Homebirthing

Corrina - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hi, everyone! I have two kids, both delivered in the hospital and both with epidurals. The last time, too many interventions caused problems and this time I'm looking forward to having my baby in my own comfortable, loving environment. Has anyone done homebirthing? Any advice, experiences or stories you can share? No one I know has ever done this, and my friends think I'm crazy! It'd be nice to find someone who can relate!

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Melanie - posted on 03/06/2010

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i never had the courage to do it. but my friend next door delivered her son that way. she said it that she wished her daughter had been born that way. she loved it. provided you are healthy and have a good midwife its seems like a good idea to me. my daught was born 11 16 09. and they couldnt believe i wanted to go home. but they would wake me up to ask if i was ok or how much the baby pooped. REALLY? i hope it works out to your liking.

Jessica - posted on 03/06/2010

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I had a homebirth with my first and am planning another homebirth with my second in May! Loved it!

Have you met with the midwives yet? And has your husband met with them? Often, once husbands meet with the midwife and ask questions they feel much better.

Cynthia - posted on 03/06/2010

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hey Corina: i had two completely different experiences of birthing in the hospital. With my oldest child, everything was PERFECT! i stayed at home until it was time to leave for the hospital. It was so early in the morning (4am) that the doctor wasn't even there. I gave birth (with no meds) to a healthy boy with the help of my husband & the nurse. she did a great job coaching me & i was right there in the hospital if i needed any other interventions. another option you have... is to have a doula & have the delivery at the hospital. This means that a regular doctor won't deliver your child. You get things to go your way with your helper & your husband. some birthing rooms in some hospitals are so comfy it's just like home.
my second birth i got induced & it was crazy. i'll never return to that hospital!

Melissa - posted on 03/06/2010

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My experience is just that! MY OWN! Do not base your decission on this case. What I am about to share with you is just my own story, Not to Stray away from many successful HOME BIRTHS! It Is only advised if you live close by a hostpital in case something does go wrong! In my case it did. I had everything set and ready to have a home birth. BUT, in the last trimester our innsurance claimed it would not pay if something went wrong! It was for a reason. I had my water break out in the boonies. One week before my due date. It was only blood, no water. I was standing in a large puddle. by 5 min I was getting woozie and did pass out briefly several times. Calling for husband asleep in other room at 6:45 am. He dashed me to hostpital that was over an hour away. (we made it jst in time to save both our lives) He was born at 7:20 am At the door of the Emergency room. Later I learned that it was (placental abruption). The uterus has done it's job and shuts down litterally trapping baby in womb. Suffication is emenant. If We had made it 10 min. later he for sure would not be with us today. and possibly me too(,DR.'S said). ( I had forgotten uncharged cell, had NO choice but to get there fast). I have no drug or alcohole addictions no smoke. They say this happens more often in these types of woman. So i was basically accused of being a druggie by a DR. that was not my own. My OB/GYN later told me The other DR. did a drug screen behind my back. ( even though it was negative of all narcotics), I still Felt violated. The percentage of this in normal woman is 1 in 600. I wished we lived closer to hostpital # 1. But also Thankful we were not able to follow through with mid-wife. The staff that day saved my 4th baby and Only son! Please educate yourself on every option before you decide. I pray you a safe and healthy delivery. God Bless

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I had both my kids at the hospital because I had to for health reasons, but before that I had found that some hospitals have birthing centers where it is set up like a hotel room but with tubs, rocking chairs, birthing balls, etc. where a midwife would deliver the baby, but there were doctors nearby just in case. Do you have anything like that in your area? Or do you just really want to be in your own home? I don't think it's crazy. If you don't have any pregnancy complications, then why not?

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Corrina - posted on 03/06/2010

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I know what you mean, Melanie! The last time I was in pain (and not the kind you'd think!) because they had such a hard time getting the catheter in my arm. Ten needles later--they finally had to insert the catheter without using a numbing shot--I had huuuge bruises up and down my arm, and it happened to be the same arm that they put the automatic blood pressure checker on. OUCH! Every time the arm balloon would pump up, my arm would hurt and throb so bad that I had to clench the bruised site to keep the pressure from the pump from hurting it. That went on all night! And they would wake me up to "check me", AND they didn't want me to go home! I was exhausted...it's kinda rough on us tired mommies :)

Corrina - posted on 03/06/2010

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Hi Jessica! We have met with our midwives twice now, and they're really nice. My husband is no longer arguing with me but still has his reservations. I learned that he gets really upset when I am in labor..I'm usually so focused on what I'm doing that I never noticed. He stands by and rubs my legs and arms but apparently he gets really sick and worried. And all the blood at the end! I guess just being in the hospital makes him feel safer. He is slowly warming up to it, but we're not all the way there yet!

Corrina - posted on 03/06/2010

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Inductions are not fun! The problem is that even when we don't need them, if we are in the hospital too long, the doctors will give them to us anyway because we are on their schedule! I can see if we had our waters break and we were trying to avoid infection (I think you get 24 to 48 hours before the baby is in danger) but typically it's just to help get you in and out. I now know that we can fight the decisions, but I don't want that--I want a comfortable environment where I don't have to fight for my rights. I must say though, I did love my own doctor and he was a wonderful man but the doctor doesn't take us through the labor :) In fact, out of 2 births my doctor showed up for 5 minutes of one...catch the baby and that was it! As prenatal care he was wonderful. I do miss that! It's too bad he's not an option anymore, but even so I still want my baby at home :)

Corrina - posted on 03/06/2010

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Melissa, I'm glad it all turned out okay. That must have been really upsetting! I'm not sure about the laws in all states but Washington requires all midwives to be certified nurse midwives. They are very knowledgeable and will transport women to hospitals immediately if they suspect something is wrong. In your case, I'm glad you didn't call your midwife first because you wouldn't have had time for her to check it out! I am very confident and feel safe here but then again, if I were still living out in Liberty (the boonies...35 minutes away from town!) I probably would not be doing a homebirth in the "just in case" scenarios. My hospital being less than 5 minutes away (5 minutes during rush hour) really convinced my husband although he still has his reservations. Thankfully we do have doctors; they are there for a reason, and you never know when you will need surgery or absolutely need intervention. Thank you for sharing!

Dayna - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hi Corrina, I am a 4x homebirther, after having my first 4 in hospital. I don't have too much advice as every person and their birth experience is different, although I will mention that statistically homebirth is just as safe, if not safer than an easily intervened hospital birth. My husband too was a little reserved but trusted the confidence that I had in my own experience and body. In NZ homebirth is generally completely drugfree and in my opinion the better option for any woman experiencing a 'normal' pregnancy that has the confidence to do it, as you said, you are only a few minutes from hospital if the need should arise. Good luck with your decision. As for others thinking you are crazy? It is YOUR body, YOUR baby and YOUR experience to enjoy, not theirs, so their opinion counts for nothing

Corrina - posted on 03/05/2010

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Thank you for sharing! I am a little worried about my kids being at home as well. My mother in law said she will take care of them but still...after what you just told me I wonder if having help is good enough! I'm more afraid that I'm going to scare them toward the end. I'm in Spokane, Washington and will be using Spokane Midwives (they have a birthing center but also attend homebirths). I'm pretty comfortable with the labor and delivery, but my husband is still a little reserved about homebirthing. He is worried that something could go wrong... but really I live 5 minutes away from the hospital. And even with interventions I have still had two successful vaginal births. What you are describing is exactly what I want! In the hospital, I felt manhandled and everything that happened to me happened against my will. To be honest I didn't know I had a choice in whether to have pitocin and all that! I know better now, but I really look forward to doing this my way and with family.

Cynthia - posted on 03/05/2010

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hi. i've never done this before, but i really did look into this option for my kids. Find a doula that you trust. They are allowed to give Epis if you want one. you can do a birth in a tub, or however you want! I hope you have luck finding your answers!

Bethany - posted on 03/05/2010

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Also, about people thinking you're crazy, I can totally relate! Most of my family (Dad especially) and my husband's family thought we were doing something totally unsafe and weird. I am blessed to have two friends who do homebirth, but a lot of them had to tell me all the horror stories they knew about the "dangers" of homebirth.

You're not crazy. Giving birth is a natural part of life, and most women don't need a doctor or germ-infested hospital to safely deliver their babies. :)

Bethany - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hi Corrina!



I had my first in the hospital without drugs or interventions, and my second baby was born at home! I loved the experience of being at home, especially afterward.



As soon as the baby came out, my midwife reached under me (I was kneeling), said "here's your baby," and handed me my daughter. I held her all through birthing the placenta and then everyone left my husband and me with our baby to bond for a little while, and to breastfeed. The midwife made me a healing herbal bath, then my husband cut the cord and got to hold the baby while I got in the bath. When he was ready, he brought the baby in and she soaked in the bath with me. Only after we got out, dried off, and nursed again did the midwife take the baby to weigh and measure her. It was amazing! The whole experience was completely focused on our family and our needs, not the convenience or timetable of anyone else.



The only part I didn't like was that our two-year-old daughter was there. I don't mind the idea of kids at the birth, but she kept running in and touching my belly during contractions or demanding attention from her daddy. It completely broke my focused relaxation, and made labor a lot more painful and miserable than it had been with our first when everyone left us alone. So, for the next one I will definitely try to find someone to come take our daughter somewhere else. She had someone with her here, but it just wasn't good for my sanity. :)



My final advice: interview a lot of midwives! Find one that you and your husband are totally comfortable with. What I thought was most important was the experience of each midwife, and her birthing philosophy. I know an amazing one in Denver, and know of a couple good ones in Arizona, if you're anywhere close to either place.



Congrats and I wish you the best!

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