How Can I Get Over The Loneliness??

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Hey.. My name is Yvy.. I am 22 years old and have a beautiful 5 month old son... I'm also a stay at home mom... I guess what i'm getting at is that i have found it really hard lately to interact with people... Idk if its cause im with son all the time now.. None of my friends have kids so i don't have a lot of common ground with them anymore.. When i do hang out with people its like im the odd one cuz i dont really drink anymore.. And i just find myself alone now.. Did that ever happen to anyone??? How did you cope?? I'd appreciate any little bit of advice.. Thanks

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Kate - posted on 02/09/2010

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lt souncs like you are trying to fit in with the people you hung out with before you had a baby. They are the same people they've always been, but you are a different person now. So it's understandable that you feel alone and like the odd one. Belonging to a MOMS club is the best way l've found to have friends to spend with time with. Friends in the same situation as me. For you having a baby is like me losing my job. Lose your job and their go all the relationships with people you thought were real friends. To find a MOMS club you can go to www.momsclub.org. They can tell you how to contact someone in your area. It is a group of stay-at-home moms, but some work part-time. Now that you are a different person, you have find a new network of friends more like yourself. Hope this helps.

Alysha - posted on 02/10/2010

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Hey! i understand what your going thru.. i still deal with it sometimes, im also 22 and a stay at home mom, i live over seas at the moment with my husband so i have no friends and family around, but one thing that really helps is i take 1 hour a day to go workout it really helps and i pray! ALOT lol good luck mama stick in there it will get better!

Carey - posted on 02/09/2010

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I'm sure it happens more often than you think. You are not alone. I went thru the same thing when my oldest was about 1. We moved from PA to FL and I didn't know a single person. I agree with Kate, you should look for a Mom's group or a play group in your area. Mom's tend to bond quickly!
I hope you're able to find something :)

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Denise - posted on 02/10/2010

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It is time to find new ppl that have things in common with you and your son. Find a mommy and me group or something like that. those types of groups will allow you to interact with women that are in the same situation as yourself. It can be ruff going from the carefree world of no children to the sometimes overwhelming but satisfying life of mother, you have to find things that interest you, go to parks, the zoo, things where mothers may take their children and interact. Good luck. Your son is a cutie, luv those cheeks.

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You do nothing besides watch cartoons with your child? PLEASE get out of the house and get some fresh air and sunshine and play with your kid! Go to the park and interact with other humans. Sitting at home watching TV all day is terrible:(

Rosa - posted on 02/09/2010

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I am so in your shoes right now. I went out with my sister and her friends to the bar, and i had nothing in common with them. I left out of place. I've lost all my friends because i have a baby. But you know what. My child is more important then they are. I did not cope I still stay home with my son everyday and do nothing besides watching cartoons with him.

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2010

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I am in the same boat being older your group of friends thins out then to be the only one with a kid with the few friends you do have you tend to be left out of events. I joined a couple of groups using meetup.com check it out and see what they have in your area

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