how can we get her to sleep

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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we are moving in about 5+ months and all the places that we could be moving into have the bedroom doors right around the stairs . the only way to make sure our daughter doesnt get hurt at night would be to shut her door to her room well shes in bed the problem with this is shes never had this and it scares her when you do shut her door .. she has a night light in her room what else can we do to make this better for her??

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Kendra - posted on 06/25/2013

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I would suggest for 2-3 night camp out in her room,with the door shut and lights off at least until she's asleep that will show her there is nothing to be afraid of.
ps how old is your daughter?

Charlotte - posted on 02/28/2010

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you may try to put up a sheet in the door way where you are at now because it is thin and sound snd some light will go through it, then add another and just keep changing it to be thicker with blankets . I really don't know if that will help you but that is what we used. BEST OF LUCK

Ashley - posted on 02/27/2010

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oh dont worry i wont just shut her in that isnt fair to her since she has NEVER had that in her life but i cant use a baby gate

Megan - posted on 02/27/2010

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dont just shut her in there :( she could really be scared. she has to feel safe to sleep :).

Ashley - posted on 02/27/2010

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that all sounds great and if it wold work i'd do it but my daughter is a master at escape so i know she would find a way to climb it .. so once again thank you everyone but my question was how do i make it easier for her to sleep with the door closed in othe words how do i get her use to it so unless anyone has any more ideas other then he few who have actually answered that question then im locking this post

Suzanne Maree - posted on 02/27/2010

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Yoe could purchase a gate that you can normally attatch at the top of the stairs, and instead attatch it to the outside of her door frame. They are about a meter high, and this way, you can still leave her door open, but she won't be able to get out. Hence...you sleep easy, and she doesn't get scared. Good Luck

Rhonda - posted on 02/26/2010

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Most door jams have a center support (that raised section in the middle where the door latches). If you put a gate on the inside of that, then the center support prevents a child from pushing the gate down (I know this from experience as I have a little boy who LOVES to climb and has climbed ALL over his gate and it has never fallen) He is 5 now and we still use the gate, but it is a mental deterant now as he can open the gate himself now but knows he is not supposed to unless he's going to the bathroom).

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2010

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My son was affraid of the dark and having the door closed, in the end I found a night light that projected stars all over the roof, which couldn't be seen with the light on. So if he wanted to see the stars he had to have the light off. Now he closes the door and turns the light off on the way to bed.

Shylo - posted on 02/25/2010

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Try sitting there with her until she falls asleep sing to her or read her a book whatever you think would help her sleep then try putting her to bed with her favorite animal or doll and see what happens hope it helps

Renae - posted on 02/25/2010

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I know you said you cant use a baby gate, but they have tall ones that come up to an adults chest height that screw into the wall (so no chance of pushing it over and no chance of climbing over it). My friend's house has one. I can ask her what brand it is if you like. It might actually be a dog gate not a child safety gate, but it works.

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well if you cant use a baby gate then your going 2 have 2 shut the door! i dont see how she would be able to push the gate off the sides of the walls, i have two stairs gates and i have kicked mine to test and they havent fallen down.

Ashley - posted on 02/25/2010

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once again i CAN NOT use a gate in the door way or the stairs because either place if she pushes it down or climbs over it she will go down the stairs

Gina - posted on 02/25/2010

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put a saftey gate at her bedroom door that way her door will still be open but she wont be able to go near the stairs

Emily - posted on 02/25/2010

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hate to say this, but when you get there this may just be something you will have to cope with for a week or so and let her cry to put herself to sleep. Kind of like self soothing. If you are one of the moms that was able to just put their baby down and walk out and the baby would go to sleep on its own, I am truly jealous. I have just brought self soothing in on my daughter. Trust me, your child may surprise you! I think installing a screen door in some cases is a little drastic. If some saw this worked for them, that is great. before you shell out crazy amounts of money, I would try just shutting the door for a few nights.

Edu - posted on 02/25/2010

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As an oilfield wife, our family of four travels to various countries and, therefore had to live at various houses and many of them weren't kids friendly, at times. We adapted by being resourceful (creative). one time, we even tried to put screen door to the room. With our first born, when he was small he loves to climb so we installed a screen door to his room with locks outside. It worked for us till it's time to leave but it's an idea of being resourceful and I hope you'll find yours, too.

Ashley - posted on 02/25/2010

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thats cute , shes 2 (27 months old) and a very loud screamer if she dont like something .. we live in a apartment right now that has paper thin walls so its hard to get her use to things when your tying not to wake the people next to you lol... thats why we are moving to a bigger place that isnt a 3 storey apartment

Annie - posted on 02/24/2010

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How old is she? We had to start closing our kids' doors at night when we moved into a house with bedrooms on the first story and the noise from me doing dishes/laundry/odds-n-ends around the house at night intrigued them. Closing the door was the only way to keep them in their rooms. My daughter was 2 when we moved and she didn't like it, so we started by saying "I'll just close it halfway," which satisfied her, and then just closed it a little more every night until we got to the point of saying "I'll leave it open a crack." Then one day just shut it all the way quietly and listened outside the door and it didn't phase her a bit. Now (at almost 5 years old) she lets me know if I leave the door open and demands that I shut it.

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2010

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thanks everyone ..for your help .. but like i have said there is no way we can do a baby gate at all for all those who keep saying the gate works ... but that nursery door sounds cool we might have to look into them

Mary - posted on 02/24/2010

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I would go with a gate too - they make some really good ones! We just got one that attaches to the door frame and can be opened. The one we have would be impossible to push over (because it is attached to the wall) and it only pulls open, a safety feature prevents it from being pushed open even if our daughter was to get the latch open. Our's is also fairly tall and only has rails that run up and down - very hard to climb. You might consider putting a gate on her bedroom door and above the stairs if you're too worried. You could also get a nursery door that opens at the top even when the bottom is closed.

Amanda - posted on 02/24/2010

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What about a baby gate on her door...that way the door is open & she is safe. They do make taller gates & very secure ones. Or you could put on a patio screen door.

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2010

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cant do that because if she pushes it down or climbs over it she will go down the stairs the stairs for the upstairs bedrooms are right beside the doors

Taryn - posted on 02/24/2010

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Maybe spend the 1st few nights sleeping in her room with her, then after a few nights leave when she is asleep so she wakes up on her own then gradually fade it out. Maybe leave clothes in with her that smell of you so she might sense your around. Not sure if this is helpful or not. good luck!

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2010

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see we cant use a babygate because the way the bedroom door is and the stairs if she was to climb over it or push it down she will fall down the stairs we have no other choice but to shut her door

Tracy - posted on 02/24/2010

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when our kids were younger we but a baby gate in the door way to prevent the door from closing and the babies escaping their room ...they also have the door gates for stairs some you can screw into the wall for more stable product.. it a tough situation to be in trying make a safety call and not scaring your kid.. if is the dark that offends her you can get the glow in dark wall stickies and put up for her for added light

Korine - posted on 02/24/2010

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have you tried putting a baby gate at the top of the stairs instead of shutting the bedroom door? it could be that she is not so much frightened of the dark but the shut off feeling from you.

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