Help switched from crib to toddler bed

Kristy - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




A few days ago i switched my daughter to her toddler bed. She will not stay in it and she has a bedtime routine. She just willget up and lay by her door, sometimes she is crying but most of the time she is just laying by her door. So when i go in there to check on her and make her go to bed she just starts crying. I dont know what to do. She would go to bed in her crib just fine before. any suggestions?


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Lea - posted on 03/03/2010




When I put my daughter in her "big" bed, it took a while. I'd end up laying on the floor by her bed and sing her to sleep. She wanted me to lay with her but I didn't want her getting used to that. That would be just one more thing to change. Eventually she did railing. Her bed was by the wall so I just put a body pillow by the edge and she slept closer to the wall.

As for my son, I sometimes did have to wait for him to fall asleep before putting him in bed. I'd tell him how wonderful it was for him to have his very own big bed and what a big boy he was. It was also time to switch because his little sister was due in a couple of months.

If your daughter plays in her room and makes it "her own" she may be more willing to stay in her room. Each child is different. Just don't give in, it'll pass. Oh, what did work with my son was not talking to him when I would take him back to his bed. No talking, no eye contact. After a while I guess he figured Mom was just ignoring him anyway so he might as well go to bed. She will cry, my Michael did. Just gotta be strong even though you're tired and you just wanna go to bed. Eventually, I think they get tired of the back and forth, too. Good Luck!

Harley - posted on 03/02/2010




wow thanks guys im doing the same and i always end up giving in but i tthink ive been encouraged

Faye - posted on 03/02/2010




I remember those days. put her back in her bed ,she has to learn that is where she sleeps now. but if she continues to get up and lay by her door after several attempts let her fall asleep there then move her to her new bed. In the morning she will wake up in it and realize it wasn't so bad. Its new and scary. Give her a few she will eventually get used to it.

Mandy - posted on 03/02/2010




That sounds normal. My oldest did the crying thing too when we switched him out of his crib. As long as he was confined in his room was fine with us. He slept on the floor a few nights and then I think he just realized it was more comfortable to sleep in the bed and then he was fine.

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Hi! I would also try a bed rail. Our toddler bed has built in rails on it that go to about the middle of the bed. My son is a great sleeper and loved his crib! We are also in the process of switching to the big boy bed :) He gets out a lot and some nights it just turns into a game of how many times I will come in and put him back in it! Although it is tiring, I would stick with it. She just needs time to get used to it. We used the crib bedding on the toddler bed, so it seemed familiar to him. Also, when we do go into his room, we do not say anything to him. Hope this helps :)

Christy - posted on 03/02/2010




Have you tried using a bed rail? She might be afraid of falling out of bed. We used one for my daughter for a few months then took it off. It gives them the secure feel of a crib, but they are still able to get in and out of bed by themselves.

Kristi - posted on 03/02/2010




I'm getting ready to switch my son to a toddler bed too. I'm not sure what will happen when we do. My parents are raising my nephew and my mom said that it took a little while for him to get used to his toddler bed as well. She put up a gate in his doorway so that when he got out of his bed, at least he would still be in his room. It doesn't sound like you have a problem there, though. My mom also said that she would lay down next to my nephew's bed for a little while until he got used to the idea of being in his "big boy bed." She said that it never took too long for him to get to sleep, and before long, he was able to go to sleep on his own.

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