how can i get my son to sleep in his crib

Jessica - posted on 12/13/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




my son is 9 moths old and he will not sleep in his bed. he has been sleeping with me and my husband for about 4 months now. every time i puts him in his bed he cries and cries and as soon as he gets in our bed he goes straight to sleep. i have even tried waiting until he falls asleep then put him in his bed, but that does not work either. any suggestions?


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Connie - posted on 12/14/2009




I am struggling with this same scenario. Hubby and I can't handle the CIO method. Our little one gets so worked up (3 months 3 weeks) that he hyperventilates. His crying is this terrified shrieking, sooooo sad and I cry every time. However, the thought of him sleeping with us until he is 1 or even 6 months is very disheartening. My hubby and I need our time too...............

Tara - posted on 12/14/2009




What worked for us with our daughter was my husband and I took turns "wearing" her blanket and then I put her in the crib (drowsy but awake) with the blanket and a shirt I had worn that day. That was all it took to get her to sleep in the crib. Staying asleep once she was in the crib was something else entirely - We did have to start cry it out when she was about 10 months old to get her to sleep more than 20 minutes at a time, but she would stay in the crib. As long as he is fed, changed, not to hot/cold, etc and his crying is not the "I'm afraid/panicked" cry (you'll know the difference between that, the "I'm hungry/wet/dirty" and the "I'm mad" ones) I would just let him cry it out - go in every few minutes and comfort him, but keep repeating that it's bedtime. It only took 2 days with our daughter, but every child is different so it might take less/more time for you.

Brandy - posted on 12/13/2009




Yes let him cry it out but also put things in his crib that he likes...or something that you and your husbands smell on it that might help. GOOD LUCK

Sophia - posted on 12/13/2009




u have to let him cry it out Rebecca said it best i had to do that with my oldest its not easy but make sure there is nothing wrong with him like diaper changed he not hungry no fever etc... and if u cant take him crying go into another room put the tv on or jam to some music now this crying can take up to and hour mayb longer on and off but its well worth it in the end. in about two weeks he will b use to it.

Cleo - posted on 12/13/2009




with me it was the same thing, nothing worked! finally i pulled up an armchair and curled up still holding him with the cot side down - more due to exhaustion than anything else.....ive discovered kids are cretures of habit if they do it the once they will get used to it....of course its a lot easier when they are a little older 12-18 months as you can semi reason with them!!! the crying method just didnt work for me and left him even more agitated. With patience they will get into the habit, now my son when he's tired he goes and stands by his cot waiting to go to bed :)))

Rebecca - posted on 12/13/2009




You'll have to let him cry it out. My son was the same way but he never slept with us jsut in the same room. We had to let him cry it out. The first night he cried for about 20mintes or so. Go in after about 15 minutes and just kiss him and tell him good night again, but do not pick him back up. He knows that by crying right now you will go in and get him. By doing this he is learning a bad habit. It took our son about a week before he would finally just cry for a minute and fall asleep. If his crying changes while in the crib go in and check on him but again don't pick him up unless there si soemthing wrong. It will be ahrd to listen to the crying but trust me it will work. Put on a set of headphones with some music but not too loud so you can still hear him some and make sure he is ok but it will help you get through it a bit easier. Don't let him fall asleep in your arms before you put him in. He needs to learn how to fall asleep on his own and the longer you do this the harder it will be for him to fall asleep on his own if he wakes up in the middle of the night. We used to do this and learned the hard way lol. Our son is now 2 and has been in a big bed since 16 months and our daughter has been in her crib since she was 3 months and we never had a problem and she is now 5 months. I changed her earlier as i learned from our first lol. Don't feel bad for letting him cry it out and jsut stick to your guns. Some meathods say to go in every 5 minutes and give a pat on the back and reasssure they are fine but i think by going in so often they are still getting what they want. 15 mionutes seems like a good time to me as they are getting mroe tired. If you notice the crying slow down around 15 minutes don't go in or he will start up again.

Stick out you cna do it!

Good luck!!

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