help! my son will not sleep on his back

Jessica - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )




i have tried everything. he won't do it. he could be in the deepest sleep and as soon as i put him on his back he freaks out and when he does sleep for a second he ends up choking and cant breathe. and then when i pick him up he burps the biggest burp to where i can tell it hurts him. he is perfectly fine and comfy on his stomach and will sleep all nite but im so afraid of sids so i dont put him on his stomach in his crib so he has been sleeping on me. this is at the cost of mommy/daddy time. my baby is 3 months old now and i dont believe in sleep training or just letting him scream in the bed. anybody hav any other suggestions?


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Len - posted on 04/20/2010




I have three kids each liked a different sleep position, one on his belly with his but in the air, one on her side and one on her back. I would put him on his tummy if thats how he'll sleep. I slept on my tummy and all three of my sibling slept on there tummy my son slept on his tummy, were all alive and healthy, I think your ok. If there is a question take him to the Dr and make sure he doesn't have any health problems and explain the situation ask his opinion.

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2010




my daughter is 11 months old and hated sleeping on her back, she was in her own room at 6 weeks old i jus led her on her side to go asleep. She now only ever sleeps on her tummy and refuses to lie on her back even whilst having her nappy she is hysterical as soon as lies on her back. If ur child is comfy on there stomach i cant see any problem with lying them on it.

Kaytie - posted on 04/17/2010




Both of my kids slept on there tummys from the time I brought them home from the hospital. As long as there is nothing in the crib you really dont have a lot to worry about. Babys arnt stuped if they cant breath they will move there head. It also helps them learn to roll cause they can push themselfs over easyer from there tummy to there backs.

Gina - posted on 04/17/2010




I know the experts say "back is best" but both of my girls would jerk themselves awake all nite when I tried ,so I let them stay on their tummy.
The suggestions that Sarah D. gave are good ones,and @ 3 mo old, most babies should be able to turn their head pretty well while sleeping to keep from smothering.
Putting a pillow in back and a rolled up baby blanket in front of baby to keep him on his side works just as well as anything you could buy for that purpose.

Christine - posted on 04/16/2010




The general rule I have always heard is if your baby can roll over on their own...BOTH ways.... then they are okay to sleep on their tummy. I don't have any suggestions for you as to how to get him to do that because my daughter was always a back sleeper until she learned to roll and now she just lays however she feels like that night.

Bekah - posted on 04/14/2010




My daughter did not like being on her back after she could roll over, which was at 8 weeks. She did like sleeping on her side, though, and since she was still swaddled at 3 months, we could kind of prop her up and she'd stay. However, she also had that delayed burping thing. I think it was related to her gassiness and colic. We used to wait, wait, wait until we were fairly confident that she'd had her burp before we put her down. Thankfully, she eventually got to the point where she could sit up and burp on her own and then go back to sleep. You might also have son checked for silent reflux. (My daughter was a spitter, so we knew she was having issues.) But if you can hear the choking, but nothing's coming out, maybe he needs some reflux meds to help keep things down. We couldn't do crying it out either and my daughter really did her own sleep just took a long time. Even if your son isn't rolling over, if he's getting tummy time when he's awake and is building neck strength (and can lift his head up), you might try putting him down on his tummy. It is what they used to tell you and seems to help with gassy babies. I have relatives that swear by the Angel BabyCare monitor because it senses your babies movements and will alert you if he doesn't move after so many seconds (since babies make small movements frequently). It might be worth your peace of mind! Good luck! Whatever you decide, just keep in mind that he will grow out of it as his digestive system matures. You'll get your bed back one way or another!

Penny - posted on 04/14/2010




my son would only sleep through the night on his tummy, so i let him, he was in my room and since having him have been a light sleeper. years ago the hospitals used to tell u to put them on their tummys so that if they were sick it wouldnt block there airways, then it changed to on there side and then it changed to on there back. so....... do what u think, aslong as he's still in ur room.

Melanie - posted on 04/14/2010




having seen the damage SIDS can do to a family Im a big pro back sleeper. My heart goes out to you, I was very lucky and my daughter slept on her back till about 6mths (she was rolling as of three but always stayed on her back) once she started rolling in her sleep i was able to go in and turn her over to her back and she would stay there, that only lasted for a few weeks before she would start waking up so then i just had to let her sleep however she wanted to sleep.

there is so much advise out there these days its hard to know what to do, i always say go with what the sids foundation say (which is for bub to sleep on their back) but you also need to be able to sleep yourself you need to do whatever you can handle and whatever helps to get you though the day and night. If it helps put bub on a breathing and movement monitor, just shop around first as there are a few bad ones out there (like the one i got that was setting the alarm off all by its self ALL the time)

wishing you the best of luck xx

Annemaree - posted on 04/14/2010




none of my 3 kids since birth have ever liked sleeping on there backs ive just let them sleep on there sides proped so they couldnt roll ... my daughter is now 6 she always burped like that n hated being on her back the only way she would sleep was on her tummy i let her she was fine.... maybe u could try n prop ur baby up on his back in a sitting up position ..... all i can say is good luck

LeahDawn - posted on 04/13/2010




My son is almost 9 months old and has hardly ever slept on his back. Just make sure there is nothing around that could cover the baby's mouth and nose and let him sleep on his stomach.

Erica - posted on 04/10/2010




follow your instincts that's why you have them! My daughter has always been a side sleeper which scared the crap out of me so we went out and bought a sleep positioner thinking it was a cure all she found a way around that! She is will be 1 on the 23 and is doing just fine! Just keep the fan on as stated above celing fans are best b/c they are designed to move air in the whole room! good luck!

Amy - posted on 04/10/2010




Lay his jungle thing in his crib..if he doesn't mind laying on his back from that then try can keep him distracted to the point of falling can also let him fall asleep in his swing if it makes him more he gets older then transfer him into his crib a few mins after he falls will just be a trial and error thing thats all.

Jessica - posted on 04/09/2010




yea he plays by himself a bunch. we hav one of those jungle things that toys hang from and it plays music. he loves it! it has more to do with him not feeling well on his back as in getting sick than it does with how clingy he is.

Brittnii - posted on 04/08/2010




lol oh well then forget my post LOL :P ummm mind if i ask did u hold your baby a lot when he was first born? theres holding your baby and holding your baby too much...if u have to hold your child all day every day then thats a sign of a clingy baby...its healthy and good to hold your baby dont get me wrong...but to have to hold it all day every day it doesnt learn independence and doesnt learn that mommy isnt always gonna be there. try laying him on the floor on his back and play with him...if he cries then he it everyday for 5 son was the other way around(4 months now) he hated being on his belly so his doctor told me to put him on his belly and give him tummy time for atleast 5 mins everyday so he learns that there is more than just one way...good luck♥

Jessica - posted on 04/08/2010




thats the thing tho....hes not rolling over himself....if he was id just leave him to do whatever but i kno that if i put him on his stomach which is what he wants (he doesnt like his side either) and something were to happen, i would never be able to forgive myself...but then i think what if something happens while hes on his back and he chokes and i dont hear him? i wouldnt be able to forgive myself for that either bc my instincts tell me to put him on his stomach.

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2010




i believe that if your baby can roll over on his or her own an left his or her own head than i let them sleep how ever they want my baby sleeps on her belly and she just turned 3 months also helps her tummy afraid of sids too but i have done research on it and they do have new finding on it.keep the fan on low so it keeps the air moving around the baby have him suek on a binki and if u still r scared there are things that can hold ur baby on his side so he isnt on his back my baby choked on her sppit too when she was on her back so i had her sleep sitting up with the nursing pillow for the first two months than when she flipped her self over i let her sleep how ever she wants

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