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Katie - posted on 09/27/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my son is 2 and wont sleep thur the night help me im going crazy with the lack of sleep

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Janice - posted on 09/30/2011

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My daughter wakes more often if she misses a nap. studies show this is true for most (not all) toddlers. I would get into a daily routine including a nap or rest time. In the middle of the night only go in and make sure he is okay but dont take him out of the crib. At 2 he can manipulate you and now that he is in the habit of waking it will take tough love to break him of it. When he cries do you pick him up? If so you need to stop. I agree with Sarah and Katie K. you do need to check on him but then let him go back to sleep on his own. It is hard but it shouldn't take long before he learns to put himself to sleep. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2011

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Hi Katie,
My daughter has just turned 2 and I have finally just sorted her sleep problem out.
She was very smart and knew if she cried I'd come running!!! On average I was getting up to her 10-15 times a night in the end, I was at my wits ends, I couldnt handle it any more!!! I thought there was always something wrong with her, but there wasnt. She just wanted me!
So I let her cry. And It worked!! Only took 2 days!!
But i wouldn't let her cry continuously. I timed it. 20 mins. After 20 mins I went in and gave her her dummy then walked out. She'd cry again, Id wait 20 mins and then go in again to give her a dummy. She learnt very quickly that I wasnt going to put up with it anymore.

I always hated the thought of letting her cry. But knew I had no choice. It saved my life! I feel human again!!

Letting your bubba cry is hard at first, but it works! I promise!! I only wish I had done it much earlier.

Good luck Katie :)

Brianna - posted on 09/28/2011

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i agree katie i did the same thing with my daughter and she cried for over a hour the first night, but the next night she cried two minites and then slept threw the night. :) it might take a few nights of her crying but be strong cuz it is a important skill for him to learn.

Katie - posted on 09/28/2011

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Sounds like he's waking because he wants to be with you, he hasn't learnt to self-settle and he feels like he needs your help to re-settle into sleep again. I have been a professional nanny for 10 years and now have a near 3yr old son. You will have to teach him to settle on his own. It will very hard on you and him, but trust me it works. When he wakes, go in, lay him down (if he's sitting or standing), gently pat his chest/shoulder and say "Shhh, sleep time" then walk out. He will no doubt scream out even more, wait for 2 minutes, go back in and do that again (Shhh etc..). Leave, wait 5 minutes, do it again. Leave, wait 10 minutes, do it again. Leave, wait 15 minutes and do it again. Leave, and keep extending the time by another 5 minutes until he settles. When I did it with my own son, I found going in twice was enough for him, he would get more upset if I went in more often. So after going in twice, I let him "cry-it-out", it took about 45 minutes for him to self-settle but it worked! This teaching of self-settling can take 3 days - a week to work, but if you keep at it, I can pretty much guarantee he will sleep through - as he has learnt how to self-settle if he wakes.
Good luck!!

Brianna - posted on 09/27/2011

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checkout sleepsense.net its a amazing website.

what do u do when ur son wakes at night? do u rock him back to sleep? give him a pacifier? pick him up? fill his cup? does he fall asleep while drinking the cup? how many times does he wake up?

Katie - posted on 09/27/2011

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hes does not take any naps i make sure he eats a least a hour before bed he he takes his cup to bed with him idk why he wakes up?

Christa - posted on 09/27/2011

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what makes him wake up? hunger? how many naps does he take throughout the day?

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