How can I get baby to sleep through the nite???

Heather - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Ruby is going to be 6 mos old in a few weeks and still wakes up every 2 hours if im lucky she will sleep for four hours. Most nites only two. Ive bought the new bedtime formula, feed her baby food and cerials you name it but she still wont sleep through. I have to put her in her swing for the last few hours of the morning to get her to sleep alittle more. What can I do?

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Niki - posted on 01/07/2010

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you got to let her comfort her self my crying herself to sleep start off by letting her cry for ten min and longer each night, she get up so much because she knows you will get her i know i have a 5 yr old and a 2 yr old

Julie - posted on 01/07/2010

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what i did with my son i kept him on a routine at 7:30 every night we would do bath time and by 8 p.m. i would give him a bottle and put him to bed he was also not sleeping through the night he would wake up at least 3 times a night to eat. so at 6 months i started to give him a 8 oz bottle when he went to be instead of a 6 oz. it took me about 2 half weeks of letting him cry it out i know a lot of people dont like this method and i will not lie it does suck, and there will be tears but let me tell you its wroth it when your baby goes to be and finally sleeps through the night with no tears. i really hope this helps

Heather - posted on 01/06/2010

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Well I broke down last nite and let her sleep on her belly. I cant keep her on her back anymore she will turn herself over. I dont sleep most nites because im constently checking on her to make sure shes breathing. I am so afraid of SIDS and her pediatrician said shes Not a candidate for SIDS. I still worry somethimes. But she actually slept better last nite. I do have a good routine for her but she still wakes up all nite long. I know what I have to do and its let her cry but again we have a small home and any noise at all keeps everyone awake and its important my hubby gets his sleep for work. I will try on the weekend when he is off and see how she does. The one time I did let her cry awhile she ended up makeing herself sick and it scared us. So shes months older now and ill give it a try. Thank you so much for all your feed back.

Micheal - posted on 01/05/2010

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i agree with everyone my daughter is 5 1/2 months and has been sleeping thru the night since she was 2 months old once when she was a month old. a routine is VERY helpful. and a full belly. also my daughter was colicky so ths is easier said then done but let her cry a little it wont hurt. me and my husband always say gabrielle needs her good cry for the day when she is miserable. we didnt do bathtime at night at first but then tried it and OMG did it make a bigggg difference. i recommend a bottle and cereal bathtime play with her or read her a book while rocking and cuddling with her and then lay her down. I know doctors say this isnt good but gabrielle would NOT sleep on her back and still wont she will only sleep on her belly ... so give it a try ... try for a nap first. trust me i didnt sleep the first night we put her on her belly i had the monitor by my ear all night but now she screams if we dont do it. GOOD LUCK!

Renae - posted on 01/05/2010

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PS you need to wait until a period when her teeth are not bothering her to do any sleep training. If the baby is distressed (pain, hunger, etc) sleep training usually will not work and sometimes makes things worse.

Renae - posted on 01/05/2010

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Ruby needs to learn to go to sleep on her own, without you there. When she can go to sleep on her own, she will automatically sleep through the night. It is possible she will still need to feed once during the night at her age, but 2 hourly is habit (and over-stimulation at time of going to sleep) not hunger.



Like you have already found, a bedtime routine will probably work very well for her. It must be the exact same series of events in the exact same order at approximately the same time every night (15 min off isn't going to make any diff). It is a good idea to make your routine up of mostly things that you would do anyway such as bath, pyjamas, story, say goodnight to daddy etc so that the routine can be easily adjusted as she gets older but some of the main events (i.e. dinner, bath, story) remain the same.



Keep in mind some babies (only about 20%) should not be bathed in the hour before bed because they find it stimulating not relaxing. Some behaviourists actually recommend bathing in the morning after 3 mo because bath becomes play time. But you know your baby and this is totally up to you.



To teach her to go to sleep and sleep through the night you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.



If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave her to figure out she is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to her cries so that you know if she needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected. On the first night you can expect up to an hour of crying (usually a confused cry) the average is 45 minutes. When she wakes during the night you can expect her to cry for half the time she did at the start of the night. And you can expect her to go to sleep without crying and sleep an 8-10 hour stretch within 3-6 days, majority of babies sleep on the 4th night.



If you prefer to try the gentle methods first, the no-cry method most commonly used by behaviourists and sleep consultants is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks. This method does take a lot of time and patience, both day and in the middle of the night, but if it works and you can stick it out for a few weeks it would be well worth it.



Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method. This method is not commonly recognised by behaviourists, Tracey is the only one that uses it (that I know of) but lots of posts from parents say it works. However they also say it takes more like 1-2 weeks not what Tracey says which is 4 nights. For the sake of 4 nights it might be worth a try. Her book is called Secrets of the Baby Whisperer.



You can also read Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall. Her most successful method involves a little bit of crying before going in to baby.



There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (my posts get too long! lol).

Cassie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Routine is a great start! If it doesn't completely help, try putting a little rice cereal and some baby food banana's in her bottle before bed. When you mix it, it may give off kind of a grey color and not look so good. But this was a tip given to me by my sister in law when I had my first and it worked like a charm. The combo of the cereal, banana, and formula fill baby's tummy and keeps them satisfied through the night!

Heather - posted on 01/05/2010

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Quoting Destiny:

my first suggestion is to go back to her regular formula... a change like that can really through a baby off. Next don't pick her up when she wakes up. Babies have internal clocks so every two hours Ruby knows if she cried momma is going to come get her... try letting her cry herself back to sleep and she might just sleep through the night. I also agree with Jillian, it is very important to have a schedule. Oh and one more thing if you do try letting her cry then turn off you monitor if your in bed or find something to keep you distracted the first few times it's really hard to hear your baby screaming, but she'll be fine and so will you:) Good luck!



 Thanks again. The nite time formula isnt the problem and it does help to get her to sleep more sometimes. Its also the same brand I already have so its not much different. I have such a tiny house and my husband works from sun up till sun down so I have to keep it as quiet as possible. I truely think I just need to make sure my bedtime routine is to the T" because I do notice a big change in her sleep patterns if I deveate from it the slightest bit. Shes such a wonderful little booger... Smart to so she knows how to get to mamma. Thank you again. Ohh and she is teething she cut her first bottom two at only 3-4 months. OUCH!

Destiny - posted on 01/05/2010

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my first suggestion is to go back to her regular formula... a change like that can really through a baby off. Next don't pick her up when she wakes up. Babies have internal clocks so every two hours Ruby knows if she cried momma is going to come get her... try letting her cry herself back to sleep and she might just sleep through the night. I also agree with Jillian, it is very important to have a schedule. Oh and one more thing if you do try letting her cry then turn off you monitor if your in bed or find something to keep you distracted the first few times it's really hard to hear your baby screaming, but she'll be fine and so will you:) Good luck!

Jillian - posted on 01/05/2010

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Does she have a bedtime routine to depend on? My son is also 6mo and he knows he gets his last bottle of the night (very warm, makes him relaxed) then his bath (most night just to play in relaxing warm water, only need to clean him every now and then)then its lotion, cuddle time, kisses and then lights out with a specific teddy that he only gets at night in his crib so he can associate it with bed time. Try establishing a good routine that she can depend on. Babies thrive on knowing what to expect throughout the day and bed time is no exception. Maybe she is also teething. Is she biting everything in sight and drooling a lot? Try to give her a cool teethign ring and maybe that might help. Just keep at it and i'm sure she will figure it out that she needs to soothe her self to sleep. Otherwise you will be waking up with a 3 year old down the road if she doesnt learn how to soothe herself at night. Keep with it mamma, i'm sure you are doing everything right just try to tweek a few things! Good luck and let us know how she is doing after a few different night routines.

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