How and when to tell my almost 7 year old about her bio father?

Melissa - posted on 08/01/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter will be 7 this year and starting 1st grade. She does not know about her biological father. He has never seen her or paid anything for her. She has my maiden last name. My husband and I have been married almost 4 years and he has been her "daddy" since she was 2. She doesnt know any different. We have 2 other kids, 2 and 5 months. She is starting to notice differences between her and her siblings and has a different last name than the rest of us. I need to tell her, but dont know how and when? Many of her friends are in the same postion, so I think that will help! If you have any advice, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

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Suzy Ann - posted on 08/03/2012




I was 12 when i met my dad an i 25 now an he lives in london its 300 miles between us so dont see eachother much only on school hols an it feels that i still dont know him cos i think its been so long. Tell her straight away its easier she will finally know who she is an where she came from. It prob hard on u an u husband but she needs 2 know my mam still finds it hard now after all these years but its the best thing my mam helped me with. Go with it she will thank u in the end x

April - posted on 08/02/2012




im going through the exact same thing! My daughter is 6 and in 1st grade and notices differences between her and her sister. She has the same last name as me (married name) and the courts wont let her bio see her, she dont know she has a different dad. Her daddy has been here since she was born but he was just a friend then. she was 1 1/2 when he stepped in. I have no idea how to tell her but I do plan on it.... lol

S. - posted on 08/01/2012




I'd do it sooner rather then later and just tell her the truth in the most simple way as you can, tell her that her daddy came along when she was 2 and became her daddy and nothing will ever change that! Make sure she knows she is no different from the others and blood mean's nothing. Then maybe try and have a lot of daddy and daughter time so she feels she is still special and loved.

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