house wife or home maker?

Jennifer - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )




Hi there!

Just yesterday my husband and I and our 2 children were at the doctors office when the Dr asked me if i was a home maker. At first, i thought that term was a little old fashioned!

Then i started thinking about it and thought, well its definately better than a house wife...that always reminds me of just being a piece of furniture or something, like a house plant!

So, when you think about it, home maker is a really nice term. We make the house a home. We bring that warm feeling you think of when you hear the word home. There is no place like home after all, and if we are the home -makers, then i will take that! What do you all think? Any opinions on the terms?


Claudia - posted on 04/23/2009




Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations

This is a funny one:

A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk 's office, was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

'What I mean is, ' explained the recorder, 'do you have a job or are you just a mom?'

'Of course I have a job,' snapped the woman. 'I'm a Mom.'

'We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation, 'housewife' covers it,' said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, 'Official Interrogator' or 'Town Registrar.'

'What is your occupation?' she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out.

'I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.'

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

'Might I ask,' said the clerk with new interest, 'just what you do in your field?'

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, 'I have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't) In the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family) and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.'

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than 'just another Mom.'

Motherhood! What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.

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Danielle - posted on 04/29/2009




I guess I use the term stay at home mom. I didn't really use anything before the baby was born, when I stayed at home. Truth be told, I don't care fore any of the terms.

Allie - posted on 04/29/2009




i'm a full time mummy. that way if the house is a mess when hubby gets home i have still done my job.

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House Wife makes me think of a wife with no kids that stays home. I've never done this so it is always hard for me to understand what a house wife does all day. Before kids, I worked full time and my house was always clean and neat. I only took 1 or 2 days a week (after work) to really clean.

I'm a Stay-at-home-mom and most of what I do all day involves my kids. I prefer SAHM cause it explains everything in my opinion. Home Maker doesn't say it all in my opinion.

Angela - posted on 04/25/2009




I prefer to think of myself as a domestic engineer. I am the backbone of everything here lol. Without me my husband wouldn't know what to do with himself or the baby hahaha

Maria - posted on 04/25/2009




I guess I prefer "stay-at-home mom" if I say it in English. Here in Finland it is more rare for a woman to stay home all of her 'working years', so we do not have that many terms for it. The most common term translated into English is literally 'Home Mother', ie. a mother that is home... :-) I guess that's what I am.

The term "homemaker" doesn't actually state if you have children or not, so it could be used of anyone staying at home, man or woman.

Kate CP - posted on 04/24/2009




I prefer "Full time wife, mother, engineer, therapist, handyman(woman), EMT/Paramedic, professional purchaser, financial analyst, mechanic, electritian, plumber, professional chef, taxi service, child care provider, administrative assistant to myself, professional planner, actor, singer, and a woman."
However, my daughter today said to me "You're not a person. You're a mommy!"
Out of the mouths of babes... ;)

Libby - posted on 04/24/2009




I have always worked up until last September when I lost my job. That was the best thing that ever happened to me. I never would have made the choice to stay home, so I'm glad someone made it for me. I do take care of the home and take care of the kids. I don't really care what term is used, but I do believe that when people know you don't work and are a stay at home mom, or a homemaker or whatever, I think they don't appreciate what all you do. But oh well, this works for us, so I'm glad it's working out b/c I love it!

Millie - posted on 04/24/2009




Sometimes I like to tell people that I am a Domestic Engineer. LOL! Or other times I say I am a SAHM short for Sttay-At-Home-Mom.

Autumn - posted on 04/23/2009




domestic engineer is my favorite but I also use domestic goddess, I work From home, those are a few that are my most favorite!! I really do like home-maker though, it sounds cozy! ~

April - posted on 04/23/2009




I usually tell people that I'm a stay at home mom-they see my 5 kids and usually say " you have the busiest, hardest, but best job of all!" its true!

Brooke - posted on 04/23/2009




I usually tell people I'm a homemaker. Sounds better than housewife (to me anyway)

Cat - posted on 04/22/2009




mmm cant say that i really care. i throw around all sorts of terms for myself. homemaker is a new one that i like though. ill tick that box :)

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