How can i make my 3 year old son listen to us when we say NO?

Mommy & Papi - posted on 06/15/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Every time im talking to him and explaining why and how, that he should listen to us and to his teacher..he will simply reply NO as in NO!

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Jennifer - posted on 06/22/2010

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Along with time-outs when needed...
We try to give choices when appropriate to our nearly-three yo. Things we are OK with, like "Which (of the ones offered) outfit do you want to wear?"
When there isn't a choice, we let her know. "It's not a choice." If she refuses, I tell her "You can do it OR I can help you, and you won't like it if I help you." I then count DOWN from 3. (You can always count up and keep going. There is no where to go after 1.) If she continues to refuse, I physically help her do what she needs to do with as little emotional reaction as possible - just matter of fact. (Sometimes I have to hand-over-hand with her or take her by the hand and lead her where I need her to be.) I'm not always perfect at it, but I try. Hope this helps.

Kellie - posted on 06/15/2010

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Making our children obey us is more about disciplining ourselves than it is them. What i mean is at three your son really doesn't need an explanation as to why he should listen he just needs to be trained to listen. So avoid "talking" to him and commence to being more proactive. Time out is a good place to start. My daughter started out on the step, one minute per year, by the time she was three, she was standing up with her nose in the corner. She HATES it, but when it's time to go to the corner, she walks herself to it and she stands there for four minutes. If we are out in public, its the bathroon. Either my husband or I will quickly remove her and take her to the bathroom for a spanking. When we go to someone's house, before we get there I remind my daughter that she is to listen and obey at this house and when we get inside i look for the most accessibly corner and very discretely I let her know that if she misbehaves I have the spot already marked. She very rarely goes in time out now, but we are two years into it.
Commit to being consistent with your son no matter the circumstance. And give his teacher permission to put him in a naughty spot at school when he misbehaves. If everyone is doing the same thing, it won't be long before he learns that being obedient is best. I hope this helps.

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I give my son a time out every time he says no or refuses to do what I ask. He has gradually learned the importance of listening and now I can say, "Do you need a time out or are you going to listen to mommy?"

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