how can i get my 8 month old son to sleep all night? i have just put him on bottles he has 1 feed of me a day but he still wont sleep all night he has all his meals i have tryed bathing him befor bed tryed everything

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Crystal - posted on 02/12/2009

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Dr.'s have also discovered that feeding your baby right before bed, cereal or formula will not make them sleep longer at night. There is no direct correlation. Some babies need that nutrition also, and if you force them by filling them with empty nutrients to sleep through the night, then you are depriving them of the milk they need during the night.

Jacqui - posted on 02/12/2009

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I noticed people saying that cereal is a choking hazard.  I had talked to my Dr. about this, because it was something my mother told me.  I was told that there was nothing wrong with it, as long as it would go through the nipple.  You don't want to cut the nipple whole bigger, that is where the choking risk comes in.  If they are that hungry, then feed them cereal out right, then give them a bottle.  Both ways work if the baby is truly hungry.  By the way, my son had chronic bronchitis from the time he was born, and the cereal in the bottle did not cause him to choke.  Talk to your Dr. if it is something you are worried about.  Your Dr. will know what is best for your son at his stage of development.  Remember, no 2 babies develop at the same rate. 

Trina - posted on 02/12/2009

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Hi

i have three children all under 5, a boy aged 4 and two girls aged 3 and1. they can be a real handful some days but when it comes to bed time they are as good as gold, all of them have the same routine and sleep for about 12hrs a night, very rarely waking up. I have done the controlled crying method with all three and it really did work for me, they say do it for about 2 weeks but i never got past day 4 and they had realised that mummy wasn't going to give in and that it was bedtime. hope you find a method to suit you and your son:)

Jacqui - posted on 02/12/2009

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I starting giving my son a bottle with a little cereal in it, this is what helped him to sleep, he wasn't hungry in the middle of the night.  We also used music to help him sleep.  He is now 10yrs. old, and still likes his music to sleep too.  Also, determine if it is a hungry cry or not.  If he is just having trouble soothing himself back to sleep, try to let him cry for a little while.  They will eventually learn to go back off on their own.  I never let my son cry for more than 15mins, and usually he would fall back to sleep, if he started getting worked up more than normal, I would go in and pat his back, but I wouldn't pick him up.  You may have to try different things, but eventually, you will find something that works best for your family.  Good luck.

Crystal - posted on 02/12/2009

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My kids all started sleeping through the night at different times. My oldest was 9 months, my middle child was 15 months because she has a super fast metabolism, and my youngest was 6 months.

Alyishia - posted on 02/12/2009

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i do give thomas a feed when he wakes up throught the night coz when i get up to him he pulls at my top so i just thought he was hungry. i have had him sleep right through a few times but it was because i had been swimming with him all day.my partner and i have had a few disagrements when i had put thomas to bed to sleep but all he wanted to do was cry so my parnter would go in and pick him up after i had told him to leave him. he has a bath befor bed and he has a bottle as well that way then he has a full belly and i make sure he dosnt have a dirty nappy. thank you to you all for all ur suggestions

Yvette - posted on 02/12/2009

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Crystal is right about putting cereal in the bottle. It is definitely a choking hazard since it would come out a lot faster through a nipple and the baby might not be able to handle it. However, everything I've read, listened to, observed, and even my pediatrician said that by eight months, unless he is underweight, he does not need to eat in the middle of the night. The more you do it the more he will want it and the older he gets the harder it will be to break him of it. I stopped feeding my baby in the middle of the night at three months. I was desperate for a full nights sleep. It took about one week of doing the leave and check method by the time she finally got the hang of it. It was very hard, I won't lie, but it depends on what is most important to you. If you enjoy that special time in the middle of the night then more power to you, but if you are on the brink of insanity from never getting more than 4 hours straight of sleep then I would suggest pulling the night feed cold turkey, getting into a bedtime routine, and above all else always put him down awake even at nap time. Also I would not allow a pacifier to become a sleeping prop, meaning you give it to him to put him to sleep, because in the middle of the night or whenever it falls out of his mouth he will wake up screaming for you to put it back in so it is just as bad as feeding in the middle of the night. One more thing, keep in mind that he will go through stages. When my daughter was ready to start solids she started waking up again in the middle of the night. The same thing happened when she started teething. Right now she is sleeping from 8:00 till about 5:00, but I don't consider morning until 6:00 at least, then I feed her. May I suggest that you go to Dana Obleman's website. She is a sleep expert and her video blogs have really helped me out. Sorry this is so long

Crystal - posted on 02/12/2009

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Don't put cereal in the bottle it's a choking risk. Some babies still need to eat during the night even up to a year old. It just depends on their metabolisms. Too many people think there is a magic age that babies "should" be sleeping through the night but there is not.

Just keep to a routine and eventually he'll start sleeping through the night. You should read the no cry sleep solution by Elizabeth Pantley. Don't let your baby cio, it really isn't healthy.

Alison - posted on 02/12/2009

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try cerel in his bottle maybe if his tummy is full that will help alison tieman

Stephanie - posted on 02/12/2009

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Do you rock him to sleep or put the baby down awake?  the doctor kept telling me to put mine down awake and I was so afraid to do that.  Finally when I did it, she would wake up and cry for a bit and then go back to sleep.  It is difficult to just listen to the baby cry, but if you know he is ok, then it will be ok.  Once your baby starts sleeping through the night, you will enjoy him so much more!  What helped me too was a video monitor... so you can see that he is ok. Good luck..

Felicia - posted on 02/12/2009

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My daughter is 6 months old and just started sleeping through the night. I had to let her cry it out a few times, but I knew when she really needed me and when it was ok to let her cry. I make sure she has a full belly, and fresh diaper before she goes down and I have  a bed time ritual. She gets bottle, then I read a few books and rock her. I turn on a fan in her room and she has a night light ( sometimes if the room is too dark that can be bad,they wake up to total darkness and it can be scary) Also, a bath can help. Having a favorite toy in the crib can help, but my oldest didn't want anything in her crib, so for some kids that does not work.  It is important to do the same thing every night and they will get the idea that it is bed time. Then when they cry, go in after 5 or 10 min and comfort them, but do not feed, or pick them up. It's so hard, but honestly, the sooner your child learns how to sooth themselves the better. Tough love is what is needed. Each night the crying will be shorter and shorter. If you are lucky it will only take a few nights of letting him cry. Ultimately you know what is best for your child. Just go with your gut and everything will be fine. No child is exactly like another, for some it just takes a bit more effort to get them to sleep through. Good luck.

Carolyn - posted on 02/12/2009

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Does he eat right before he goes to bed?  If not try giving him a bottle or a snack just before he goes to bed.  When he wakes up what does he want?  Does he want to eat does he want to play?

Kaz - posted on 02/12/2009

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I found with mine that if you pamper and feed them through the night they will keep waking it maybe hard but just settle with a dummy or lullaby and wake out the room I done that with all mine and they slept through from 4 months

Breanna - posted on 02/12/2009

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Hi there,



I think the best thing is to pick a method and stick with it. Controlled crying works for me but some babies just don't get the sleeping through the night thing. My second born didn't sleep through until he was two. Sorry I dont have any quick fixes but if you give controlled crying a go for like two weeks it may help. 

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