Help with separaton anxiety in a 2 1/2 year old.

Lisa Marie - posted on 03/16/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 2.5 year old daughter is attached to me to the point where I can't even leave her with sitters. I can't leave the room without her following me. Also, she won't sleep in bed without me. Any advice on how to curb her attachment level. It's been like this since she was born.


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Kirsten - posted on 03/16/2009




I feel a great deal depends on how you handle it when you leave your child with someone and how they see you react, it was very difficult for me when my son started playschool, he screamed, but I would pick him up, give him a kiss and a cuddle, say "I love you, and I will see you later" give him to his teacher and turn around and walk out. It took about a week and he soon settled, and you'll be amazed at how quickly they settle once you've left, my son's teacher would text me within 5mins after I'd left to say he was happily playing. Some kids use it as a manipulation, and play you on your emotions, I don't think separation anxiety goes on for that long, so I agree that you should you should maybe speak to your pediatrition, there may be other things making her feel insecure. I'm going through the same as you with my 22month old daughter.

April - posted on 03/16/2009




the one thing I would definitely say is check with her pediatrition! This must be really hard on all of you. does she do ok on play dates? I have heard suggestions for sleeping separately. I think you set up a sticker chart with a prize ( at that age maybe 3 stars for a small prize) start by having her walk into the room on her own to earn a sticker. graduate to sitting outside her door until she falls asleep (she may yell quite a while on this one) gradually move your chair down the hall until that s done. Will she stay with her dad or grandparent? a good idea for sitters is to have them come a separate day to play with you there, and early enough before you go out for her to adjust to the new person. it helped when my kids were younger so they wouldnt scream at her so much. (plus it gives you a chance to get ready:-) hope these ideas help

Davina - posted on 03/16/2009




What I would do is keep trying and try not to give in all the time. It will be difficult. My son was like that when he was younger. It was very difficult, but I kept letting him know that I will be right back at a certain time so he wouldn't get to scared. The sleeping at nite. I kept putting him back into bed. I would have a hard time wtih that because he use to sleep with us for a while too. I hope this helps a little.

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