Homeschooling...with a twist????

Medic - posted on 04/08/2011 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Ok so I think we have decided to homeschool our son....this has been bounced back and forth for the better part of the year. We did have my son tested and he was accepted into what we thought was a great magnet school...only to find out today that the district was told to either cut the program or cut the busses....they cut the busses for the program. We haven't even found out how many teachers will be cut for next year yet. My son needs a small class room to function, he is doing horrible in the public preK because the classes are too big. With the horrible state of the public school system and not wanting him to go to a private school that pushes some random religion we have arrived at homeschool. We are both college educated....both feel horrible failed by our school experiences...and have the support of my father who is brilliant....and RETIRED!!!!! We have also found that because we both are public servants and work funny 24h shifts that we will be able to work it out and move our family time to when we are all home and that way if they miss a day of school its no big deal. We are using a program through Texas Tech University which I received my high school diploma from. I guess I need a little support...and some ideas....he will have to go to our in-home daycare in the afternoons just so my husband can work and I can study. My mom just ranted and raved about how I am going to ruin him for life and how he will never be anything at life all from a decision we are making when he is FOUR!!!!!

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Sandra - posted on 04/09/2011

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Hi,

I decided to homeschool some years back and always did my best to give my children the best (material that I could buy, great ideas for making lessons interesting, etc). Recently, however, I relaxed the rules and we concentrated on just a few subjects and even then, it was pretty relaxed. And then I discovered something interesting: my average children, with not much interest in school, were doing better or the same as children who were top of their class in private school. These school kids had loads of homework and great teachers, yet my kids were at the same level. I was completely amazed. My kids have so many ideas and projects and dreams. I'm so glad I never listened to all the negative comments or doubts from family. I knew I was doing the right thing. I hope this helps.

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Medic - posted on 02/12/2012

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I had totally forgotten about this post but long story short, we had worked it out so he could go to the magnet school. What a dissappointment! We pulled him out in December and since then he has graduated kinder and is starting first grade at 5!. Thanks for all the input and it has been worlds easier than we could have thought. My hubby and I are both full time students now and everything seems to be falling into place, not to mention I have a much happier kid.

P - posted on 02/11/2012

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This book may give you some things to think about: Legendary Learning: The Famous Homeschoolers' Guide to Self-Directed Excellence



http://www.amazon.com/Legendary-Learning...



This is probably the best parenting book I have ever read. How you can offer your kids the skills they need to follow their passions and succeed (as they define it) in the world. Although it is geared to homeschoolers, most of this can be applied to children who attend school. She discusses Montessori, Charlotte Mason, A Thomas Jefferson Education (a form of classical education,) and unschooling. She has researched how many highly successful people were educated as they grew up. Although all were homeschooled for some period of time, many also went to school for awhile as well. She discusses people like Thomas Edison, Teddy Roosevelt, Pierre Curie, Agatha Christie, Margaret Leakey, and many, many others. The bottom line is to help your child find their passions and teach them the creativity and skills to attain their goals.

Christy - posted on 06/08/2011

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You can do a great job homeschooling. I do think it sounds difficult with your schedule, but you'll figure that out. I know many homeschool families whose kids are doing very well, especially considering they were struggling in public school. I recommend you do some research on curriculum constantly. There is always new information that is helpful and even if you've used one curriculum for a few years, you may find one that suits your needs better. Homeschooling requires lots of dedication from the parents!

Just curious about the magnet school. You said they either had to cut the program or cut the budget. That doesn't imply that teachers have been cut just because the buses were cut. They are two different budgets.

Another option that may be available to you is Charter School. It's public education that specializes in something chosen by the school. For example, my daughter attends a Charter High School and they focus on leadership skills. Charter schools do pretty good to keep their class sizes down and their budgets are completely separate from the rest of the district, which is really nice.

Homeschooling the younger years will be relatively simple in my opinion. I home schooled my daughter Kindergarten three days a week and we were way ahead of the school district's curriculum. The older they get, the harder it gets, especially as other babies join the family.

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Go for it! My daughter is 4 and we are going to start the OHVA (Ohio Virtual Acadamy) when she turns 5. I want the benefits of homeschooling (flexable times, locations, and the best education homeschooling can give)
As long as he has socialization of some sort I think it sounds benifical for you and your family! From one future homeschooling Mom to another you have my full support! GOOD LUCK!!!

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there are lots of people negative about homeschooling, but there's a lot of independent studies showing that homeschooled kids on average outperform public school children on average regardless of parent's education level, money spent on homeschooling, or race etc, and they're not damaged socially. There's a paper on that you can download free at calvert's web site. Hopefully your mom will see your side, but regardless you have to do what you feel is right for your family.

Medic - posted on 04/11/2011

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I was homeschooled through part of middle school and the last 2 years of high school because I was a competitive swimmer and apparently schools don't like you to miss school for sports...heh who knew? I think this is going to be one hell of an adventure because the teaching will be split half and half with my husband and we are both strong in different areas. I also think that since we both work our son and maybe our daughter when she is older will see that we as a family can do ANYTHING. I am sort of sad that I have not been able to find any groups that have dads that are active in the whole homeschooling thing....and that I can't seem to find any that are not liberal bashers...I can handle conservative just fine, would love some nice people that are not going to shove their political or religious views down our throat especially since we feel that our children should be able to choose for themselves what they believe and feel drawn to. I also do not feel that our beliefs have any impact on our childrens education as I feel they should learn of all religions and political views. Who knows this may be our calling....and it may be the best fit for both of our kids....but now I have to figure out how to get the boy to sit still and listen since using duct tape is frowned upon.

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I was homeschooled and I loved it! Although I happen to be one of the super conservatives that is often found in homeschooling I think you might have a chance at finding a group that fits you. Since you live in S. central texas you might try homeschool groups in Austin or San Antonio to find a group to connect with that would fit your family. Homeschooling is a great way to ensure that your family gets the best education possible since there are so many options available. All a homeschool mom needs is passion for her family and a healthy dose of creativity to succeed and a group of people to help her continue when it's tough.

Medic - posted on 04/10/2011

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We will be doing the majority of the teaching and my dad will be doing the "fun educational outtings" as he is calling them. Since my husband does not leave for work until 1 in the afternoon he will teach the days I work my full time and I will teach the days that I only work my part time. My part time is only for the summer months though so after that it will just be my full time and with that I only work 10 days a month because I am a medic. I will deal with being busy to have my kids educated. @ Etha we lived in Arkansas for a year and I am actually thankful that we do not live there because I feel that their educational system is a joke. My husband went threw school there and it was no where near the same ball park as the schooling I had and I think ours is horrible here. We are going threw a University Homeschool program.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/10/2011

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I was homeschooled by my mom until grade 7, and I don't feel damaged. :)

I just question how you're going to do it if you are both working. Is your father teaching him? I don't want to discourage you, but just think about how busy you'll be!

Etha - posted on 04/10/2011

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I don't know about where you live but in Arkansas we have a home school program that is part of the public school system. All books and materials are delivered to my home and they have loner computers if needed. My children have a teacher they can always contact if they need extra help and there are monthly outings for all the home-school kids in our area! The best part of all of this is that it is free!!

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/09/2011

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I truly dont blame you for leaning towards home school. i was home schooled from grade 8-graduation and i loved it. i felt i learned way more.being in a obnoxious classroom with teachers who didnt care didnt teach me a thing.Kids were out of control in my grade.it was just a place to giggle and not take school serious.

Jane - posted on 04/08/2011

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YOU are his parents, not your mom. sounds like this is a decision that you have put a great deal of thought and lovve into. like everything in parenting, you try it out and see how it works. tell your mom that things in the public school aren't starting out too well, why not give this a try. if you know he'll be lost in the public school as it is now, then why would she think it's a good fit for him?

Medic - posted on 04/08/2011

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@Manal- Those are good ideas but since I work one full time and one part time job and my husband also works a full time job the kids go to a sitter during the week so we do have breaks. Our plan is since I work 2-24s a week those mornings my husband will do school with him since he goes to work at 1pm and on my days off of my full time I will do school with him in the afternoons after I am off from my part time. We will keep sending our youngest for 3 full days because that is what she is used too and she is doing great with that. He does take two different types of dance classes a week and is trying out different sports as he is old enough to play. I am really hoping this is the right decision and I am doing right by him.

Mombodysoul - posted on 04/08/2011

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You know, we don't have trouble with socializing. We see friends and family, and we don't have a homeschooling group we hang out with.

I just meant support in terms of maybe a babysitter, mothers' helper, housekeeper...just some ppl you can call when things get crazy, or even better, having them come regularly so that you can get a break.

You will find, as the months go by, that you won't need to be as structured and he'll learn so quickly that you may need to adjust the curriculum and/or your expectations.

Alexis - posted on 04/08/2011

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I was home schooled for a year when I was younger and ended up way above my peers educationally. The only hard part with us, this was 15+yrs ago, was that many homeschool organizations are also very religious. The other hard part is socializing, but if you get creative, work with groups of kids the same age and go on field trips, maybe even join sports teams or extra curricular activities and he will be fine.

Medic - posted on 04/08/2011

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It's funny ...and probably sad but I don't even know where the library is in our town.....Amazon is my best friend. I am set as far as curriculum goes.....I just want to meet some nice non judgmental people without a hidden agenda to hang out with and plan activities. I am actually scared to start my own....I am not a fantastic people person....apparently it has rubbed off on my kids.

Jaime - posted on 04/08/2011

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What about a literacy council or the local library? They often have resources that you can borrow and hopefully copy for your own collection. As well they might be able to offer you some support if you experience any difficulties while getting started. As far as support groups...why not start your own? And target other families like yours that are not homeschooling with a particular agenda (religious or political) and simply wishing to provide your kids with the best possible education?. I really wish you luck with your new venture. It sounds like you have a positive approach to it, which I'm sure will carry forward in your teaching. How can your son not benefit from that for his future?

Also, you always have CoMs for support ♥

Medic - posted on 04/08/2011

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South Central Texas....thank yall so much.... I was looking online to join a texas homeschooling group but they all seem to be uber conservatives whos pages bash all liberals or they are uber bible thumpers and no happy medium.

Jaime - posted on 04/08/2011

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Well, you've definitely got my support Jennifer! Can I ask where you live?

Mombodysoul - posted on 04/08/2011

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Homeschooling is amazing. My midwife and her husband work fulltime and have homeschooled their 3 boys from the beginning, and another friend is a police officer and her husband works fulltime too and they homeschool their 2.

If it's something you feel strongly about, and you have good reasons for it and it goes along with your vision for your family, then go for it!!

I'm a homeschooling mom of 4, and I just put my kids in school a couple months back and it's sooo not for us, at this point in our lives so we will be pulling them out again.

You can always take it year by year and see what best works for your family at that time.

I do highly highly recommend support and a way for you to get a break because it can get to be too much, without a break in site.

Enjoy! It's teh best feeling watching your kids' eyes light up when they figure something out or learn something new. ♥

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