How can you prevent ur child from having temper-tantrums?


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Tina - posted on 11/04/2009




first, you don't, kids are GOING to have melt downs. SOmetimes it is beucase they are tired or just don't know what to do with themselves. What I did was have them sit on their bed for a minute or two then go back in and see if they are feeling better. tell them that you see they are having a hard tiem with something, so just sit and do nithing until they feel better. But reasure them that they are not in trouble, but for them to have quite time. Good luck!!

Shayna - posted on 11/03/2009




I also believe that if you want to control future temper tantrums you need to make sure they know their behaviour is not acceptable. However while they are in the mist of one, I find what works best is not to get angry & frustrated with them, but rather stay calm, get down to their level and find out what it is that is causing the problem.

Most children have temper tantrums because they are frustrated and can't express what it is that they want. In this case I would stay calm and find what they problem is.

Some children do it, in the case where they don't get what they want. That is when you need to let them know it is not acceptable behavior, and a time out should be put into play.

Sometimes it is just that they are simply cranky & in a miserable mood. In this case I would set them down for a nap. Rest will always refresh their bodies, and make them in a better mood.

Tara - posted on 11/03/2009




I don't think you can, really. Kids will always have temper tantrums, the trick is getting them to stop the tantrum quickly, and learn that throwing a tantrum will not get what they want.
My husband and I present a united front - we talked about how to discipline our kids even before we had them :) No ALWAYS means NO in our house, and being consistent with routine, bedtimes and what is/is not allowed have really helped.
Our oldest daughter is 19 months old and has hit the "terrible two" stage a little early, so consistency is really key for us right now, but it works. Once she realizes that she's still not going to get her way/what she wants, she stops the tantrum - now it usually only takes a minute or two, sometimes less, and she stops acting out. She'll still try to pitch a fit if she's told NO, but it doesn't last long, and for some things she doesn't even start having a tantrum anymore, she's told NO, and that's the end of it. The "naughty corner" has worked well for us, as has just saying "NO" with a simple, "you are not allowed to do/have that".

Joni - posted on 11/03/2009




In my experience with melt downs/temper tantrums, I have learned to ignore certain behaviors and give positive reinforcement for good behavior. In home or out of home, make sure you always give praise for good behavior..doesn't matter if its being quiet for 5 minutes or doing what you ask, just make sure you give lots of praise.."good job for listening" or "thank you for being following directions". Just make sure they are short and direct, otherwise the child may not comprehend fully. Another way is by using a behavior chart. It doesn't work with all kids, but if they have something to work for, their behavior tends to improve. Hope this helps.

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When they throw the tantrum just walk away and ignore them.... so they know they wont get any attention or what they want from acting that way...and if that doesnt work dont say anything and just grab them and set them in the corner in a chair and say if they move there will be consiquences and if they move take their favorite toy away or something

Whitney - posted on 11/03/2009




Make sure you child has a regular schedule, gets plenty of rest. And most importantly be consistant. If you say no, you can't give in. You have to establish you are the parent. Don't keep repeating yourself after you've said no. You can give a reason, but that should be that. They may still throw a tantrum but they will become fewer. Like I said, be consistant.

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