Hi help me please i have 3 beautiful kids and want one more is that crazy ?


Cindy - posted on 01/12/2009




When our two oldest boys were 2 and 4 and my husband felt "done", I started to feel like "someone" wasn't here yet. I began to pray about it and my husband changed his mind over a period of time... We had five and I wouldn't change a thing! Each one is special. My "baby" Jessica is now 10 and looking over my shoulder as I write this...lol.


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Raelene - posted on 01/13/2009




Thankyou so much everyone ill let u all know when i have made my desison your comments were amazing u all have such beautiful familys.

Kat - posted on 01/13/2009




I have three and we're expecting #4 in February. I think you "turn the corner", so to speak, with #3. In not only working out time and patience and such, but also in how people treat you. Be prepared for negativity if you end up pregnant with #4 (the usual questions, "Don't you know what causes that?" etc. (Just gave me an idea for a new post!)

Dale - posted on 01/12/2009




The only way that considering this would be crazy is if you do not have the means to support a fourth one. Having a fourth baby is not much more than deciding on the third, second, or even first. If you have the ability, patience, finances, and support then it is completely a decision based on when, where, and how!! good luck, when i had first dated my husband now years ago, we discussed children, he didnt want any, and i wanted 6!!.. now we are working on #2... ive changed my mind to 3 i think lol

Laura - posted on 01/12/2009




I've always wanted three. And only one more to go after the newest baby comes in May. I don't think your crazy at all. Back in the day families had 17 kids.. I don't know how they did it in there 2 bedroom house, but just think 17 to 4 or more... can't be that bad right?

Victoria - posted on 01/12/2009




You are not crazy, but I get the same feed back from others too...
I have three now, you can see on my profile...and I definitely want more...I do want to wait a little bit, spacing and timing...My last two came quickly...I mean I wasn't expecting to get pregnant right after my second was born...
It is a lot of work, but I love it. I feel after two, you can handle it. Some women do go nuts though...But if you want more, do it! Don't let society and economic hard times be a hinder, it's your family, enjoy it and love em.

Shae - posted on 01/12/2009




It's not crazy!  I've got 3 myself right now--ages 3 1/2, 22 months, and 4 months.  Close together, I know...and it gets crazy around our house...but so worth it!  We are not finished with our family...we will have at least one more, if not more than that.  I have heard that after you've had #3, then you can have 4 or 10...because it doesn't matter after that!  Good luck!

Billie - posted on 01/12/2009




Hi! I have 6 kids of my own, and 2 other kids from my husband's previous relationship. So in total we have 8 kids.  We are crazy but we love each and every kid of ours, and no price can put on our love for our children..  Out of all, we would never trade them for anything in the world.. Our youngest one is 5 months old. We decided that is it. No more for us, and my husband went in for his snip-snip, and we re happy with our brady brunch.  It is really depends on how strong you are to handle one more kid and how your body can cope with other pregnancy.. Some mothers say, their heart will tell them when they know they are done...           I am never sastified until I have my last one. I am purely at my happiest knowing I have my babies and I am truly done with "breeding"...  Your heart will tell you what is right and what isnt... Follow your gut instinct.. :-) Good luck!!!

Emily - posted on 01/12/2009




No, you're not crazy. I have three girls, fairly close together (3 1/2, 2 1/2 and 1) and we just found out we're expecting #4! We were TTC, so we weren't at all surprised, and we're totally excited. We know that some of our family won't be as thrilled, so we haven't told them yet. I came from a family of 7 and DH is from a family of 5... but the kids were much more spread out, so while our families understand having many children.. they don't understand having them so close.

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If you are doing it for the right reasons, not at all.

I've been battling with wanting #3 for several months now. The first 6 months after #2 I was like "NO MORE"...now, it's just something that I feel might be right. Time will tell.

Brenda - posted on 01/12/2009




My hubby and I have always talked about having 3 kids.  We have one, and we're trying for #2.  I've been thinking lately though that I might want a 4th, b/c I really want to adopt.  I don't think you're crazy at all!  If you and your husband both want another, then go for it!  Only you know if it's right for your family! 

Jenny - posted on 01/12/2009




Not at all.  I have three great kids also and have been told that once you have 3 it is crazy around the house, and 1 or 2 more will not matter much!  LOL  Good luck with your decision!  :o)

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