Help stop the screaming

Nicole - posted on 12/28/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have 3 daughters. My youngest will be a year old in about a week. Ever since I took her home from the hospital she has been a screamer. She cried when put down since the day she was born. She does has acid reflux and would vomit all the time form ANY formula I gave her. The dr put her on medication and it helped but never stopped the massive amounts she would vomit. I did tend to hold her a little more because I didn't want her to cry so hard she would vomit more. When I started her on solid and she started to crawl the crying and attachment eased up.... She has been off formula since 10 1/2 months old. The vomiting has almost stopped since the formula. My real issue now is my daughter flips out all day long just cries if she doesnt have my undivided attention. I do have other children and am a stay home mom, but I am at a loss on how to fix this. She wont sleep (I have only put her in my bed a hand full of times) she doesn't even want anyone else but me... ( she used to let my kids hold her or my mother but now she mostly screams till I have her) She has always hated the baby swing of anything else that restrains her.... I was putting her in her crib and letting her cry while I cook because she would just hang on me and scream... Now when I bring her next to her bed she cries. It has gotten so bad that I moved my 5 year old daughter into her room thing as long as she saw someone when she woke up she would be ok... that worked for about 2 days!
It seems to be getting worse everyday and I everything I try ends up failing, I need some advise or suggestions before I pull all my hair out!!!!


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Cyndi - posted on 12/29/2009




Have you talked to your pediatrician? I know babies go through a mommy stage.

Nicole - posted on 12/29/2009




Thanks ladies
I have attempted letting her scream it out. I know it sounds mean but I have let her cry for an hr thinking she will just fall asleep. The other day she cried herself to sleep she woke up with a broken eye vessel from throwing such a fit. I am not one to just walk around holding her ( I know it's essential to her development to be put down) I find the more I let her "cry it out" the worse it gets... she now flips out anytime I leave a room. I am just wondering if this is normal?? I know infants go through that stage when they cry when mommy leaves, but this seems to be a lil more extreme. If she is playing on the floor and I sit down to play with her she usually cries and wants to sit on me... It almost like she thrives physical contact, which she is not deprived of, IDK I am just at a loss......uuuggghhhh (big sigh)

Dawn - posted on 12/29/2009




My youngest daughter was like this. I just let her scream it out. It took a few weeks, but she finally got the point and stopped. It was really a battle of the wills because she has a very strong personality. I never put her in our bed because my mom told me how hard it would be to get her out after that. I did use lilac baths to help her relax as well as put on some music when I put her to bed. I never allowed my children to sleep in a totally quiet environment because if they wake up they feel all alone.

Amber - posted on 12/28/2009




My son is 15 months and he is a screamer to. If he can't get a toy right away he screams, if I hold my 3 year old to long he screams, if his sippy cup is empty, if he can't clime on the couch right away, and so on. My best advice is to just let her cry. My son screams so loud and for so long sometimes over any little thing that I would try to fix the problem just to get him to stop. However, the more I helped the more he cried to get me to help. It's really hard sometimes I just want to scream myself but by not helping my son when he can't move his little chair or not helping him clime on the couch he is slowly learning mama isn't going to fix my problem so why bother screaming at her. I also put my son down for a nap and bedtime at the same time everyday and in the same way. Like at bed time I always give a bath first and he knows after he gets dress he will go right to bed. so why bother crying about it when u know it's going to happen anyway. With my first son I let him sleep with me when he was 9 months old while my husband went to boot camp. Before my husband came home I tried to get our son to sleep in his own bed and he just screamed for hours no matter what I tried to do. When I finally just stopped trying to make him feel better and just let him cry it out he quickly adjusted. I hope this helps.

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