How can I convience my husband that our son is not ready for solid foods?

Kristal - posted on 01/20/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband has recently started feeding our 3 month old son stage 2 bannanas as his first solid food. I told him that I (the one that spends 24 hours a day with our son and has to sooth him when he crys because my husband doesnt have pacients to take care of a crying baby) dont feel that he is ready for solid foods and that he does not need them yet. I have told him that by starting him to early on them could be hazardous to his health not just not now but for all of his life. I have backed it up with facts from my research. I even tried to hold him off for a while by asking him to give me time to ask our sons doctor what he thought but he wont even wait for the doctors advice (even if he did let me ask the doctor he would tell me that the doctor is worng if he doesnt like what the doctor says). I have even told him that if he wants to be more of a part of feeding our soon I would express pump so that he could feed him from time to time but when I do that and try to get him to feed our son he has some excuse as to why he doesnt want to feed him. I feel that he just wants to push our son to grow up way ;to fast and doesnt care what long term effects it has on him.
Does any one have any suggestions as how to persuade my husband that our son does not need to be eating solids yet?

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Mrs Cassie - posted on 01/20/2013

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give him all the paper work from the health visitors in regards to food my husband started asking me about giving our daughter solids (also 3 months) i told him straight it wasn't time n he would make her ill if he gave her solids before she was ready (a little white lye n threat don't hurt) i am also breast feeding if your son is maintaining his weight, is happy and content after a feed he does not need solids, id contact the health visitor n get her to come to your house and speak to them with your husband there n get him to speak to her about it, it sounds like your under a lot of pressure there n that doesn't help you with the breast feeding with added stress, he's not being fair!!!
id also clear all baby foods out of the house, tell him to enjoy the fact you don't have to spend money on food as he's getting it free from you!!!!!!

Stephanie - posted on 01/20/2013

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This is a tough situation for you. Sounds like you are ebf your baby and your husband wants in on feeding him. Also, your husband sounds a little bit stubborn, no offense.
I would have your husband call your baby's pediatrician himself and speak to the dr or a nurse directly. I have called mine a few times with questions, usually the receptionist will take a question message and the nurse or dr will call you back the same day. It seems like this may be the only way for him to understand.
I totally agree with you, at 3 months, your baby should NOT be eating bananas. It must be kind of scary for you, I think I would be freaking out, I am getting nervous for you right now....agh!
Good luck o

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Ginny - posted on 01/24/2013

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You can't! They are so hard headed. haha My husband used to feed our 3 babies whenever I would leave. I'd come home and they'd be in the high chair eating Oreos or burritos or something and I would freak out! lol And I breastfed so I was super serious about what my babies ate and when! But now that my kids are older (14, 10, 5), my husband and I look back on those times and laugh and have good memories, because now I see that it didn't matter at all. It will be ok...it doesn't hurt them. Just let him feed the baby. :)

Mrs Cassie - posted on 01/20/2013

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stick to your guns hunny and say NO very forcefully your son cant say no thanks daddy so you have to be his voice x x x good luck hun x x x

Kristal - posted on 01/20/2013

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Thanks for the input Mrs. Cassie. I will clear out all baby food and hope that will slow him down on the idea of feeding him solids before he is ready. I hope it works and doesnt just make him mad. I tried telling him that feeding him solids before he was ready would hurt him but he doesnt seem to think so. I also told him that it could end up makeing him obese since obsity runs in my family and he still insists on feeding him solid foods.

Kristal - posted on 01/20/2013

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Thank you Stephanie for your input. To say the least my husband is very stubburn. I have asked him to call the peditrition himself but he refuses to (probably because he knows he is wrong). You are right I am freaking out about this situation. I am so frustrated by this whole situation to the point that I have considered being a single mom due to his disregard to our sons saftey and health needs. It scares me that if he is this way now how is he going to be when he gets older?

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