Hi all.. new SAHM here. how do i get into a routine?

Laura - posted on 08/21/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




Hello out there.. I'm a new mom, my son is 3 months old now. I need to figure out how to be a SAHM without just sitting on the couch all day. How do I start a routine? I have never been one to make (and stick to) schedules, but now I don't want to just watch tv all day and teach my lazy ways to my son. I don't know any other SAHM's. I've gotten myself out the door a couple times to go for a walk at the park, but I haven't been able to make myself do it more than a few days in a row. I barely get any housework done either. Suggestions?


Stifler's - posted on 08/21/2011




Wear him in an ergo while you do stuff. I don't have one but my friend let me try hers and the kid feels weightless and doesn't whinge in it. My kids were always good with naps and stuff and I have to get out of the house like every day or I'd go mad.

Melissa - posted on 08/21/2011




ummm this is about the age when naps might become a challenge on their own and often change, not all the time but everyone I know had this problem. So I would try to get you baby on a good nap schedule...In my experience and from what I read they should sleep every 2-3 hrs and get a total of 15+ hrs a day. Might already have that down or if you dont might take a few weeks......So at this age I say be lazy with your son and treasure spending all the time you can with him! As he gets older and into a toddler age it will be easier getting into a routine! BUT if you are not enjoying relaxing all day then take him to the mall or shopping (while he is little and will let you..lol) Workout, enjoy walks...fall will be great for that...I have a hard time getting motivated so I prefer time on this site LOL! Also I do 2 10 min power workouts a day and find if I force myself to do one in the morning and do a bit of cleaning I feel better the rest of the day! Also take a day for yourself or it will eventually get to you and you'll become resentful or even depressed! Your son wont pick up on lazy days until he is a bit older. Enjoy this time, don't worry about the house...it truly does go way to fast!!


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Laura - posted on 08/21/2011




Thanks for the suggestions, Melissa, Salli and Emma. It's good to hear that I shouldn't worry about it so much right now. I'm not used to staying home and sometimes I feel like such a lump! Thanks for the support!

Sal - posted on 08/21/2011




it is hard with such a young bub so the first thing i'd suggest is be realistic with what you can achieve in anyday, and remember if bub has had a bad night and you got little sleep or if he is grizzly all day you just might struggle to do much at all.....and thats ok, BUT as for a routine...you will get into one that works for you, i feel there are a basic list of things that just have to be done everyday...i do these regardless of how crap i feel,at least a load of washing, pack and unpack dishes, organise dinner, vaccum, make beds, tidy bath rooms, feed animals, etc(and with 3 kids my list is prbally a bit longer than what you will have on yours) and once you get the basics done you will feel you have achieved something for the day and will be able to see ahead to other things that you can achieve....if you just have the clear space to quickly do an extra chore (like clean fridge) rather than tidy kitchen then clean the fridge you will get more done and it doesn't seem like a huge task just a quick job....

i would also recruit a friend to meet for a walk every day or a couple of times a week, there will be someone like you who needs motivation and help to get out of the house if you don't knw anyone in your siuation find a mums group, even for such a young bub there will be a group for you, a lot of mums are sceptical of them but it can be a stepping stone to other activites and freindship, it will also give some structure to your week whch when you are home 24-7 you can be missing i have always felt the less you have to do the less you get done, if you are home all day you can put off chores until later....if you have plans later you will usually do them first..

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