Sarah - posted on 01/03/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




So I have a 5 week old son. Who eats A LOT. I feel like every time I try and do something he starts screaming to be fed. (Like right now.) So like I was saying..... the house is not very clean right now. Which drives me UP A WALL but there is nothign I can do. My son comes first. Out of the blue today my boyfriend comes home and is freaking out about a million different things. I end up in tears yelling at him about how I am useless (or that's how I feel.) Not only am I feeding him, he won't eat off the breast so I have to pump all my milk then feed him out of bottles. So what should take an hour takes almost 2 sometimes. Oh and we don't have a dishwasher so I have to handwash ALL the dishes which takes some time. I think I might be losin it. I am thinkin about going on some anxiety medicine (I am bipolar).... anyone know the side effects which I am BF? Do you think it would be okay for my son?


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Christy - posted on 01/05/2010




my suggestion is that if YOU are worried about the house enough to stress over it, get a sling and try wearing him while you work. i know it won't help the BF situation but maybe you will be more calm if your environment isn't cluttered. that being said, if you can be comfortable with it, just let the housework slide a bit. your son will only be little once, the housework will be there forever. as for your boyfriend complaining about it, explain to him that there's no way for you to get to it all with a very needy (and rightfully so at his age) 5 week old so if he has a problem with the way things look he should take the initiative to do things himself. he shouldn't expect you to do everything, and maybe he doesn't, maybe YOU are the one expecting too much of yourself, i know i did. rest assured things will get better. your son won't always need to eat every 2-3 hours and he'll start sleeping longer, allowing you to either get things done or get some well-deserved rest. good luck in the meantime =).

Sarah - posted on 01/05/2010




thanks ladies! this helped a lot. breastfeeding/pumping is exhausting.... and i do feel plugged into my wall. haha. it's nice to know that i am not the only mom going through this. although i KNOW i am not, sometimes i feel as if i am. i will definitly try all of the suggestions. happy new years!

Rhianna - posted on 01/04/2010




Sarah i know how you feel.
i exclusively pumped for my son as well.
i felt like i was always plugged into the wall, and NOTHING got done around the house, because making milk is a very tiring job!! i was eventually able to feed my little man a bottle while pumping, saves a ton of time!! i also had several bottle, and i got them set in the fridge, filled and ready to just heat up. i also found that 5 mins in a room can do wonders to make it look better. while a bottle is warming, quickly sweep the floor, or other odd jobs. good luck and if you ever need to talk, just message me!

Anna - posted on 01/04/2010




hi sarah, i think its great that your trying to breastfeed, i tried but it did not work for me. however, if u feel that your son is not getting fully satisfied with just the breastmilk try formula. sometimes breastfeeding just isnt for everyone. and as far as your house cleaning, i was like that too...but i realized that i wasnt super mom and cant get everything done. and that is OK. try asking your boyfriend for help if he is so dissatisfiied with the way the house looks, no shame in asking for help.

Misty - posted on 01/04/2010




I'm also a bi-polar mother and I went through the same thing with my son. I tried to breastfeed for the first 3 months and it was very painful because he would never latch correctly. Anyway, I was like you, feeding all the time because he didn't latch well so he didn't feed efficiently. he was always hungry so he was always attached. I couldn't go anywhere or do anything because every time i tried he would start crying because he was hungry. It got to the point that i would just cry to my husband because i felt useless. I felt like i was failing at being able to take care of my baby, my house, my husband. finally my husband told me that i should just start to bottle feed our son. I pumped for a while, but my milk supply got really low. I talked to my sons pediatrician and started to supplement with formula at just about 2 1/2 months old. My son was a happier baby and i was a happier mommy. he would sleep longer which meant i actually got to sleep some at night and got to get things done during the day. it was a huge stress relief. I felt and still do feel that breast is best at least until 6 months to a year, but sometimes it's just not in the cards. if pumping works for you, pump ahead of time so you have a good supply for your son on hand already. Otherwise, talk to the doctor and see what they recommend for your child.

As for the meds, I would say to talk to your doctor. I wouldn't put anything into my body that I wouldn't put into my babies body. Try the things that I said and see what happens. The more you pump the more milk supply you'll have (in most cases) and the easier it will be. Otherwise, look into formulas. Good luck and if you need to talk we're here for you :)

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