How do all you moms of little ones feel about public school for PreK not sure if I want my son going

Leah - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )




Ive been a stay at home mom full time with my soon to be 4 year old in May and then in Aug he's suppost to be going to PreK but I'm just not sure if I want him in public schools just yet. I'm not a big fan of them period but know that I can't homeschool forever so I was considering taking him to a christian preK school or some kind of small school thats maybe only 4 hours a day or somthing. I just dont know if thats the write choice or if I'm overreacting. Just with the way the world is today I guess I'm just not ready to let my baby go :-(


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Jennifer - posted on 03/17/2010




Go with what you are comfortable doing. I would def check out all your options first. My daughter will be 5 soon and she's in her second year of pre-k. I put her in a public school but that was one of my only options for where I live. If it wasn't for my daughter being in pre-k I would not have found out how much she needed special attention in class. She also has a hard time interacting with other children at times and the school is working with her on that. Her classes are only half days Mon thru Fri. It helps put her on a schedual also cause she is ADHD and has behavirol problems. I wish you all the luck in your decision.

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I was a public school teacher. They're not all bad. =)

I would suggest setting an appointment with the principal and going to the school to observe a few classrooms. If you are uncomfortable with what you see, start searching for another school. You may be pleasantly surprised though!

I will say, I'm not totally comfortable with a four year old being at school all day. It seems like a lot. Personally, I'm looking into half day preschools for my daughter, but she will go to the local public school for kindergarten and beyond.

Miriam - posted on 03/15/2010




i was the same way about sending my kids to school. i used to say all the time that i was going to home school my kids. but i didnt and i am glad i didnt. my daughter is in kindergarten and my son is in half day preschool. and he loves it. i cried on there first day but it is wonderful. not only does it give me some alone time with my younger two kids but it gives them there little freedome too. :) he has made so many friends and lets not forget to mention that he has learned so much already. his speech has gotten so much better and we can be driving down the road and he will yell out letters or numbers that he sees. and i think that is wonderful. so good luck in what you decide to do.

Christy - posted on 03/15/2010




I don't think that it is essential for every child to go to preschool. If you really want to send yours go ahead and pick what you really want so that you will feel great about your decision and not second guess yourself. I personally home school my little girl, but she is very socialized. She takes gymnastics, plays soccer and softball, and attends church to be with other children and teachers. She is way ahead of her peers on most of the academic materials due to the one on one time she receives with me.

Robyn - posted on 03/15/2010




My son is attending his second year of HeadStart and next year will more than likely go to HeadStart and PreK. His birthday is after the cut-off date by 30 days so he will be the oldest in his class. He went to HeadStart before he should have only because he had a speech IEP. He just repeated the three year old program this year to get him on the right track. Next year it will be the 4 year old program in the morning then PreK in the public schools in the afternoon. My son is very social and needed the interaction that he wasn't getting at home. As an Early Childhood Educator, I am pro preK. I taught Kindergarten and it is harder on those that didn't have preK. PreK is mainly for the social aspect. They do learn some number and letters, colors and learn to recognize their names. Even the most educated Kindergartener can struggle if their social development is not up to par. PreK helps them to mature in a social setting. I would look around and take visits to any classes you are thinking about sending your child to. Visit the school, meet any faculty, see the classroom. Research the school even to see if they have had problems in the past. Then you can make an educated decision. But even then, if you can't let go yet, it won't matter.

Melissa - posted on 03/15/2010




In the community we just moved to parents are putting their kids in preschool at age 3. I personally, being a previous 2nd grade teacher, think its asinine! I don't know if its even a legal requirement for kids to have to attend kindergarden -probably depends on your state. I just wish kids could be kids. I think that some parents put their kids in preschool b/c its better than daycare. Socalization is great but it really doesn't need to start so soon. I say this only if your children have some social outlet like the park, playgroup, sundayschool. etc If you want to homeschool you can do it nowdays all the way through. They make it very parent friendly and you don't have to remember all your highschool pyhsics to teach kids. They do a lot of it v-web with web teachers. Anyways, I would recommend that you just keep Jr. at home since you aren't ready, and do educational activies here and there. You could ask the school what kids learn in prek and then make sure your children know waht they need to know before attending school. Its usally ABC, 1-10 etc Easy things to teach at home. Save your money and put them in a soccer league if you want socailization. It just seems to be a lot of running around to me!

Debra - posted on 03/15/2010




my son went to prek in a public school he could have learnd just as much at home but it did give a look at what to expect for kindergarden so it wasn't so scary or stressful for him

Valerie - posted on 03/15/2010




My daughter went to a public school preK. It was 5 days/week for about 4 hours/day. She absolutely loved it. But, we do live in a small town. I don't know how big your school is...that would make a difference for me. Her class had about 25-30 kids in it, with a teacher and 3 aides.

Rachel - posted on 03/15/2010




preschool is great my kid loves cus she gets to be with other kids plus shes learning i like cus i can either take a break or do housework without her under foot

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My older kids (21, 19 and 17) never attened pre-k or anything like that. Back then it really wasn't a normal thing to send kids, only if special needs. I taught them A, B, C's and numbers, colors etc at home. They were more than ready for kindergarten. My youngest is only 9 months. I am seriously considering home schooling him as the school systems have gotten worse and worse these days. It's an individual decision but to be honest, my older three did just fine with out pre school. All were or are currently honor students.

Sue - posted on 03/07/2010




I would go where you are more comfortable but I strongly advise that kids go to Pre K even if its part time. We were expecting our daughter to go into Pre K this year but because her birthday is during the summer and the cut off date for our district was October she got put in kindergarten. She is having trouble keeping up, absolutely loving it but she is behind. We've done an intervention meeting and having another in a few weeks to see how she has improved but thats a whole nother story that I wont go into. If I had the money I truly believe she would be in a private Christian school. I'm not impressed with certain members of her school .... the teachers are fabulous and one that spends a great deal of intervention teaching with her has discovered my concern which is encouraging but other members kinda leave me feeling out in the cold.

Brandy - posted on 03/07/2010





I have sent my three sons to pubilc schools for pre-k and I loved it ! My sons all enjoyed it and I think that it made them grow up alot too so that they were ready for kindergarden. I really loved it cause I got to be apart of there learning process as well, cause they were always asking for helpers in there school.

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That is a tough decision. My daughter turns 5 in May & I wanted so much to send her to Stillwater Christian School. Well, we can't afford it (even with the scholarship). So, we have no choice but to put her in a public school. I know I could not home school, it's just not in me. With her being in public school, I will make sure I'm on every committee they have, I will volunteer where ever, whenever I can. I will be so involved, that nothing will get past me. :-) At some point you have to just give it to God. Trust that He will take care of your children. ♥

Jessica - posted on 03/07/2010




It's hard to let them go to school when you've been home with them for so long. But, it is important for a kid to go to school - if you aren't going to homeschool, then you need to send him out in the world! A christian or private school might be a better choice since you aren't keen on public school.
My son is in kindergarten at public school and is doing great. He went to preschool, preK and they both really prepared him for kindergarten. Kindergarten is all day in my town and it's a hard adjustment to make. Kids need to know how to sit still and listen to the teacher and that's some of what they learn at preK.
Whatever route you choose will be the right one for your family!

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mine isn't at that age yet, but i think that it is essential for a child to go to pre-k or head start or whatever you want to call it...I know it's not easy to let your child go, but they need the interaction with other children their own age and need to know that they have some independence. If they have been with you the whole time and are used to having you around, they may not move on as much as they should and then it can turn into a co-dependence for your child which can hinder his or her development. Bottom line, mommies don't have to like letting their babies go, but they have to go to grow up and be productive members of society..but i know how u sympathies. I'm going to hate that too in about 3 1/2 years when she gets to that age...but i'll have to let go she can grow...then you'll be able to hear all the great things they are learning and how much fun they are having and it'll all be worth it to watch them grow...good luck...

Kristin - posted on 03/07/2010




Shop around. If you aren't comfortable with what is available(public or private), keep him home and arrange lots of playdates and playgroups. Too much structure can actually be detrimental to their development at this age. Go with your gut, kids are really adaptable and smart and catch up super quick. Good luck.

Marcy - posted on 03/07/2010




As long as he is up to date with all his fine motors and educational thing's it's your choice.

Carrie - posted on 03/05/2010




Hi Leah,

I know how you feel and I have SO been in your shoes! I didn't want my kids in public school, but we cannot afford private or Christian, and my son needed speech therapy. So he goes to public school preschool 3 days a week for 3 hours a day. He will be going next year too, to prepare him for speech. I was real apprehensive about it at first, but knew he needed his speech therapy. Let me just say, he has been going since October 2009 and he absolutley loves it! It has been so good for him to be around other kids. In preschool, there really is no curriculim you have to worry about, they mainly just learn hot to socialize with their peers and of course they have a meal and do different activities. This is your choice, but I suggest praying about it. I always remind myself that God watches over him even when I can't. Good luck! If you need anymore info, I'd be glad to share.

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You have to follow your instincts. Everyone feels differently about schooling their children. Don't worry about overreacting. It is your job to help them learn and grow, and to keep them safe. You are the one that has to live with the choices you make. Some areas have great public schools, but that is not the case everywhere. I will not send my kids to public school because of the discrimination against my religion. I attended Christian school for most of my schooling and had a very good experience with that. I homeschool my own children and plan to continue at least until high school. I get some criticism for that, but I am okay with it because I am the one that has to decide, not them.

Sarah - posted on 03/05/2010




I did a christian preschool for both of my kids. My church had the preschool program, so I never really debated if I was going to do public or not. Our school also has a preschool program and it is a good one. I did like that my kids were getting the Christian aspect in their teachings. Since we went to church there my kids felt very comfortable going and transitioned well.

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I have home schooled my son for preschool and 4k, he will be entering public school for 5k this fall. We purchased our home specifically so that he could go to good public schools (the schools just across town are horrible, and I would not feel comfortable leaving him there for any amount of time, much less all day).
So, it really depends on your area as to weather or not the public school system will be a good option. Tour the school and interview the principal and vice principal. Go to several PTO meetings and talk to the other parents who already have students there. You can also research schools online, there are several private agencies that grade and rate schools based on different criteria, so you can choose what is important to you, and pick the school accordingly. (Most districts will let you choose any school in your district if you register early and space is available. If you are too late though, you have to go to the school you are assigned to based on your address.)

Our district does not offer 4k to the public, so private or home school was our only option. I chose to home school. Academically, he is way ahead because they just pick stuff up faster when they are working one on one, but I have to put a lot of effort into making sure he socializes. We have Taekwondo, little league, playgroup, story time, library book club, and music class, so he ends up being in a group setting 12-15 hours a week (averaging 3-5 hours per day). The only thing I worry a little about is that he will have the exact same schedule 5 days a week when he starts 5k and I'm not sure if he will be bored with that. Right now, our weekly schedule is very consistent, but every day within the week is very different.

Jenn - posted on 03/05/2010




My personal thought is, people worry way too much about public schools. Kids in all schools will be good or bad - depends on the kid not the school they attend. My son will be going to public school for JK in the fall.

Sara - posted on 03/05/2010




My daughter attended our public school 4-K program last year. She went for 3 hours, Monday thru Thursday. It was perfect! She got the socialization that helped her succeed in kindergarten, and the challenges she needed with learning. I think she would have been bored with me trying to teach her at home while also raising her baby brother.
If you're uncomfortable with the idea of public, you can always request to visit so you can see a class in action. I think it was a fabulous choice for us. But each family is different, so you may want to go private. My daughter's class was actually held at the catholic school in our neighborhood. the 4K program was new and there just wasn't the space available in most of our public schools, so a lot of classrooms were "off site". So she was at the catholic school, but taught by a public school teacher and an aide.
She loved it, and it was a fantastic experience for our entire family!
good luck with your decision!

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i think that children need to go to pre school because it gets them ready for kindergarden but im kinda like you i wont just send my baby anywhere when he turns four an is ready to go my son is going to go to a cathliec school for pre school an kindergarden an he will keep going there if were not moved from were we live (i live in the fastest dying city in the usa so schools around here are horrible) an were not even cathliec but the school he is going to go is the best school were i live an i dont think your over reacting at all we live in a crazy crazy world

Crystal - posted on 03/05/2010




I think that young children really need the interaction with other children so that they can learn social skills that they wouldn't get from being home all the time. I like the homeschooling idea but when a few things got pointed out to me I really started thinking if it is a good idea or not.

1) Social skills need to be learned in early years

2) We are only human and even kids need to learn things on their own sometimes

3) We can't keep children sheltered from the world cause they are going to find things out sooner or later

4) Our best thing is teach or children the best we can at home and just hope that we teach them enough that when it comes their time to make a decision about something they have listened to us good enough to make good choices

5) We as parents need a little time by ourselves and sometimes that time is when our children are at school or daycare.

Now thinking about these I think every parent should decide if they want to put their child in public school, private school or just home school them.

We as parents are allowed to look in on our children no matter where they go and if it would help ease your mind tell whoever that's in charge that you may be doing so at any time (if that person wants you to let them know before you come in I would tell them NO because it is called a surprise visit for a reason). If you are thinking about a Christian school I say go for it.

Lisamarie81m - posted on 03/05/2010




Well I know it can be hard, I cried when I sent my oldest to pre K and when he went to Kindergarten, He is in 1st grade now. My 4 year old goes to school now too he is still a year away from kindergarten but he got in because of his speech, its 5 days a week for 2 1/2 hours.

I think it is good for children to go and be around other children. There is so much learning opportunities, how to share, listen, follow directions.

I think that kids should have at least a year of preschool or pre K before going into Kindergarten, but that is my opinion. I know if it wasn't free I would not be able to do it and I know not everyone has free pre-k. So I am lucky.

Just don't let your son see you upset about school you don't want to push your fears onto him.

I was a basket case when my oldest went to all day kindergarten, I called the teacher and met with her before school started I even cried when I was just talking to her on the phone. Anyway sorry about getting off topic.

Enroll him where you are comfortable, and even do 3 days a week if you want, it is just good to get them exposed so it is not total shock when they enter kindergarten

Joan - posted on 03/05/2010





i don't know how many kids you have ,but when i decided to send my son to preschool it was because i felt he needed the socializtion.he was like a little old man. if your afraid of public schools send him to a private school. i think the time away from mommy can be a very useful thing,because many kids don't think they can accomplish things without us.

good luck

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