Help my daughter wont sleep at night....

Allysha - posted on 10/28/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )




Ok so Im a stay at home mom of 2. My daughter is 4 will be 5 in Jan and my son is 16 months. Recently I have been having alot of problems with her cleeping through the night. She was doing so good now she gets up in the middle of the night and it can last from 1 hour to 2 or 3 hours. I just cant take it anymore. There is nothing I can do to make her go to sleep. She will continue to come out of her room and make up excuses on why she cant sleep. She goes back and forth to her fathers every other weekend and Im not sure what is going on there but seems to me like she has someone sleeping next to her there. Which at my house that doesnt happen. She just doesnt care if I scream, get mad, comfort her, be nice or anything else I try. It doesnt matter to her she goes right back to the same thing. Its been going on at least a month now. She tells me that im gonna leave her if she goes to sleep so i showed her im not but its like she is being told something like im leaving her. Its very stressful...Anyone have advice??


Abby - posted on 10/28/2009




Thats tough!! I so feel for you!

Ok heres a few things to try: My son did this to me at 20 months, I put him to bed one night and left for a week long vacation without him, I told both him and his brother what was going on and grandma was there the entire time but when I got back he would wake up about 4 or 5 times just to see if I was still there, it lasted for months! I finally started telling him not only that I would be there in the morning but what we would be doing (in the morning I'll dress you and feed you and then we are going to go see grandma) It stopped it cold turkey, he needed to visualize I would be there in the morning.

At her age just words may not be enough, let her sleep with your purse in her room or just your car keys so she know you cannot leave without getting them.

Do not stay with her when she gets up, that is what she is going for, simply return her to her bed. I am very impressed that you have not let her in your bed yet, some think its ok but if you don't DON'T give into that! I never did but I know once you start it never ends.

Also offer a reward, give her 5 stars when she goes to bed, every time she gets up she loses a star, once she get to keep a total of 10 stars over however many days give her a reward. A new toy, a trip to chucky cheese, whatever will work for her.

Good luck, hang in there!!

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