how did i get my 2yr old little girl to stop hitting, slapping and just generally bullying her 5 yr old sister?


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Jill - posted on 03/16/2009




I agree with Tara. I have a 5 year old, 2 year old and two 11 month olds. I'm not always good at be consistent but I do think that time out and having the child apologize for the bad behavior is important.

Tara - posted on 03/16/2009




I do a lot of time outs with my almost 2 year old....LOTS! I put her in her room with the door closed for 2 min. I don't allow hitting, biting or slapping in my house. I can't let either of  my older children hit her back since that would negate the whole point of  no hitting! When Johanna gets out of time out I ask her if she's ready to be nice and she usually responds yes. We then hug and she then goes to apologize to the person that she hurt. We sometimes spend about half our day doing timeouts but I am hoping that  she'll figure it our sooner rather than later! I rarely give  a spanking, I think I've done it twice but when I have she cries like I just killed her best friend..LOL!  I would suggest being very consistent with the time's not easy I know but 2 minutes is a pretty short time. I can't do it with her in a corner or anything, it has to be with the door closed! I wish you luck...and myself too!

Christine - posted on 03/15/2009




thank you so much, both really good ideas. natalie is quite the pessimist and i've tried to get her to stick up for herself but she won't unless anyone is bullying her sister and then she stands up for herself. they are always hugging each other but louise isn't one to stand being told what to do. i've tried moving her away, taking away her toys, giving her time outs, she thinks its funny to slap me so i gently slap her back and she gets really upset. doesn't stop her though. i'm worried she will be a bully when she starts school in sept.

Cassie - posted on 03/14/2009




My sister in law takes her son's hands, and holds them so he can't use them for about a minute. He hates it.  When she hits, hold her hands so she can't use them. Do it whenever she hits, and hopefully she'll understand and stop.

Lauren - posted on 03/14/2009




My sister was the same way to me when I was small. I was the bigger sis and would let my sister hit me saying "she is so tiny, mom!" You know what my mother would tell me - "hit her back if she hits you." I have a 9 monther and a 4.5 yr old. If the 9 monther pulls or grabs at the eldest, she is allowed to gently slap her wrist back and say "no." Too many of those lands the 9 monther in the play pin a.k.a. "jail." :-) hope this helps! 

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