How can you be excited but worried all at the same time?

Tammy - posted on 08/27/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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me and my husband just found out we are expecting. We are excited but worried all at the same time. Mostly because we had amiscarriage in march of 08. We have been trying to have another baby. But nothing happened until now. The joy is over coming me. But I am also worried that there something might go wrong again.

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Melissa - posted on 08/28/2009

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I think everyone is paranoid about first being prego. Its normal -just give it to God! I know its far easier to say that but theres nothing else you can do. Every thing will work out!

Alicia - posted on 08/28/2009

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Also, Tammy, if you are up for it, there are some Groups on FB and many on "Baby Center" made of moms who have miscarried, are pregnant again, etc. Sometimes it is too much to read of such loss, but there are many moms who have been or are EXACTLY where you are and might be able to offer support.

Alicia - posted on 08/28/2009

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It is a totally natural feeling. I had a successful pregnancy followed by two miscarriages. I did not know how much I could worry and fear until after the 1st miscarriage. Now after the 2nd (just last week) I can't even imagine how I'll survive another pregnancy. I think you just have to breath, relax, hope and pray.

There is almost no way to suppress the joy either--you are pregnant and as soon as you know you start thinking about it all the time and start planning. So just let yourself embrace the joy and the fun and try to just push the worrying aside by focusing on the the good stuff.

Sarah - posted on 08/28/2009

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Tammy I know exactly what you mean, I found playing with my other kids helped because it helped to relax me and I stopped thinking and enjoyed what was with me. You won't stop being worried but you can deal with it. You could also try a diary, sometimes just getting it on paper helped get some of it out of my head.

Emma - posted on 08/27/2009

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RELAX, CHILL. I had 2 miscarriages then went on to have 4 girls. It will be what was meant to be you cant change it. you didnt do anything to cause it. Life seems to throw things at you, then expects you to cope. I've found the best thing to do is go with the flow. Good luck and enjoy every second of what ever happens. Before you know it, they're taking there GCSEs and talking about going to Uni.

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