
Heather - posted on 12/08/2011 ( 39 moms have responded )
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My inlaws live 4 hrs away and my family lives in the same town, our problem is that my inlaws expect us to do all the traveling every year. One year we go there for Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve and the next ony for Christmas day, so that we can always spend the holidays with family. This year we are suppose to go the inlaws for Christmas Day and my husband has to work the day after so it will be 8 hrs on the road and no time to enjoy. Would love some idea on how to slove this. We have suggested they come down here but they say thats not an option but we have to do all the traveling. Please Help!
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Personally I'd say that because your hubby has to work the next day it's not an option for you to travel to them, as you would be spending half the day driving so couldn't relax and have fun so this year you're going to stay at home, but you would love it if they came to you as you don't get the chance to look after them at Christmas normally.
Otherwise you could maybe suggest meeting in the middle at a restaurant or hotel.
Susan - posted on 12/29/2011
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I realize Christmas is over for this year, but it's never too early to figure out how to state things... Our daughters are both grown, married with children of their own. We live in northeast Oregon, one lives in Kodiak Alaska, the other in Okinawa. We travel to them or buy tickets for their little families to travel. Both son in laws are military so it depends on their leave availablility, always determined by what will work for them.
My point? let your families know they are fortunate to have you so close that they can travel to you with little fuss.
Usually younger families have less travel money and its alot harder to travel with small children than it is for Grandma & Grandpa.
Our best times have been when we can all get together in one pile. That usually takes 4 to 6 months of planning.
Just state what you know is best for your own little family, and say they are sure welcome to come your way!
Bernadette - posted on 12/09/2011
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I'd just say sorry, but in that case we simply can't make it. And point out that next year is your turn with your family so if they don't make the effort to come to you, then it will be another 2 years before you get to spend Christmas with them. There is no way I'd be making that trip for one day, with young kids too.
Tinker1987 - posted on 12/08/2011
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You need to lay down the law, its not a nice christmas being in the car for 8 hours, if they want to see you on christmas they can travel for once.if she wants to lay a guilt trip and act like a child let her,she is being selfish
Stephanie - posted on 12/29/2011
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Glad your in laws finally figured out that driving all day is not what is best for your family. sorry they had to learn it at your expense though.