections, ect.)
Another thing to do is watch for his sleepy indicators, (eye rubbing, thumb sucking, ect.) they may or may not be a precursor to cranky-ness.

Kristin - posted on 09/11/2010




I think a lot of the reason young toddlers throw temper tantrums is because they don't have much control over anything. Have you tried offering choices to your son? Such as... do you want a bananna or an apple? Sometimes if they feel like they have control over some things, they are more willing to be agreeable other times. My son also throws more tantrums when he is tired and/or hungry. Check out this article on temper tantrums... it has some resources for parents with ideas on how to manage tantrums...

Mandy - posted on 09/11/2010




It starts early doesn't It? Before you know it your sweet baby starts doing the temper tantrums. I've gone through it 3 times now and honestly the most contributing factor seemed to be sleep with all 3 of them. Having good rest will help prevent future tantrums. My 1yo got 10-11 hours of sleep at night and then napped 2-3hours.

Rebecca - posted on 09/11/2010




My 16 month old is just starting that too. at the moment i generally just ignore him - but I think i may start putting him in his cot if possible, although most of his tanties happen when he is in highchair so bit tricky when hes all covered in food!

Pamela - posted on 08/31/2010




Just know you are not alone, my 1 year old has them often too. Ignoring them helps the most, for both of us:) Just remember your will has to be stronger than his. Good luck!

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