How do a stop my 15 month old is hitting and biting?

Leslie - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My 15 month old is hitting a biting and time outs are not helping. How do we control her aggression?

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Christy - posted on 05/24/2011

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Please remember that the play pen or crib should NOT be used as time out unless that is the only thing it is used for. Otherwise the child thinks s/he is being punished at bedtime and nap time, which is counter productive.

Claire - posted on 05/24/2011

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To charleen I'm sorry I know I am always firm but fair with my 4 children and my youngest daughter jennifer is only 19 months and she is going threw a nipping stage but I just come down to her level and say with a firm voice no that's wrong a a no nipping hurts mommy then I ask her to give me a cuddle to say sorry she has bit my son once and I smacked her hand and again told her what she had done wrong but spanking a child to the point that you make sure it stings him and he's only 15month old is outragous and I'm sorry but that's bad you don't spank a poor innocent baby and that's what he is just a baby he's learning threw you when he can understand you then fair enough and saying a child is like scientists where does your friend come from there are not test dummies they are human beings and something that should be treat with love and the security learning your kids right from wrong and to respect others and manners is part of lifes learning process but I don't agree with spanking a baby until it stings him I think that's totally bang out of order but that's my opinion

Claire - posted on 05/24/2011

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To charleen I'm sorry I know I am always firm but fair with my 4 children and my youngest daughter jennifer is only 19 months and she is going threw a nipping stage but I just come down to her level and say with a firm voice no that's wrong a a no nipping hurts mommy then I ask her to give me a cuddle to say sorry she has bit my son once and I smacked her hand and again told her what she had done wrong but spanking a child to the point that you make sure it stings him and he's only 15month old is outragous and I'm sorry but that's bad you don't spank a poor innocent baby and that's what he is just a baby he's learning threw you when he can understand you then fair enough and saying a child is like scientists where does your friend come from there are not test dummies they are human beings and something that should be treat with love and the security learning your kids right from wrong and to respect others and manners is part of lifes learning process but I don't agree with spanking a baby until it stings him I think that's totally bang out of order but that's my opinion

Charleen - posted on 05/24/2011

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I will spank my 15 mo old when he hits he is trying to see if i will let him get away with it. I was told by a friend they are like scientists they are going to repeat things over and over to see if they get the same result. But I just repeat and spank and repeat and when he starts to hit i get a really stern voice and tell him it isnt nice to hit and if he does mommy will spank I do not just pop him on the behind I make it sting not to where it welts him but just lets him know. Now if I would have done that with my daughter maybe she would listen now

Abby - posted on 12/28/2009

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they say your kids do this cause they find it hard to communicate, so they bite n hit to get your attention. my second daughter used to do that all the time when she got angry, just pull them away from the situation and tell her that it hurts when u hit or bite n tell them to say sorry. they eventually grow out of it when they see that they dont have to do that to get what they want, but your child is far from the only one that does it.

Starlet M. - posted on 12/26/2009

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Well, Leslie, I hope u don't think tht this is cruel; hwever, I started biting my dghtr bak & she was startled @ 1st. :) Wen she did it again, I bit her again & she cried. It wasn't 2 long aftr tht tht she stopped biting. ♥

Becky - posted on 12/26/2009

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Pick the baby up and say no hitting or no biting and put the baby in the play pin every time for a moment they baby will be like okay if I do this I can not have fun.

Genevieve - posted on 12/25/2009

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Leslie
Tell him biting and hitting hurt in a firm voice.... and then show him something he can do when he is up set that will not hurt anyone. For example: tell him to use his words to say what he is anger about.
I think when we hit our child for everything or take things away... we as a mom teach them, if we can do it so can they! Don't get me wrong my kids have had there bottom smacked and things taken form time to time. But I use that when everything else has not worked. Best of luck ! :=)

Genevieve - posted on 12/25/2009

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Quoting Barb :

If my two year old hits or bites his sisters he gets a five minute or less time out in his crib till he's ready to say sorry to them.


Really you use the crib for time out?? Why .. is that not supose to be a place for them to sleep and feel safe. Not feel upset and cry?  At  two I thought we were only to put a child in a time out for one min.,, for every year they were old.. Did that change???

Tiffany - posted on 12/22/2009

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I agree with Lacey's comments. My son who is almost two when through an aggressive stage...more of grabbing toys from other kids or knocking them down to get something. He also is a love bitter. If I would see him bit his stuffed animals we would do an animal time out and say "only gentle, bitting hurts". I also spend a lot of time on the ground with my son. I really wish I could be one of those mom's who can stand around talking, but until this phase is over I would rather play it safe than be sorry. I also read a great book, 1, 2,3, magic. Just be super consistent and show your little guy lots of love.
Good luck!

Barb - posted on 12/22/2009

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If my two year old hits or bites his sisters he gets a five minute or less time out in his crib till he's ready to say sorry to them.

Lacey - posted on 12/22/2009

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Get down in front of her, hold her hands and look her in the eyes firmly and say "No Hit-Ouch, or No Bite-Ouch" Then reward her with compliments and praise when she does handle her aggressions in a healthier manner, and if you have to....take away something (a toy, stuffed animal, blanket, etc) that is her absolute favorite away-showing her and telling her that you are taking it away until she can be nice. Then hug her as much as you can when the fit throwing is over and tell her you like it when she hugs better than the hitting or bitting.

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for my son who is twenty months i tell him no no hit hit or no no kick kick an i do smack my childs hand an he was starting to hit an i just tell him no no hit hit only mommy hits an he stop once in a great while he might try to hit an i just simply tell him in a calm voice no no hit hit

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