how do i get her off of the pacifier?

Tamika - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )

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she really only uses it when she takes a nap or goes to bed, but i still want her to get off of it completly.

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Hope - posted on 03/18/2010

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When my soon to be 16 year old was a baby, my Grandaddy told me to use the Farmer's Almanac. Of course, I scoffed at him and taking her paci was the worst ordeal ever. Child 2 was a thumbsucker. Child 3? Loved that paci more than life itself. He was over 2 and I knew he really needed to get rid of it. My Grandaddy had passed away by then, but I consulted the Farmer's Almanac to see when the right to wean was. I took his paci on the date specified and braced myself for WW3. Not one problem. We were all shocked and amazed because this kid was beyond addicted to the paci. I have sworn by the Farmer's Almanac ever since and have had many friends use it with great success on potty training and weaning bottles and pacis! Good luck!

Heather - posted on 03/23/2010

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I cut the tops(nipples) of them off, did that on the bottles too and my son threw them away himself.

Alyssa - posted on 03/22/2010

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Get in the car take a drive with her and half way throught the drive take it away from her and throw it out the window and say its gone it went bye bye. It sounds mean but she ill forget about it. Let her cry and dont buy her another one.

Christy - posted on 03/17/2010

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Everyone in my family used to pick on my cousin because she sucked on a pacifier until she was 3. She was my grandfather's sidekick, and he was able to get her to stop cold turkey. He was coming to spend a week at my parents house and always brought her with him. But this time he told her if she wouldn't leave the paci, he wouldn't take her. She literally threw it in the direction of the trash and got in the car. I realize this is a special situation, but what I have learned is you can get them to do what ever you want if you know what they like.
I have seen trades work, where they get a new lovie to sleep with instead and things of that nature. I definitely would not wait. The earlier they let them go the better. It can ruin their teeth and oral development ( something about how the actual jaw and gums are shaped). Good luck. Also, they will miss it for a few days but don't be surprised when it is completely forgotten in 2 days. Kids are very resilient.

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Tia - posted on 03/23/2010

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my 2 year old had one til he was like 7 monthsbut on the other hand my 6 months little girl just stared taking one. the doctor told me that they will get off of it when they are ready

Cheraki - posted on 03/22/2010

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When we tried to break our youngest from it.. we tried once at Christmas and told her the baby reigndeer needed it because they didn't have one.. It worked with my husbands older kids but she was more stubborn.. We have family in another state and someone had gotten pregnant and I told her that the baby would be born and cry because it wouldn't have one and she was a big girl and would she please send it to the baby.. WE put it in an envelope and made out the address... Once she turned her head I hid the envelope and even I forgot about it....I had stuck it in a drawer...One day I seen it and threw it out.. She never asked for it again. Since Easter is coming up you can try the baby bunnies need one.. would she give them it... so they won't cry.

Good Luck and Best Wishes

Melissa - posted on 03/22/2010

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i put slits in the sides...that way she couldnt get the sucking comfort anymore...everntually after a few months we just said it was broken..and she was fine with that.

Lydia - posted on 03/22/2010

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My daughter was about 3 when hers casually disappeared! (daddy threw it away) but it worked I bought her a cute stuffed puppy to cuddle with..she was fine after a couple of days...of course she fussed but you need to be strong and not give in, it helped that I was mostly only giving it to her prior to for sleep only or really fussy moments.

Nadia - posted on 03/21/2010

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just stop giving it to her completly. explain to her that she is a big girl now and big girls dont need paci's. she is gng to fuss and throw a fit but you have to stay firm and not give in...because if u do give in, she's not going to take you seriously and it will be that much harder to wean her from it.

Alisha - posted on 03/21/2010

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Good Luck!! I am thankful none of my kids took a paci or sucked their thumb.. they've always gone for blankets and stuffed animals =)

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No offense taken at all Alisha! Ur right, there's no guarantee she won't suck her thumb as a toddler but so far so good.......she doesn't put her thumb in her mouth at all during the day and she only gets her sucky for naps and bedtime so I've got my fingers crossed......she's almost done teething and then we're gonna have a go at getting rid of it! Wish me luck!??

Cheers

Christina - posted on 03/21/2010

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i would try finding her another comfort like a blanket or cup my daughter still uses hers but only for bed to although i think i will b trying to get rid of soon to

Alisha - posted on 03/21/2010

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Dana -
I agree.. there are certain situations where a paci is better than other things a child could want.. definately thumb sucking is something you want to break before it gets to hard.. but once the paci is gone what's to stop them from sucking their thumb again?? I know a few babies who prefer the thumb over the paci, how would you break them of thumb sucking if giving them a paci didn't do the trick? It is a personal choice to not use them, and ann opinon that they don't 'need' to be used.. Please know I'm not trying to start a debate or any problems.. just using my freedom of speech (or typing, LOL)

Kimberly - posted on 03/21/2010

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Since Easter is coming why not try wrapping it up for the Easter Bunny so he can take it to another child and they she will get a big girl present for getting rid of it.

Megan - posted on 03/20/2010

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my daughter is 13 months and i took it away about a month ago. she was waking in the middle of the night and i was tired of the midnight searches. i did cold turkey starting with her naps. the first few days were rough, but we just let her cry it out. i suggest doing it over the weekend. but by monday she was sleeping thru the night like a pro and i was a better mommy since i was more rested. good luck!

Angela - posted on 03/20/2010

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Hey Tamika, my kids never took a pacifier, but I used the almanac to help me stop breast feeding & it worked. It helps with various issues. Check it out.

Carla - posted on 03/19/2010

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My son was one when we started wening him of the pacifier. I cut a little bit of the nipple off every couple of weeks. He finally threw it away one day when there was nothing else to put in his mouth. We also went out and bought him a stuffed animal of his choice to help replace the pacifier. He now has to have the stuffed animal to sleep with and when he doesn't feel good.

Katherine - posted on 03/19/2010

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Both of my children loved their pacifier, it was so hard to break that habit, but it is so bad for their teeth from a dental stand point, anyway you shouldn't cut the nipple and give it to the baby pieces can break off and then it becomes a choking hazard, my son would bite holes in his and we would have to toss them and get a new one, but when i felt it was time, and was tired of looking for lost pacifiers etc..., i talked to him in conversation he could understand and told him he was too big for it, and that it was yucky and i would say eww every time he would put it in his mouth and after about a week he threw it away, now he still cried for it some but after a few days every thing was o.k. yours will do fine too.

Melissa - posted on 03/19/2010

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I started weaning my son at 7 months. Cut back to only sleeping time. Then after a week or two, cut back to only bed time. then 8 1/2 months not at all. He is doing just fine without it. It takes a bit more to get him to sleep, but he sleeps much better at night now. I think that the younger the better. They don't 'need' it beyond infancy, but once they are old enough to know they have it they are not going to want to give it up.

TinaMarie - posted on 03/19/2010

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My Beth was 3 years old when we finally got it off her. We tried the pacifer fairy and everything. What finally worked for us is Santa! She wanted the really adorable Princess bike for Xmas so we worked a deal with the Santa at the mall and he told her if she left all the pacifiers she had on his plate with his milk and cookies then he would leave the bike. That night more pacifiers hit that plate than we knew existed. We don't know where half of them came from. That night she woke once and when the bike was there on Xmas morning she never asked for it again!

Tamesha - posted on 03/19/2010

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Well my kids where weened off the paci before they turned 1 1/2 years old and they were off the bottle before they turned one years old. I understand every child is different but its not that hard. I did it cold turkey with the paci. The key thing is that you have to replace what you take away. I tell my friends and family that all the time. You can't just take something away from the child no matter if its cold turkey or a liittle at a time you still have to replace it with something else. Whether it be soft music to play and whine them down at night or before nap time. Babies and toddlers have to learn how to soothe themselves to sleep with out using the paci. Find a favorite blanket or toy to replace it can help. But I agree some of the other posts, sucking on a thumb and paci too long is not healthy for the jaw and teeth development. My daughter tried the thumb for about a week but she stopped that quick. Some parents can't stand to see their kids cry but you have to understand kids cry for a reason and they get used to things that YOU do and give to them.

Cindy - posted on 03/19/2010

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A friend of mine started snipping the end of the pacifier with scissors. Because it felt different in her childs mouth about the third day after snipping it a little more her child handed it to the mom. the mom said "It's broken" and threw it away.
I wish I had thought of that!

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Hope: I can't wait to try.....

Alisha: I didn't necessarily agree with pacifiers but I just want to point out that for every negative there's a positive........my personal story.......I breastfed my daughter ( never introduced the pacifier ) until 6 months when her first tooth popped up........she had no interest in breastfeeding anymore and consequently had started sucking her thumb? What would you have done in my situation? I"m not upset with what you said because before my daughter started sucking her thumb I felt the same way as you, but, I feel like the soother is the lesser of two evils in my case.........thumb sucking is MUCH more detrimental to ur jaw development, teeth alignment and you can't take a thumb away! For the record, my daughter is 18 months and since she was 13 months she's only used it for naps and bedtime! I hope this doesn't come across harsh because it wasn't intended that way either.....I just want to know what you would have done in my situation?

Alisha - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think the best way to get rid of it is to not give it to your child in the first place.. I know I'm probably gonna get alot riff for that but that's just my opinion.. A baby cries for a reason, not to have something put in his mouth that he doesn't really need.. Pacifiers cause ear infections, can mess up a childs jaw and teeth when they are growing.. I understand that some babies like to 'suck' but it's still my opinion that pacifiers are just a way for moms to quiet their babies when there might be something else wrong. Pacifiers when used to early can also interfere with breastfeeding because of nipple confusion. Again like I said, this is just my opinion..

Destiny - posted on 03/18/2010

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a great way i have found to get them off the pacifier is to do the binky fairy... its really simple all you do is explain to them that other babies need them that dont have them and that she/he is a big kid now so they should share what they have with those that dont have. then either put the pacifiers with her in a large envelope and have them put it in the mail box before they go to bed then you take it out once they are asleep and switch the pacifiers for confetti and some small toys they will like to play with like little animals or something like that and put it back in the mail box and have them go out and check it when they wake up in the morning.. or you could tie them to balloons and send them off to the binky fairy that way just take them to the park and tell them if they send the balloons with the pacifiers to the binky fairy then in the morning they will find a surprise for them from the binky fairy.. its fun and they think they are doing something good for someone else and learn that if they have something they are to oold ofr or no longer need/use there are others that could use it..

Taralee - posted on 03/18/2010

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A cute idea is.....to have the "dummy" fairy come and exchange the dummy for a stuffie animal or something. Work up to this over a period of time. Make up your own story about the "dummy" fairy who is the sister of the tooth fairy...lol....and how they take the soother away when a baby becaomes a big kid....and leaves behind a big kid toy.

Janine - posted on 03/18/2010

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The easiest way.... Put a dab of the "biting nails" stuff on the tip of it.... the taste will stay in her mouth and the doctor gave the OK. In 1 day my son didn't want anything to do with his "binky".

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My 5 year old daughter still uses her binky sometimes. I tried taking it from her before because she mainly only used it for bed time & what happened was it caused her to not be able to sleep. Her binky is her security blanket & she is a nervous wreck without it. So I am going to let my daughter give it up on her own...she starts kindergarten in August, so I figure she will probably give it up completely then. A few suggestions though, you could try telling her that there are other babies in the world that really need a binky & that she is a big girl & doesn't need it anymore. She may be willing to let it go if she thinks that another baby is getting it. :)

Rachel - posted on 03/18/2010

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honestly there many things u can try the best one i find is when u take and make them throw it out and tell they r a big girl or boy and replace it with something else

Christina - posted on 03/18/2010

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When my Kids turned 2 I started weening them off it by only giving it to them at nap and bed time... after a couple weeks I took them all and threw them away and told them they are big now and don't need it anymore and gave them a stuffed animal to sleep with instead. They cried about it for about 2 nights and after that they totally forgot about it.

Alisha - posted on 03/17/2010

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OMG. . .my oldest was just 3 and my second almost 2. . i tried to get my oldest off first as my lil one wasn't really yet. . but i tried when she was just over 2 about 27 months. nope as it felt so bad how her sister got one and she didn't. . she didn't understand the age thing yet. so fromt then tell three i tried over and over but failed. the both also had a battle tell my oldest was like 32 months {blah} which i also tried. anyways we got ride of the bottles as we got them big girl beds so big girls don't use a bottle. . then it was the soother soon after. i got them to help me get them all ready to give to a baby { it also migth of helped i was pregnant with #3} and then i cut a couple and kept them they kinda asked a lil and i showed them the broken ones but also remind them that they were big girls. they would want to see the broken soother so i would let them. . my oldest hung on to one for about 2 days were my younger daughter didn't really care so much. with my son almost 5 months im goign to stop them at 1 yr on both. . wishing myself and you all luck :D

Kaela - posted on 03/17/2010

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I have friend whos lil girl had a dummy till she was 4 and the way she got her to stop her from haveing it was,she cut the end of it and every day she left it sitting around she would cut more off it till it was all gone and she didnt want it after that.

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My daughter's 18 months and still uses hers for naps and bedtime as well but I'm waiting until she's potty trained before I attempt to completely wean her! That being said, I've heard of people cutting off the nipple/tip and showing her that " IT'S BROKEN! "......I don't know how old ur daughter is but if she's old enuff try and explain that the ' sucky fairy ' came and took it OR explain to her that big girls don't use them and ask her if she'll throw it out?!! If you can get her to do it willingly I think that's ur best bet......she'll be proud and feel like SHE made the decision and hopefully won't look back!



Hope this helps?! Good luck, lemme know how it goes?

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