Hi, Im new, and wanted some advice on how to make not working work?

Diana - posted on 05/23/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have always worked since I was 14 years old, I am 26 now and I have 3 beautiful little girls. About a month ago I was laid off, I got got married as we had planned to on the 13th of this month, I am still doing my online classes and able to spend more time at home with my children, which Im so excited about. Ive never had many friends, its always just beenme and my children. So although I now have an extended family which they are very nice, they do live about 45 minutes from Greensboro. My oldest daughter is in first grade so she has several more weeks before school gets out for the summer, and right now the youngest 2 are in daycare still. I love being able to stay at home and focus on home life and school work, However, the little interaction I had on a daily basis with co-workers and such is gone. Like I said I have never made too many friends and my husband is still such a people person, which is one characteristic I love so much about him, I do feel left out more than usual though now unfortunatley because although he is doing nothing new by spending time with his friends I feel more alone then ever because I have no reason to leave the house more than to drop off the kids and pick them up. I want to be a stay at home mom but it is important to me to have conversation more than soely with my children and my online instructors. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated...


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Look around your town and find out what kind of activities there are for kids. My daughter and I go to story time at our local library (free!) and a Music Together class each week. ( http://www.musictogether.com/Home ). I've made friends with other moms at each place. We will chit chat while our kids play together or are in class.

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There are TONS of things to do with your kids that will get you around other moms to talk to--after all, you will automatically have something in common with every adult you meet at a kiddie event!

Barnes&Noble, Books-A-Million and just about every bookstore open today has a kids story time at least once a week. Starbucks and your local libraries will also have them and they are all free!
Most movie theaters offer free summer kids movies on weekday mornings, but you still have to buy popcorn or drinks if you want them....and it's not really a great place to talk to other moms, but I like the movies and my son has a blast.
You can meet other moms at the park too. Most moms are on a schedule so if you go around the same time every week, you will run into the same moms a few times & can get to know them...not every time, but I usually see roughly the same group of women when we go to parks.
I also agree with Lisa-Marie's idea to find a mom's group. There were none in my area, so I organized one and I have met some of my best friends there!

Mary - posted on 05/23/2010




Look for a local MOMS Club. That is how I made some great friends before my kids were in school. Now that they are in school. I don't get to see them enough. To save $$$ at the grocery I play the Grocery Game. It is an online service, very minimal compared to the savings. I save half on my groceries every week now. Little fun too.

Lisa-Marie - posted on 05/23/2010




Find out of there is a mummies group near by. It is hard at first to take the step to meet new people but the truth is most mums jion a mums group because they are lonely like you and therefore know how it feels. Good luck :)

Erika - posted on 05/23/2010




Hi Diana,
It seems like we have a lot in common. I'm also 26 years old. I have two kids. I've never had very many friends either, and the friends I do have aren't at the same point in their lives that I'm in. The good thing is that we have sites like this for support etc. I agree with Jennifer. Make friends with your Husband's friends' wives. Feel free to message me if you'd like to chat.

Take Care,



Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2010




I definately know how you feel. I have always been shy, and it has always been hard for me to make new friends. You mentioned that your husband is very social. Does he have a lot of friends that are married or have girlfriends. I have always found it easier to make friends with my husband's friend's wives.

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